One of the greatest loves you will experience is that of being a mother. However this notion that unless you’re a mother you can’t ever attain to a pinnacle of love has to stop! Before being a mother or a wife I am a woman. A woman who has to be whole and healthy for any task that I may complete in life. Practicing self love is the catalyst for any success. Success is up to every person to obtain in their own right!
Often times you hear people talk about self-love and tell you that getting your nails and hair done is an example in how you practice it. It can be but there are plenty of women with bomb ass nails and hairstyles to envy, that simply are walking around hating their lives, their contributions to life, and how they express their love to themselves. So let’s be clear although the outward is a manifestation in how you feel it’s not the only indicator.
I was taught to keep myself together. However it didn’t matter when I was struggling with depression not only postpartum but other points of my life, I was drowning. Back to the motherhood plug. I finally realized selfless love being a mom. It was great. However when I lost myself who was there to help me? As a woman the only way I can be the best me is loving me. Taking time to get my life together has been the best thing that has helped me reach my greatest potential. I can’t maneuver in this world hating myself. I can’t maneuver in this world, not filling my personal cup. Love of self motivates me to look at the mirror and embrace my flaws. It wakes me up everyday to crush my goals. It gets me to work. It makes me to take care of me. It allows me to work out and to make better food choices. It pushes me to love my mate as myself on days when I question him due to being irritated. It pulls me from self loathe when I am not my best.
As a mom I’ve had to learn that loving me makes me a better mom! Although they have changed my life in ways I would never understand they are my life but not the only part of it. This is why women can be fulfilled because having children is a choice it’s not the ONLY choice and therefore this rhetoric of women only being women through childbirth has to stop! It’s an experience and one that not everyone has to have or wants to have. Ladies I would hope to encourage self love that makes you whatever your best is!!!
We celebrate so many loves this month. Do stop to celebrate you. Celebrate the love that you have within you that carries you everyday. As much as loving my kids have taught me and triggered me, the love for myself pushes me to my greatest sense of self!! Love yourself!