So the back history to this question is the reason given is that the bride and groom is over their numbers.
Let me give a sad face to the couple. Okay that’s all they get from me. I would not attend the wedding and forego the reception. I personally think it’s super tacky to invite someone, have them send in their reply card on time and then you send a letter about being uninvited. The reply card is exclusively for the reception. No one is charging per head to step in most public churches so this is about the reception per plate cost. Do I understand the expenses of weddings? Absolutely. There are so many that you love but just can’t accommodate. However have your final count before sending out the actual invitation. For me it’s as simple as not going and DEF no gift being sent. If you are planning a wedding please understand that this is the most tackiest thing you could do. It’s tacky even if you call your guests and try to explain BUT a letter is just plain craziness to me.
I’m not saying don’t be their friend or if they are family cut them off BUT you can best believe an invite for anything else going forward would be getting the side eye. Who does this type of craziness?