Yes its a late night. I finally got the toddler in her own bed. I have been doing bedtime boot camp so we can get some sleep around here. So I had a few seconds to go through my old journals. Let me say to anyone who writes in multiple journals as I do, be prepared for a flow of emotion. You should also have anything around you that evokes happiness because often times takin that walk back can cause such an array of emotions. For me I immediately go to music. For me music is all over the place. So I made a quick playlist to get through.
So while looking back I found a few things that are recurring themes. I am a very episodic person so when things hit the fan it reminds me of another similar situation. That can be dangerous if you’re not a solid person. I through counseling etc. have found the ability to go back without staying there. For some others the mind will allow you to stay stuck. Now back to the rewind, so I am in my journal and I come across a few entries that made me laugh. I thought to myself I am glad that whatever day that came into question I am super glad that all I had was paper and pen. Life is like that sometimes. It’s not perfect and wrapped up for show. Life sucks. Life is hard, but there’s always at least one thing to make you see the good in the world.
So if you’re struggling to see the good in life, it’s time to take a time out. It’s okay I promise to think of what YOU need. A big picture in that is to know who you are. As humans we change. We can be who we want. So if you don’t like something its okay to figure that out. So back to my journal, I curse in it, I can tell and feel the pain of my words. There are good days in there too. I love it all. I love seeing sides of myself that are real, raw and unedited. They are some of the best parts of me. It’s the struggle of my life that has produced some of the very best of me. The new feat for me is allowing others to see the happier side of me. That’s the craziest and most vulnerable part. Some people are super happy and cheerful naturally. I am more reserved and calculating. So unless I am in a truly comfortable place you see the closed off version of me.
This is the message of today. Maybe its just for me but I highly doubt it because when I get tried the most I know it’s for someone else. I know that telling on me and being open to whispers and talks that its super important not to erase the blog. That would be super easy. So as you start your week and you are looking for this great motivation from someone who appears to have it altogether please take the time to look in that mirror. The person in the mirror knows you more than anyone. The person in the mirror has a story that hasn’t been written yet. The person in the mirror has ALL that they need on the inside to make the life they want. No one on the outside of that mirror can stop the potential inside. So take a deep breath, wipe your tears, and stop letting fear stop you. The key is taking one step and not letting your emotions and head play with you. Your head plays with you way past when you allowed others to pull on you. So what is it that you want to see inside of you change? We all have desires on the outside that we want but there are a few things on the inside that have to take place to make room for the good. Take note of those inward changes first. If you are a miserable person, deal with that first. There is a source that although may look like is someone else’s fault shows where YOU have to do better.
Take that junk you are carrying and give it a name. Know what you have inside of you trust me others know that’s why they feel the need to call you out on it. Some people mean well but it’s always super easy to call someone to the rug but turn it around and call your own junk to the table and sort it. As you challenge yourself to deal with it, be sure to replace it with better. Replace it with the things that you need like joy, patience. This is not a cookie cutter plan. You will feel pain. You will feel like you are walking alone. You are. How many are assigned to the same pain? Not many. So if you’re waiting for your misery train to pull up they will but they usually come with some other bags that you and I know you can’t afford to travel with.
Wrap yourself with a better security blanket than the bad habits that no longer serve you. Love on yourself. That starts by speaking well of yourself. Not the whole I look a hot mess and then put pressure on a mate or a friend to hold you in higher regards that you won’t hold for yourself. Begin to watch what you say. Begin to care about what you put on, eat, drink, etc. Take some mental timeouts. There are times when I know I am being ambushed and I need a moment to gather my thoughts but because we live in a fast pace society I just keep on pushing. Pushes are good until you are being pushed into something you haven’t cleared in your heart.