We live in an approval type world. We live for likes and shares. We live for someone to high-five our moves. There are times when this is just not necessary. There are times when this will not happen, what are you going to do? Cry and die because you don’t have a team of support behind you? Don’t get caught up in this approval world.
You are more than enough. Your voice is strong enough. Your more than capable of making a sound decision. You don’t have time to call in the troops to rally around you. You have to make decisions on your own as an adult and deal with whatever fall out that comes from that decision. So if you are in a hard place trying to figure some things out you have to find what is the best decision for YOU. Only you know what you want to accomplish in the end. Only you know what you need to do to get there.
Having friends are nice but not necessary in your decision-making process. You have to be very careful who you whisper your intentions and dreams. Everyone is not a friend. Life will weed out the good and the bad. You can’t think that all of your friends will mean you well. Never make a decision and get advice from someone who hasn’t walked your path. That’s like asking your unmarried friends advice for your marriage. They have clear perspective from only one sight: the what I would do sight. What one would do from the outside and that of someone on the inside is totally different perspective. You listening to your friend telling you to end their marriage while they have no one or are booed up with a joker makes no sense. Learn to weed out some of the advice you get. It’s like a couple in the middle of a divorce getting advice from someone in the honeymoon stage of their marriage. You haven’t had to fight long enough to know what its like to be ready to walk away. Learn not to cast your hopes in a group or a person. Make decisions for yourself.
Having family that love and support you is a beautiful thing. However you have to be able to think for yourself and not make decisions based on what your favorite aunt, cousin, mom, or grandma would do. Remember even in a family, everyone still has individual goals. Do you know that some people are so stuck on family that they can’t even make sound decisions on their own? Let me give you an example. A young couple gets married, the wife is so used to doing all that her family wants that when she is married she doesn’t learn to drop some of that dependence to her family. So when it’s time for her and her new husband to cleave, she doesn’t. She can’t go anywhere the family hasn’t approved. If her family says it’s not time for her and her husband to have a baby, she doesn’t. It causes issues in her own new family. Remember a married couple is their own family with or without kids. So now the marriage is tested because she needs the approval of her family and hasn’t managed to be her own person or to talk and listen to her new family’s needs. Family can’t dictate what happens in your home unless you allow it. Learn to hear God, and yourself first. Trust the process.
It’s so nice to have social media. It can bring some together. It can tear others apart. Do NOT allow what social media says to dictate your every move. Even for this blog I make sure I am grounded. I can’t make every blog fit everyone. It wasn’t made to. I can’t worry about likes or shares all the time. This blog wasn’t made for it. You have to be able to know whats for you and what’s not. Do not let social media be the source or be what dictates what you do or say. You do have to keep in mind audience but if you believe in it, speak it say it. However believe all the way about it. The reason is in this day and age, screen shots are too real. So before you go off on someone or something think to yourself is it worth me losing a job over, losing relationships with loved ones? If so do your thing but if not refrain. Do make sure you take breaks. Social media can be draining.
This Monday and everyday be clear on what it is YOU want. Make decisions based upon if you are comfortable. This goes for who you marry down to what you wear. People mean well that is at least what I tell myself when I deal with others but you have to live for yourself. Do not allow others to have a voice that is higher and stronger than the voice of God or what you feel inside of you. God has given us all discernment. Sometimes we do a great job listening and others times we do not. Trust the process. It will feel uncomfortable sometimes having to do somethings on your own. You were built for your life. This is why only certain trials that would take someone out doesn’t take you out. You were built to make it. You will make it. However do not allow others to come into your life and make decisions for you. I would rather fail at my own than try to live a life that is not in me to live to please others.