Monday Motivation: Adjust You Got This

Happy Monday to you. It’s another week to make things happen. Today focus on adjusting. If you deal or know someone with anxiety the one thing that can be a trigger is time. Adjusting to time can be a deal breaker depending on the situation. Adjusting is hard but you got this.

Adjusting may come in many forms. It could be being patient and calm to a child. It could be adjusting to the fact that the reality of a relationship has changed or ended. That is hard. We want things wrapped the way we want them. All of us do. We get used to how things are or were and then sometimes we get stuck. Get unstuck and adjust. You can’t have it your way all the time. Sometimes not adjusting causes more headache than it’s worth.

That isn’t to belittle your feelings in the least bit. That’s not how it works. Adjusting takes taking a deep breath and understanding. Simple understanding can be hard to come by but it’s necessary. Have you ever kept pushing an issue or situation because you won’t adjust? It gets worse. It gets harder. It gets even more difficult to recover. Don’t be the reason you stay in something that you needed to walk away longer than necessary. You can be your own problem. Adjust!

Start this Monday and find ways to adjust. You’re running late? I get it! Adjust so you’re not bringing an element into your day that makes it bad for you later in the day. You got this! Adjust!! A boss isn’t listening? Adjust it could be your approach. Your child isn’t doing well in school? Maybe an adjustment in work or how work is being done could fix things. Be open to adjustment. Adjusting is apart of adulting. You got this!!

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National Incredible Kid (s) Day

Today is National Incredible Kid (s) day. I happen to have 3 of the most incredible kids that I know. They are respectful, full of life, and they are mine.  I love them so much. Having kids has been an adventure. I have had to alter my life in ways I didn’t know I could. No one could have prepared me for motherhood. It comes with some highs and lows like when they are sick or in the hospital. I pray daily that I am giving what they need and more and not what I think they need. Each of my children are amazing in their own right.

Naila

My first-born holds the special place in my heart. She is the one who made me a mom. I have talked about her birth story before. I developed preeclamsia and had to be induced. When that didn’t work and my blood pressure was at an unhealthy level I had an emergency C-section and she was born 6 weeks early. Oh the fear in my mind but I tried all I could do to keep her in despite what was happening to me. The doctors told me if she comes out crying that would be one hurdle. She came out hollering. I was relieved. I didn’t get to spend too much time with her as they whisked her to ICU.  She was in NICU for one week. However I knew I had a fighter as they told me the more they tried to hook her up to cords, she pulled each and every one of them off. She is an amazing child. She is a big helper, she is courteous, loves to smile, never sees the bad in others, and she is an all around star.

Mj

My son. He probably was the least problematic pregnancy. He looked so much like his sister that for the first week I kept calling him his sister. He is an amazing boy who loves to ask questions. His heart is bigger than this world can contain. He loves the world. He loves Spider-Man, his god mother calls him Spidey. He is truly a smart remarkable young man. He does what you ask for the most part. He loves to know why things are the way they are. This has been a blessing and sometimes a headache.  I love the way his mind thinks. He loves rules and wants to be a police man this week. Last week he wanted to be Spider-Man. Whatever he chooses to do I will be there to support him. Mj is the type of child that you can count on to follow the rules.  He is an amazing soccer player too! As a boy he has my heart in ways I didn’t even imagine was possible.

Noelle

She is my firecracker. She has a personality like no other. She was my most clingy baby. She didn’t go to much of anyone at birth. It took her almost 2 years to become more social. She is excited to start Kindergarten next school year. In addition to that she flourishes the most when she is singing or dancing. I tell her you may be the next Beyoncé and her response is, Beyoncé can be my back up dancer. I love that she doesn’t just accept everything and everyone. She side eyes most people. Her intuition is spot on. I have never questioned her judgement because she certainly knows what is going on. She is a joy to be around but she has been deemed the “thug” of the family. That isn’t a negative word either. She can hold her own. I tell her she gets that from her great-grandmother, Earline mixed with them McGinnis genes it’s a wonder she is like she is. She most definitely the one that would show up to protect her older siblings without question.

I am more than blessed to have the best incredible kids call me mom. I hold that title with honor. I pray I am guiding them in the right ways. I do what I can to make sure they are prepared in this world. Everyday I tell them I love them. Every single day they hear words of affirmation from me and their dad. They know they are surrounded in love. I can’t help but be there for these 3 beautiful souls. Shout out to my 3 incredible kids!

Sunday Message: Give Up Cycle

There are many things in life that we all have to push through is not giving up.  It comes in cycles.  You get really motivated and if you’re not careful, you go into justifying why its okay and you will get back into a flow after a while. As time keeps going you fall off completely telling yourself the goal was necessary.  Such a harsh pattern to be in.

There are ways to get past.  One take your bigger goal and break it down into smaller goals.  This is a good way to get the motivation moving towards the goal of completion. With technology there’s no reason you can’t keep your goals in your mind, on your phone, and in your vision.  What are you doing daily to keep the goals fresh on your to do list?  I usually look at my vision board that I took a picture of and attack one thing in each category that will get me to the finish line. How can I be productive?  How can I use that idle scrolling on social media time to push me to better limits?  This is the mindset to have daily.

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Failure is a apart of life.  We win and lose at variations. Failure hurts. Failure burns.  Failure is embarrassing.  Some of my most humbling failures still make me emotional but I know it is necessary for my story down the line. Consistency is necessary and staying the course comes from not getting stuck in the giving up cycle, where we let the human part of justifying why we fell off and staying in that part of cycle stalls our progress. Think about it in simple ways.  If you ask a kid why they did something they most likely squirm making up excuses that don’t make sense. That is how we look in the mirror of life using excuses like “not having enough money,” “too tired,” “not strong enough,” etc. Meanwhile those who have less than us take the same excuses we sell ourselves in their watered down versions and make magic.

Giving up cycle comes to all of us.  Just because you see someone have a different level of success than her, stop focusing on that.  Focus on how you can take charge of your areas, stay out of the giving up cycle and  find ways to rise above it.  Life is already going to deal its own cards, why add onto it by sabotaging yourself. Start this week writing down what you want to do to be successful on your own terms.  How will you make it happen? Focus on that this week not the small failures you may have experienced this past week.  It will only keep you on the hamster wheel and not much will happen there.

Wake up.

Make that list.

Make a plan for that list.

Find joy in the midst of pain.

Make this week better than last week!

You got this!

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Women History Month: Tameeka W. and Kenisha W.C.

Being in business for yourself is really the way to go.  You can be your own boss, set your own goals, and manage your life better than having to work for someone else. One of the greatest things about being in business is that everyone always sees the finished products. They never pay attention to the time where you missed family time, you don’t get paperwork correct, the blood sweat and tears, etc. It takes dedication to accomplish goals. With that being said, let’s talk to Tameeka W.; CEO of Right Way Home Care Services  and  Kenisha W.C; COO as they are opening up their own home care business.  I know that for me one of the greatest challenges can be having to find someone to assist in the caring of your loved one when they aren’t able do to do so. When my mother in law couldn’t care for herself the biggest issue was in how to maintain working, and being there for her everyday needs. We had to make the unfortunate decision to move her out of her home because we weren’t familiar with home care services that could have been available to assist. Thanks to Right Way Home Care Services another family will have the peace of mind that we didn’t.

What was your reason with opening Home Care Business?

We wanted to start the Home Care Business because of our personal and employment experiences. We both have a passion for helping people.

I (Tameeka) was a care giver during college before obtaining my Bachelor’s Degree in Social Work. My mother in law has Home Care that comes to her home and assist her with her needs. Watching the other companies and how they operated I decided to open my own business. My goal is to operate differently from the other companies that have been working with my family. This is when I introduced the Home Care business to my sister Keneisha who is a CNA to be and my business partner.

Keneisha has been a caregiver since she was 17 years old. When I introduced the idea of opening up a Home Care Agency she was excited and on board. With her experience as a CNA and my Social Work background I knew this would be a successful venture.

Have there been any failures with opening up a business or any failures that opened the door to success that you want to highlight?

One difficult time that we had with starting our business is obtaining our license. The first time we sent it out it was returned with more items needed. We had to do more research and get assistance from our consultant to send out the correction information. After further assistance, research, and hard work we were able to obtain our license.

Anyone who has ever had to be licensed or is thinking about being licensed should know there are strict guidelines in what is and what’s not accepted. So if you can get someone in the business that can assist you into making thing run smoothly for yourself.

What is the one thing you want to tell your younger self?

One thing that we would tell our younger self is to stay true to yourself. A woman should never let anyone distract them from achieving their goals. Everyone is not going to have your best interest at heart, but you have to persevere through the adversity to be successful.

Knowing who is in your corner and who isn’t important.  It’s one of the hardest lessons because everyone who has had longevity with you doesn’t mean they always make the final cut in your life. Be careful in making sure you can clearly see someone and listen to those around you.

How can women be champions through mistakes?

Women can be champions through their mistakes by learning from them. Women should understand that one mistake does not define them. They can either let that mistake break them or make them. It is important to sit back and evaluate the mistake and set goals to grow from the mistake. There is always room to be successful we just have to be motivated and work hard for the success.

Tell us in detail all we need to know about your business.

Right Way Home Care provides Non-Medical Home Care Services. The services that we provide but are not limited are personal care (bathing, dressing), ADL’s, Light House Keeping, Transportation to Medical Appointments or the Grocery Store, Medication Reminders, and Respite Care.

What are 3 goals you are actively working on and how will you achieve them?

The three goals that we are working on are introducing Right Way Home Care to the community, Becoming experts in the business, and obtaining consumers. We will achieve these goals by introducing the business at our event. We will be having a Grand Opening Celebration on May 18th. After the Grand Opening we will be open for service. We will attend conference and trainings to help us become experts in our business. Last, to achieve the third goal we will be doing marketing on Social Medial, in nursing facilities, hospitals, adult day care, and other locations.

 

Follow them on Facebook to obtain more information for the grand opening

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Right Way Home Care is located in Lancaster, PA

Their website is Right Way Home Care

You can follow them on Facebook

You can also find them on Instagram

Continued blessings to you both as you enter this new chapter of your lives. I pray that when someone needs assistance for their loved ones that they give you that call. There is honor in caring for those who have cared for so many of us all of their lives. I wish you both nothing but success.

tammeka

Tameeka Way, CEO of Right Way Home Care Services

Kenisha

Kenisha Wright-Carter, COO of Right Way Home Care Services

Women History Month: Deja E.

This year we are talking about failure.  Why? We all experience it but rarely talk about it. Yet failure is the one catalyst that often brings success. It doesn’t mean that you HAVE to fail to succeed but in life if you think you won’t ever fail towards success you have a lot of life to reach it. I remember being in freshman year and failing a math test and how devastated. I was used to getting all A’s. I needed that fall from grace to help me not take college life for granted and get focused. I ended have to really work my butt off but I still graduated and that failure wasn’t on my record because I had to retake the class and get it right.  Now fast forward to stubbornness.  That in itself can be a lesson. Women have all had at least one or more failures in life. If you’re like me you have way more than you can ever count.  However if we are to carve a slice of life in this world and continue to make history in this world, failure is a by-product.

Failure to listen to your body will either make you sicker or take time off of your life. Deja learned how not taking head to the doctors and your body will put a pause in your life that you can avoid.

What is one failure you are comfortable sharing that taught you the most lessons?

Procrastinating on my temporal lobectomy. In 2006, I began having uncontrollable seizures and was diagnosed with epilepsy. After seeing numerous specialists, it was recommended that I have my temporal lobe removed. I was scared and prayed for other solutions. As my quality of life deteriorated, I began to realize that pushing the surgery off was worse than undergoing surgery. In 2014, I did it! And my seizures ended.

I can’t imagine fully what it was like going through seizures. I also can’t imagine being told to have such an intensive surgery either. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is the very thing that you need. If it hadn’t been for that surgery who knows what your quality of life would have been.  Yes procrastination is a failure because in that you fail to make a move it usually has a domino effect.

From that or any failure, what other lesson have you learned?

YOLO… you only live once
Dont risk losing time out of stubbornness

YOLO or you only live once means just like it sounds. Living requires stepping out of your comfort zone to carve the life you really want to live.  It doesn’t mean you can yell YOLO and life is perfect. Far from it.  However if you learn to apply that mentality you stop worrying about taking a chance on things especially yourself.

What are is the 3 things you would want to tell other younger woman in regards to lessons learned?

Trust your intuition… it doesn’t lie
Dont compare- this is your life, live it how u want to, not based on someone else’s
Take care of yourself- life can change in a blink of an eye, make sure you are on your A-Game

If you could sit down with any woman past or present who would it be and why?

Maya Angelou
Her wisdom and eloquence would have me mesmerized! She went through so many ups and downs in her lifetime, I would love to hear her story up close and personal. What an inspiration!

I would have to agree, Maya Angelou defied what life threw her way, made mistakes and then taught us all how to rise above anything. Deja you are a Maya Angelou in your own right!

IF you have any projects  that are coming up in the future what are they?

Everyday is a project
My 2019 ‘project’ is to lay a new brick everyday. Take that extra step, step outside comfort zones, and reach higher
That in itself is a project

She is being truly modest. Deja is a beast everyday eating better and working out being her best version.  She is definitely an inspiration.  When you get that second chance at life and I know all about that, take it. Live each day like you want that day to reflect your true essence.

What is the one thing as a woman that has helped or helps you make your mark in this world?

Strength!!! So often, women are perceived as weak or incompetent. Being able to prove the naysayers wrong is empowering

Thank you Deja. You are an inspiration. Don’t take your health for granted. Get your check ups.  Its important. Health is wealth.  Without being healthy you can’t do much else. Who would want to live like that? Certainly not me and you don’t want to either. I know sometimes we think that because we are afraid of what we will find that its better to not know. What you don’t know will kill you.  What you know and fail to take care of will kill you too. Take care of you. Women fail everyday but one thing is we don’t have the time to stay there. Get up, brush yourself up, and succeed.

Monday Motivation: Starting Fresh

It’s a new month and with that it’s time to start fresh. I believe in resetting or resifting the mindset as often as possible. It’s necessary to completing goals.

So now that we are in the last month of the 1st quarter of the year, being realistic about your goals and figuring out which ones need to be tweaked is important. Also realizing that not all of your goals have to be crushed right away. If your goal was a better credit score, it’s going to take time to fix it. Keep your goals aligned so that the very goal doesn’t stress you while you complete them.

Keep in mind too this is not about not actively working towards your goal and then shifting them to the end of next year either. Acknowledge when you’re just not as motivated and do something about it. Every day I look at my vision board and find something to do in each category that will help me complete that goal. Everyday! Small tasks add up quickly. Being a proactive participant in your life separates those who just hope alone and those who work towards goals. Nothing will simply fall into your life.

You have to be determined to work hard. You have to be determined to make mistakes but quickly get up. The longer you sit in self-pity the longer it takes you to crush your goal. Your energy could be spent on important factors in place of wallowing in defeat. It takes minutes, days, months, and years off of your time!!

Start today with a new reassurance inside of you to finish what you started. To push out defeat. To make life happen even in the midst of a setback. Setbacks happen to all of us. How you push past it is what defines you! Start fresh today but crush your goals!

Bob: A Life in Five Acts

I had the opportunity to attend Bob: A Life in Five Acts on Saturday and it was a phenomenal comedic play. Bob is wondering various parts of America trying to be a “Great Man” he encounters many relationships that ultimately brings him to discovering he’s never alone. This play is written by Peter Sinn Nachtrieb and directed by Michael Osinski.

This comedic play is definitely worth going out to see. One it’s incredibly funny mixing a lot of pop art, music, dance, etc. to the stage. Bob who starts his life literally in a White Castle bathroom is born into a traumatic hardship. We see that just like in real life, hardships don’t have to define us and along the way he learns a lot about what it means to thrive, what’s important, and how separation can create hope.

A word to the wise because it is comedic I would come in with an open mind. This is not the play to bring a child as there are scenes that may not be suitable for a young audience. The play is interactive meaning I found myself openly reacting with the characters. I found myself thinking about what life was like if I felt abandoned and how would I respond. Would I be able to be positive in a negative world? Isn’t that our fight daily? We have to take the good with the bad and know that even when we have hit rock bottom, we are still connected.

How the tables turn and the paths cross for Bob during his journey was illustrated colorfully. I enjoyed watching Bob interact during the various stages he made until adulthood. How his life was somber as a child although he had to deal with events most kids today don’t readily have to deal with.

During stage plays it’s always amazing to watch not just for meaning but how interactive the characters seem to be with one another. The best productions come from the closest cast members. This was no different. Even after the play during the reception, you can see that not only had they come together simply to put Bob on, they were definitely a family. Shout out to the play for having one of most diverse cast I’ve seen in quite some time.

Here’s how you can come and not just watch, but be apart of the production:

Bob: A Life in Five Acts will be showing until March 27, 2019. All shows are pay what you decide. This means you pay after the show according to what you feel, can afford or feel led. I would encourage you to attend and definitely donate and give. It makes for a great date night to do something different and get out in Philly. It also makes for a great group trip as well.

It’s performance is at the Proscenium Theatre, 302 S. Hicks Street, Philadelphia PA

You can reserve your tickets Here

Please arrive early as you will not be able to be let in during the performance and the production is about 130 minutes with one 10 minute intermission. There are drinks available for purchase before the show and during intermission.

Cast:

Paul Harrold as Bob

Dan D’Albis as Chorus

Frank Jimenez as Chorus

Claris Park as Chorus

Sabriaya Shipley as Chorus

Special thanks to the amazing cast and production members, Azuka Theatre, Kevin Glaccum, producing artistic Director, Harmelin Media, production sponsor, Two Roads Brewing company for sponsoring the reception drinks, and all the donors both foundation, corporate and individuals!