It’s so easy to not pay attention to the ones around you. In my house growing up on Thanksgiving we would share with one another the things we are grateful for. In some larger families this could be awhile. It’s easy to get caught up in negative things about your spouse, you boo, whatever you call them.
Thanksgiving will be filled with many wonderful things other than a “Pattie Pie.” Take some time to appreciate the one you go to bed at night with. Most couples are doing what most people are doing and that’s sometimes strictly surviving. However as you’re looking around at the table, take the time to say I love you. Someone wishes they had your portion and you are too consumed with the negativity to appreciate it. Let’s do better!
If you’re a new couple it may come easy as with newness of the relationship may have you in that new glow. However I can remember the days when even in the newness of a relationship there were difficult times and a smile was hard. Think about the countless men and women who don’t have someone or lost someone. Sometimes we take for granted the simplicity of love. Love doesn’t mean the world will be okay. It does mean that your little world can be better. Why be with someone who all you do is complain about them and complain to others about them? This is craziness. If the love you claim you have is this hard, you might be in the wrong relationship. Yes relationships take work to keep sparks etc alive but if its hard for you to agree with someone every single day-you might need to re-evaluate things. Being in misery is not where it’s at.
This year write your mate a love letter and share before the day is done. If you’re not much of a writer, then gift a small trinket of appreciation. Sometimes maybe that smile that has been long gone will do as well. My husband and I used to split a piece of pie after the kids had gone to bed and cuddle. It was a small gesture but it meant the world. Nothing says love like sharing that last bite. Whatever you do, don’t leave your mate out. You can host the best party, serve the best cocktail and go to bed with an empty heart because your mate didn’t even say thank you. Don’t let that be you this year. Don’t let it happen. Show love. They say charity starts at home and it’s true, make it count this year with the one that you love.