I have to share a little battle with ya’ll. One because I need to get it off my chest and the other is because I just want to. I don’t get it. I have some really great friends. It’s the associates that sometimes misinterpret their place. For me the line is clear. If I am not the one to have you around my kids, most likely you are an associate. I take my kids and who they are around very seriously.
So I got 2 invitations to do some things this weekend. The one is from a friend. They are someone who knows how I am. Asks me and my husband at the same time and can be around my kids by themselves because the trust levels are high. The other is an associate. He or she has never been around my kids or in my home. That in itself speaks volumes. It’s the holidays so I am all for gathering together. It can be fun. However don’t pull a stunt telling me anything. I think it’s a glitch in how I work in general. Respect lines can’t get crossed with me. Once you do it’s an issue that I struggle with resolving. I am working on it which is why I also am direct. It helps people and myself to stay in a certain place. So as this associate told me she’s coming to my home. I wanted to verbally bury her. What house? Whose house? Clearly not mine. This is how it was worded: “hey girl I want to see you so I am coming to your house and if you could make me some dinner that would be good since I will be getting off of work late. How is 7?” So I stepped back mentally. Is this person joking. So I straight up asked. The associate said that they was tired and had me on their mind and knows I cook because of the kids. I was baffled. My best friend wouldn’t have even done that she would have at least asked. Word choice matters to me. I am quirky like that. Take it or leave it. However I barely know you. I barely see you. Catching up is a beautiful thing. How about set a date up and make it happen. This invite yourself thing doesn’t and will never work for me.
I kindly informed the associate that no they would not be coming to my home. They can’t simply invite themselves and it’s during the week which means we have a nightly routine that won’t be interrupted. I asked why they felt like they could be so intrusive. The response was because you seem like the person who wouldn’t care. I informed them that to come over unexpected especially during our week schedule to eat and we don’t have that type of relationship seems intrusive. I barely know this person’s last name. I also informed the associate that we should definitely have a built relationship before I start inviting them around my children. I didn’t mean any harm but I do NOT let random people around my children. Anybody I generally have around them are people who I have personally tested their spirits and are comfortable with. I don’t even allow certain people in my own family access to my children let alone someone who can’t vouch for.
The moral of the story is that some people believe they can occupy your space and they simply can’t. I am okay with backing people out of my space. We do not have drama in our home and if it is someone who I don’t know that is openly inviting the potential. My kids are very open and welcoming and I will not allow them to be tampered with in their spirits by anyone. Be careful who you invite in your space and their motives. This associate may turn into a great friend but until that day happens, back up.