If you follow me on Twitter and you should (Toitimeblog) I am really pushing others as well as myself to really think about what it is they need to make them see, feel and know that they are loved. This is the essence of self-care. Knowing you are loved and doing the things necessary for your love moves beyond waiting on someone else to love and pour into you. Whatever someone else does for you becomes a bonus instead of the only source.
So what can you do for self-care/self-love? The first thing you need to so is find out what you like and need. Do you really love flowers? Do you just need some me time? Do you need a little getaway? Are you trying to figure your life out and need inspiration or direction? Do you need walks to clear your mind? Whatever YOU need you need to find ways to pour into your own spirit. I know I have some single, dating, married, parents, etc readers. This means that all of our lives are being pulled in a million directions. It’s super easy to get caught up in making sure everyone around you is taking care of and less of a priority to make yourself your number one. However when you are attempting to balance your life you really have to learn that its okay to do so. Why do you feel that you can’t have the best love life of your life?
Self love is super important. So what does one do? After you figure out what you need you simply take some time out daily to complete it. Self love as I stated on Twitter isn’t just something you do on Sunday, after a break up, or every now and again. This is a daily venture. Everyday you should be doing something that uplifts your spirit. You should be buying yourself weekly flowers if you need it. You should be taking 15 minutes to pray or mediate. You should be reading a good book or magazine. You should be making a spa day at home because you need it. You should be finding ways to get the things you want by being creative. You should be doing all of this on a daily basis. It doesn’t have to be super expensive. Last Summer I took a beach day. It cost me a tank of gas, a few snacks, money for food, some adult music and sun screen. I plan to do this on my own this Summer as well. You want to go somewhere but you are balling on a budget, find deals. Research. Don’t look to always have an entourage. If you can’t go anywhere on your own you are going to have a hard time even in crowds too. Be self-sufficient and see what this world has to offer.
So I could give you self-care ideas but the ideal is for YOU to figure it out and do them. Yes on days when you are tired. Yes on days when you have had a bad day. Yes on days when you don’t want to be bothered. These are the best days to do them. You want to build a bank for the days when you aren’t feeling your best. You want a bank that you can draw from when you want to just snap out on everyone for everything and nothing at all. Are you worth it? Absolutely. Even if you think you aren’t trust me you are. Make your own days your best day.
Oh and lastly one of the best things you can do for yourself is to exercise that NO muscle. Sometimes you need to let folks NO you aren’t going to do and walk away. If you are grown you don’t always owe others an explanation. This way of thinking can be damaging. You are NEVER going to make others around you happy. They will never always like what you say or do. So stop doing back flips in the area of acceptance. You need to work on accepting you with all of the flaws you have. It’s okay we all have them. Embrace them but still love on yourself.