Now I know some people are either on team resolutions or they feel like it’s the dumbest thing ever to do. With that being said, we still need to take the time to finish some loose ends. If you are against resolutions that’s fine but to be truly successful you must have the mindset of making goals even if its daily and making it happen. Nothing happens by accident. Things that you want and need out of life do not simply just fall out of the sky. You have to work hard. It has to be in your mind and heart and often times will need a little elbow grease to take off.
We just celebrated and are still celebrating the holidays. It’s also time to change focus. Yes the new year is coming, it comes the same time every year. What I have been doing is tying up loose ends of 2016. Making sure the things on my vision board that I actively been working towards achieving are all lined up. Checking over the family goals and seeing what I can put in place NOW not waiting until January 1st. Yes I know the new year is coming in a matter of days, but honestly the mindset for change has to be renewed daily. There is at least one thing that can be done daily to reach your attended goal. No one is perfect so that means with goals there is going to be good and bad days. The bad days aren’t the end all be all, failure is only when you don’t make any moves.
So what are you needing to clean up besides some holiday decorations? I am focusing on paperwork. I am a stickler for organization and to be honest its honestly just a down send when you have papers all over the place. It’s not necessarily a trait that my husband and I share. So often times it takes me going in and making sure things are very organized to get things done. I plan on making sure I know where I stand in the most important areas of life. Paper in the way is usually in the form of bills, or things for the kids. So my plan is to reorganize it all so a plan can be in force. You don’t know where to begin if you don’t know what is on the table to get done.
Another area that I am always tweaking is relationships. It is so much harder to navigate holding onto dead relationships. Regardless if its romantic or not, some things and people need to be let go. If the relationship is making you negative, hurt, or angry re-evaluate the level by which you have placed the importance. Sometimes we do things out of habit or comfort. Sometimes it may take you being uncomfortable to make change. When I was dating my husband in college he was my first. You couldn’t tell me there wasn’t another man greater than him. I wouldn’t have believed you. It had nothing to do with sex. I was totally infatuated with him. I wasn’t willing to see what was out there. The men that I dated after him became a comparison game. It wasn’t until I decided to knock this behavior off. How could I know for real if my ex-boyfriend was my dream guy if I wasn’t willing to take the breaks off and try. So I did. I can say that when my husband and I came back together this last time that it was because he was the ONE. I had to venture out and do some self-love, travel, enjoy my days of being single. I had to stop looking at being single as a death sentence. I met some great men that have and will make great husbands but they weren’t the one for me. Also dating even when you are wanting to settle down doesn’t have to be looking at everyone and evaluating when you will get proposed. I was never that extreme but there are some that first dates turn into interviews for rings. Stop. You put too much pressure and not able to find out all you need to know about a person. Do you know how many men are great for giving rings but it doesn’t mean they are the ones that make great husbands.
What about some of the bad habits. If you picked one bad habit to stop, that in itself can cause great change. We all know about the outward ones like bad eating habits, etc. They are great ones to change but the ones like lying, talking about folks in the name of prayer for my church babies, or keep up drama. These are the things that a lot harder to break especially if you have “always” indulged. However these bad habits evoke the most change. These changes help to place you in the right place in your life. These are the ones that make the difference in your life. Once you make several of these changes, it will bleed into other areas too. It changes how you respond to others, it causes you to definitely be more calm, and it in general will be the stopping place for why some people can’t excel. Take more inventory to your inward person when you keep trying your hand at positivity and it seems to not work.
As we embark soon on 2017, began now to put an action plan in place for your goals. Don’t just let this year come and go with the same excuses and lack of plan like in years past. Make the difference between a normal resolution and jump into life changes,