This is a trigger episode if you ever had or have currently postpartum depression. I am going to be super blunt today, I cried throughout the episode and let me tell you why:
- I dealt with postpartum after the birth of my son. I remember feeling like the biggest punk and failure because I couldn’t navigate through it.
- I felt isolated and therefore didn’t speak up to others not even my fiance at points throughout
- I had no support because especially in the black community black folks always talk that you gon be aight, go pray talk when real life ish is happening that takes prayer and action.
- I remember my mother in law being a huge trigger for me not because of her being mean but because of her personality and me not being strong enough to handle life at that time.
- Postpartum is real. It should be discussed without shame
- I still reach out to moms and new moms in my circle because suffering in silence is unacceptable
- Please show love to a mom and be understanding.
- Phrases of get over it, you need to go somewhere and rest, it ain’t that deep, or you just need to get it together will NOT help a mom going through postpartum
- Sometimes medicine is necessary
- Postpartum is not a weakness. Our bodies go through it during pregnancy and birth and its going to take some time to get through this new life.
- I do NOT allow people to make jokes of it. It’s not funny.
Blackish did their thing on that episode capturing what its like. I cursed almost exactly the same time I felt like Rainbow should have-watch it and you will see why. Blackish definitely made sure all of the pure emotion of what it’s like to go through postpartum was like. When I went through it, I felt like I couldn’t connect to my son. I felt like because I had more support with my oldest that when it came to my son I was doomed. I cried all the time. I blew up all the time. I was in rage a lot of the time. I threatened to call the police on my fiance many times. I had friends who saw me going through and talked about me like a dog instead of offering help. I had family who gave me the eye when they found out, BUT I got through it all. This very blog was created after I healed from that experience. It made me more aware of what I was capable of going through at the birth of my last daughter. It made me stronger in the end. It also is a good look for dads too. They need support. They need to know how to approach the conversation and how to support themselves, their families and their ladies as they navigate through all of the emotions good and bad that pregnancy and childbirth brings.
Here is more information about Postpartum
This episode regardless of the title of the show (I know it offends some right off the bat) is a MUST see for all!