Ask Toi: My good friend is talking to a guy that I like

Good morning

Another addition to ask toi.  This one came late last night however a girl needed her rest so here we go.

You have a good girl friend that you had been friends with for almost 10 years.  I think that’s a beautiful thing.   You have a guy that you have been crushing on and now you are mad cause she’s crushing on the same guy. 

My question is did you share this crush with your friend? Sometimes we share with our girls and often times we dont.  If you didn’t share with her this new crush you can’t even be mad at her for liking this new guy. You can’t even hit me with the she should know either.  I do not buy into mind reading tactics not even with girlfriends.  All relationships require communication.

If she did know than we have an issue.  As a friend if I know that my girlfriend likes a guy it’s not customary to push up on that guy.  There are more in the sea for all of that.  I think that a conversation is to be had.  Sometimes as women we think that people know what we are doing and our intentions and that’s not always the case.

If your friend is truly a friend it’s customary to hash it out.  Be clear and let her speak as well.  You may come to find that miscommunication was the culprit.  Do not come off and accuse her of anything.  You can get more results with a calmer tone than coming off to your friend pointing fingers.

Good luck and let me know how it went!

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