Well let’s have a little talk about going after what you want. The other day I was leaving the gym and a man approached me and asked to take me to dinner. I politely declined. I didn’t need to make a scene. I told him no and didn’t put any effort to it. Did he know I was married yes. Is that disrespectful yes if I would have said yes certainly. The issue is that like he said so many married woman act single and miserable he had to shoot his shot. I know friends who would have made a scene. They would have gotten all extra and for what? I am a beautiful woman who has been shining on the inside so it’s showing up on my outside. It’s not the job of an outsider to keep my marriage its my own responsibility. So he shoot his shot and I politely declined and walked off. Simple. No drama. Just a no and walk away. FYI if that man hadn’t accepted the no then escalate. There is nothing in the marriage bible that says if a man approaches me that I must act like a circus animal because my ring will defend men from approaching. The ring is a first set of back up but it’s up to me to love my husband and take my vows serious enough to back a man up and give him no chance. Your ring is mostly as a reminder for you to never let anything break the circle of love between you and your mate. That is a free nugget. Too many times women get offended that a man had the nerve to approach you like that man owes you or your husband a thing. He doesn’t. You do, remember that? No different than a woman with your husband. If we remembered that then maybe we would put a few unfaithful men and women out instead of dealing with just the outsider alone. But that’s a blog for a different day.
In other areas of our life we have to shoot that shot. We have to be willing to go after things that we want. I am doing that more often. I am moving forward and not being afraid to say no or hear no. NO will not kill you. It will only break you if you allow it. I have been told no so many times that I just keep it moving. No can hurt. If you are really after something and it doesn’t seem to move at all, it will hurt. But no breaks those who allow it. In life you have to be strong. You can show emotions but never let anything make you quit. Fail while pursuing. So for the many areas of your life that is dying for you to shoot your shot, do it. Do not back down for any reason at all. Shoot that shot and make no apologies.
So what are you looking to shoot your shot? Is it in pursuit of your education? Go after it. Keep applying. Lock in financial aid. Do it!
Is it in a new job? Hey do it. The worst you will hear is a no. Always ask when you hear a no what you can do better the next time, in due time it will pay off. I have a friend I think it took 5 years to get into a position but they are in it. No will build you. No will make you who you were meant to be.
Is it in love? Then make yourself marketable. What are you doing for yourself that would attract this dreamy guy you want? Are you what you claim you want? You want an honest man, but won’t pay your bills thus making you a person who can’t be trusted in their finances. You want a lovable man, but will not show love. Everytime someone approaches if they can get past your mean demeanor you chew their head off. You want someone who is willing to travel but you have no passport or no passport stamps. How does that work again?
Shooting your shot, takes courage, work, and dedication. If you won’t dedicate yourself to yourself then you can’t expect anything else to attract to you either.