It would be nice if we lived in a world where we all could uplift one another. This is simply and unfortunately not the case. We live in the world where with the change in political climate we spend hours of a date arguing and tearing one another down. Even politics aside the nature of the human spirit is tested to do the right thing and help one another. Listen outside of religion and race we are do really share a lot of common experiences. Think about a new mom who is struggling with life for those first weeks. I don’t know a mom who either experienced or not doesn’t understand what that feels like. What about a new marriage? A couple unites and struggles with the fusing of this new life. This is a common experience.
We need to do a better job in uplifting one another not just when things go wrong like for instance the example of Hurricane Harvey. Although it’s a beautiful thing to see and is needed, we need to learn to not allow a disaster to come along and THEN we step up. We have a human right to extend the very best to our fellow sisters and brothers all around the world. Let me also put things into perspective. I have some folks that I have a general disdain. I do not like them, they do not like me, but I give them and anyonelse respect. I do not have to break bread with some folks to show respect. This costs me nothing. However at the end of the day if I was in a fire, or sick, or drowning would it matter at that moment who saved me? Most likely not. My disdain would only come into play when I can control the playing field. With that in mind, I try to make sure that although I may close the door of fellowship based upon personal experience with others that I do not do that with people who have done nothing to me. Meaning for some when they are hurt they take out on the rest of the world their pain. Pain is very overwhelming. However pain I am having with family doesn’t need to spill into my social life. It’s hard too when that pain resembles and is reminded. It’s like having a band-aid on and having it peeled off temporarily and the wound hasn’t healed.
I win when I show in spirit, thought, and deed in others’ winning with me or around me. I can’t tell you the countless times as a blogger that I have been asked questions about what to do in a situation. I am about to celebrate 3 years I don’t even consider myself to be the best, YET, but helping someone get to where I am in hopes that they take off with their site, makes me happy and fulfilled. Uplifting and wanting what’s best even for those that I may not know is important. To the ones I don’t vibe well with, I never practice ill will towards them. It’s a hard balance at times when you have been hurt but me holding onto hurt does nothing but brings me down. I am not perfect in that category but I am definitely working towards being a better version of myself. With this in mind, there may come a time when I get to a place where I can sit in their presence and enjoy it. I can sit in anyone’s presence when I have to and not let it get to me but to be willing to do so when I don’t have to is called personal choice. I feel that it shouldn’t be forced. It should be natural. I can be in a room and say hello, and keep it moving. However to be in the room and chat it up unnecessarily is a personal choice. I can uplift them and want what’s best for them without interacting outside of the need.
As I see stories of families, friends and strangers coming together during Harvey I am hoping that this continues to spread after the effects of Harvey dies. I hope this continues in how we interact with one another even on social media. I am a professional debater but I refuse to tear someone down just because we don’t agree. Now I may decide to keep it real and not interact with someone who I don’t have to, wish them well and move on but I am at a point that I am not going out of my way to be malicious. I am going to show support of who you are and your right to be who you are. No different from knowing a person who is nasty in their spirit. From a far I can not interact with you, show you respect, but make a personal choice that the vibes you send isn’t right for my spirit and not interact on a personal level. However I have no right to dislike you and treat you badly, and then say I am a positive person. Closing a door to a person who means you ill will doesn’t mean you are wishing them ill will either. You have a right to protect your spirit. You don’t have a right to be indirectly or directly mean and bash a person for being who they want to. So I pray for all of those who is reading this blog, that they would be in a place to deal with hurt but don’t continue to hurt others or tear them down. You have a responsibility to do the right thing towards even your enemies even when you choose to not interact with what they bring to your life.
I am practicing these things and I am constantly checking myself so that I don’t respond when it’s not pure in heart. I trust that even if I get it wrong that I can make it right by just doing what works for me and allowing others to do the same.