So the other day I was driving behind a jerk. I was on my way to work and I didn’t have my kids in the car which is a rarity in the morning. Usually when I have the kids in the car I usually do an out loud prayer to prevent me from using “adult words” in my kids’ presence and they get a kick out of it because they think I am trying to be a comedian and I’m really not.
So this day I was able to get my car washed before work and make a Wawa stop which for me is under a Starbucks stop and I am in a good mood. The man in front of me is going at least 15 mph in a 25. So at first I turn my music up and rock out until he is going several blocks looking back at me in his mirror. So the music is no longer loud to me because my focus was on the irritating man. I don’t want to tap into full road rage because in this day and time people are taking lives over this type of stuff. So a few deep breaths. Than at some point I lose it and I am hollering at the car. Why am I hollering as if this man can hear me? I am all in my feelings. The man sees it and drips down to 10mph. Everyone is beeping their horn but he’s smiling in his mirror seeing the agitation and getting off on it if you ask me. I couldn’t get around him at first. So I am like Toi, what are you doing? Don’t feed into his foolery. So I realize I can make a turn and get around him so I do. I turn on my Beyoncé and I get my smiles on because I know that its going to irk him to see me happy. It works, he is waving at me as I get around me all besides himself as he catches the light. I was able to get me together and not given into this brief encounter. There was a way out. There is always a way out when dealing with idiots. We don’t look for ways out we like to indulge into what jerks are doing. There’s a spot in us that likes to let others see that we are mad at them. To be real folks don’t care.
Don’t subscribe to their channel. When someone sees you are ruffled you let them know that you are irritated and what spot to keep hitting. Guess what? They keep hitting. Stop allowing people who do not matter to have a front row in your life. This is easier said than done but once you shut out the extra folks and their mess that they create you will notice a peace in your own life. Some baggage comes from our own minds, things we create, and some come from deposits that we allow others to drop off and then they walk away feeling fine and we are irritated, mad, sad, heated, and hateful. Drop folks and their stuff off with them and makes waves to secure your own peace. Peace is sometimes better than just having a solution to an issue. You can solve a problem and still have no peace. So today, to hell with a jerk…..