First of all you have to ask him why he feels that way. There is a reason. If he doesn’t feel as if he is getting enough than maybe asking when you have special evenings is the reason. You will need to find out why. If the answer is lack of sex than what can you both work on to get to an acceptable level of sex for both of you. This theory that sex is only for men is played out. There’s no way you got married to have sex with one person forever and have it be with someone who isn’t willing to participate. That isn’t fair or reasonable. It sounds like to me that he didn’t know how to ask you for sex and had a bad case of delivery. This is common. He wants something but is attempting to find the words to say and figured he would say anything and he has failed miserably. Totally not right. Let him know how that made you feel. You are his wife, not someone he just met. We know how it was in the dating world when a woman ordered from one side of the menu that meant that man was “entitled” to sex. However on planet reality, that’s not how it works. If there is a man reading this sorry not sorry this is not how you get your lady, wife, girlfriend, etc to have sex with you
What you both need is romance and some intimacy that starts long before the bedroom and dates. What your husband said is not setting right with me. It’s too cold and to say that he won’t go out unless sex is on the menu too sound too pimpish to me. For instance what if you had a night planned and then during dinner your head hurts. Does he end the date? Does he not go out with you the next time? I have so many questions. Normally I would say be careful when you ask and not just because he came at you wrong but at this point its time for a reality check. So no tip toeing around this topic. You don’t have to be nasty but you do and will have to be assertive. He needs to know you aren’t playing games and the comment was the last time it is going to be tolerated. This give and take has to step up in a real way and it starts today. So yes you will have to address him head on. This will require you to speak up and be firm.
Marriage goes through many seasons. The one season we see the most is when both couples still get goosebumps on their arms when they see each other. Although that is super sweet and cute, the reality is that marriage is work. Marriage isn’t this lovey dovey feeling. Sometimes you want to knock the other person out but your general love and a night in jail stops you. Marriage can still be full of fire even when both or one of you are having a hard time but disrespect is never okay.
After you do, and you get to the bottom of it, this will tell you how to proceed. Do you both just like to be around each other? We all get sick of one another if we are real about marriage from time to time. This sounds like you have been elevated to a blow up doll and that is something I am sure you’re not. Do not let him treat you as such. You are his wife, an equal partner. Both of you need to step it up in the bedroom and establish what it means to be intimate with one another without it always having to involve sex. That is the biggest way to increase sex as well as love between a couple. Also something tells me that your biggest issues aren’t even in the bedroom but in the general notion of respect. Respect once lost is hard to get back but it can be brought back if both of you are willing to work at it. No respectable husband would even think to say this, think it yes, but say it hell naw.