Moshulu Serves with Elegance

I had the opportunity to dine at the Moshulu. If you have been before they have newly renovated and the space is pure elegance. I love the menu as well so we are going to dive in!

If you caught my blog on The Deck back in the Summer than you know just how amazing the Moshulu really is. Their signature cocktails should definitely be on your list. I recommend the Moshulu for a great after work change of pace for happy hour. Nothing and I mean nothing beats seeing the skyline of the city while you dine. The Moshulu is also a great place to have a date night. The ambiance is a perfect backdrop to gaze into your lovers eye! No boo? No problem grab some friends or loved ones and make it as big or as small as you would like. Can we check out this scenery?

You and your guests will be mesmerized by the hand carved fish that floats almost on top of you…

Who doesn’t love a good bar? Whatever your poison you can find it here at the Moshulu! Your bartender will make you a request from the menu or they can work a special request as well!

Now let’s talk about food! I started my night by getting the Tempura Lobster Sushi Roll. The very first time I had sushi was at the Deck which is adjacent to the Moshulu. So to have the Lobster sushi roll was pure amazement!

My friend for the evening Josephine has the Lamb meatballs. I tried a piece of that as well. It was juicy and moist! It was paired with bread.

I love a great drink and the Moshulu didn’t disappoint! I had the Princess Peach which was made with faber citrus, vodka, St. Germain, cranberry, peach, lime and sparking wine! My girl has a Mangojito! The Mangojito is made with Bacardi lime Rum, mango, agave, lime, mint, and soda.

Don’t let these pretty drinks fool you! They come with a powerful punch!

For my entree I had the Salmon! It was super tender and delicious. I mean no knife needed! It was served with a sweet potato puree underneath with peas, carrots, and quinoa! The taste of all of it together was amazing! I’m talking about tap your toes good!!

My girl had the Roasted Chicken Breast. It’s normally served with a mushroom leek bread pudding, Brussels sprouts, golden raisins and apples. She substituted with mashed potatoes and asparagus.

If you can squeeze in dessert you should! I opted for the key lime cheesecake. It was decadent! It was flavorful but not too sweet. It was absolutely perfect!

My girl had a chocolate cake!! I wasn’t ready for the largeness of this slice I’m warning you this is a take home slice! It’s not for the faint of heart! When the Moshulu says chocolate cake they mean chocolate cake!

So we have great food, and amazing ambiance but what about service?

I have to shout out Emi! She by far made my night wonderful. Not only is she knowledgeable about the menu but she showed so much patience. No time did my water go low. When we went from each course they boxed our food immediately. I’m talking about you blink and the food came. We weren’t rushed! I was asked when I wanted my next course. If there is any other restaurants reading this-this is where customer service of Moshulu excels. I watched how every patron was handled and we were all handled with care. I would give them more than 2 thumbs up!! I would borrow some things it was that good!!

Thank you to Moshulu for hosting me and thank you to Jami for setting this up! I can’t wait to go back. I think a holiday gathering would be the move!! Consider hosting your next gathering at the Moshulu and have an experience of a lifetime!! See the Moshulu’s holiday schedule here! Also management is superior to none! They didn’t do a one time walk through asking about your time but I witnessed them stepping in and even serving. That means a lot. No one is above another and the emphasis being on the customer!!

Well if you attend make sure tag me as I would like to see the fun you’re having. The Moshulu also offers brunch so there’s no excuse not to come and enjoy and make memories!

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Wilma Theatre Presents Dance Nation

The amount of energy that I felt the second that I walked in…I’m talking about the type where your head and body is moving in-sync and the vibes are out of this world type night. Dance Nation is a get out of your seat ball of fun from start to finish. Dance Nation is a hit!

If you can sit and not laugh you can’t be human! Dance Nation takes on what it’s like to be a dance phenomenon as a young impressionable young person. They deal exclusively and attack such topics as suicide, people pleasing, dance ethic, feminism, periods, body image, self confidence and they do it with grace. This speaks to everyone on what it’s like to be a young person and have stressors on your life in order to compete. This is definitely about celebrating girl power!!!!!!!

What would you tell your 12 year old self if you could send him/her a message? I know I would tell her to be herself and relax. That grades are great but balance is better. To have friends and be a leader. As a young person’s body and mind grows they are inundated with this overload of information of what we should do or be. Sometimes that pressure is great and other times it’s too much!

I absolutely loved Dance Nation. There are moments of brief nudity and suggestive language as well as dark themes. To be offended by these themes is not understanding the complexity of what our young people face daily. Competition only magnifies the dire state of what it means to do what you love or push yourself into overload trying.

I knew from the opening act that this was going to be a ride. I was right! I enjoyed the intensity of the acting. The ability for the actors/actresses of Dance Nation to draw each member of the audience in. I didn’t want to look away. Dance Nation takes it there!

The entire night was so much fun. Since I attended the opening night I enjoyed the reception. I also enjoyed how they kept it in theme. From the candy display to the dance room with drinks I couldn’t sleep right away even after I got home. I wanted to dance and sing all night!! I felt empowered and as a mother I felt like I had more work to do to help my daughters.

They might not want to be like the Dance Moms show as the play was loosely based on but they definitely need to own her body, exude confidence, learn to find their passions beyond believing that they need to do what others including me what them to do and to be clear in what it means to balance passions.

Thank you to The Wilma Theatre for inviting me but also for the most beautiful reception. You’re staff knows how to welcome your patrons!

Monday Motivation: Create your Passions

I find it amazing to see people who don’t have perfect worlds but do all they can to create their own happiness and lanes where they have complete control to be above situations. Creating new waves or lanes. Sometimes the best treasures come from people who just create even when they don’t have all of the right equipment but start anyway and improve along the way!

Not everyone has clear pathways of creativity but in some forms can work towards it. If you are a writer find a way to use creativity and write. I’ve been a writer for most of my life. Blogging is a way to utilize my creativity. Owning my blog page is the way to have complete creative control on what is written. When I first began I had one of the free sites. However with me owning the blog I don’t have limitations on space as I’ve written over 1000 blogs in 4 years. I don’t have limitations on what I choose to write either.

No different if you have a gift like hair braiding or public speaking these are things you can utilize to find a way to own your gifts and monetize it in some way. I have friends who can bake better than most and they are using their gifts to make money and do what they love. It doesn’t matter the age, young folks have tapped into a market of their own. You have to be able to find or create your own lane. If a market doesn’t exist you can always kick in the door and create one too.

I know that the way this world is set up it’s always good to have talents and gifts to use. Ownership is the key and yet you can work a full time or part time to finance your dreams at the same time. Anything you do is going to require consistency and hard work. It’s not always pretty when the plan comes together but there are moments when you try something-fail. Initiate something-fail. Get a good run-fail. Have backing-fail. Have support-fail. But with all great plans comes rejection and sometimes failure.

When I first blogged, I had people coming to me: oh you misspelled a word. I would change it. I never got mad but I still noticed when I would have people say maybe this isn’t your thing? Maybe you could find another channel of communication. I never let them stop me no matter how irritated I was. It could have been a fail the first year had I listened. When I stepped out from trying to be so perfect it naturally on its own popped! It doesn’t matter if I blog in my natural voice meaning blog it straight up no chaser or I tap into my years of writing and give it to proper. My goal is to be authentic to have life moves.

Did you know that even though I get invited to the table to attend events and go places that gets me around the right crowds I still get family members who say, “oh why did they choose you?” I’m like what? Now when they have high moments I’m supposed to rally behind them and celebrate their moments?! That’s the frustration of doing what you love. When it doesn’t benefit someone else but they see you pushing through it’s “what makes you so great.” However do something where you can help another person and then it’s “hey let me tag along.” “How much did you get paid.”

Creativity also means that you need to always have built in self care. It’s a lot of movement to step out and make things work. While you’re making it all work, you can get caught up. Having support and doing as much self care will be vital as your gift “makes room for you.” Meaning your gift is natural and often times gets the attention of those around you. Staying centered and utilizing discernment is vital!

What did you always want to do but haven’t? What do you want to create but you waiting a thousand years to do? What are you naturally a star in? Who has done it before you that can mentor you? Are you daily doing one thing in the gifts you have? What are you willing to sacrifice to get it? How bad do you want it?

Answer these questions and leap today! Leap and work! Leap and be prepared to lose somethings you probably needed to give up but wouldn’t. Leap and let the love of your gift carry you. Take breaks when necessary and practice self care, but leap!

31 Days and Change is Coming!

Well I hate to be the bearer of bad news or good news depending on how you see it, but a new Year is coming soon.  I know everyone will wait until after Christmas to start their new me, new this and that but wouldn’t be nice to do things a different this year?

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Instead of waiting, actually put an action plan in place.  How many years have gone by and you say the generic I want to do (insert desire) but you say it but don’t make a sure plan to do it?  I am sure quite a few.  It’s time to change that mentality and actually make a real plan.  Get things in order.  Get your house which can be the place you lay your head as well as your personal house the place where your soul and heart dwells together too.

Either way its time to do and not just talk.  I am serious.  Anything worth having is worth some work.  I know we are used to instant.  We want an update, instant.  We want food, drive through-instant.  We want to shop-instant.  Now you can shop without even having to get out of your car to pick it up.  We are used to the right now.  Let’s take that same mentality and put some action behind it.  For my house we do a vision board party.  We go and get some supplies, use my old magazines and get it done.  Some people are visual like me and it helps to see what I need to do.  So for instance my house has their vision boards in their rooms.  So we look at it often and talk about what we can do to complete a certain goal.  We have completed quite a few individually and collectively.  Yes the kids have their own too.  Now for them it may seem more of an art project, but can you imagine them getting in their spirit now how to get a plan and work their plan? They are going to have the potential to be great in their own rights.  It’s never too early to get the little people thinking in the right direction.

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So what say you?  You spending time only getting things right for the holidays?  Your future can wait right?  Nope.  Get a jump-start now.  For instance the dreaded lose weight that people want to do yearly.  You only go hard for the first 2 weeks maybe month in January but that’s it.  Why not hang your ideal wish outfit at your eyesight.  Get a new gym bag and actually pack it.  Get you a new water bottle.  Get you some indoor videos or work out gear so that when it snows or rains you can still push.  Hope about use the holidays the time to get it.  Catch the sales.  Give others who ask your list and go from there.  Again you can work it if you are about a little action.  Get a new work lunch bag that you love. It will help you plan ahead so you can begin packing healthier snacks instead of change for the vending machine or not eating at all.  See how that works?

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How about the new job plan?  Have you had someone take a fresh pair of eyes to your resume?  Have you printed new copies to go into your padfolio for the upcoming interviews you are going to score?  Have you gotten a new interview outfit and shoes?  Sales people. Use this time wisely.  Even if you hate the holidays you can still love these discounts.  Have you updated the many useful job search websites?  Have you gone to a few networking events that are held now during this holiday season?  No.  Then you have not exhausted all of your means.  Finding a new job is sometimes a full-time job.  You need to be spending your time working a new plan now and not wait until the influx of resumes start loading up on New Years day.  Will people hire during the holidays?  Not necessarily but they so start looking and putting their plans into place.

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This new way of thinking can be applied to all areas of your life.  So its time to get moving towards your new future.  It’s all in how you create it. One can’t simply pray without works.  What are you worth?  I hope you see the value in yourself so others can see the same thing.  Put your action to where you mouth is….

Hurting the Babies

So with the holidays in full swing we need to have a discussion about mixing families. It’s no secret that people are master manipulators.  There is no fail proof way to determine if the new boo you have is the one that will honor you all of your days as well as do right by you and your children.  Even for those who aren’t married or have kids you really don’t know.  Love is about leaps.  However while you dip yourself into new love and mix families let’s talk about some of the drama with kids that we tend to forget.

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Growing up I was taught about being unequally yoked.  That had a lot to do with religion. However the principle is a good one to examine.  How do you link yourself up with a man or woman and don’t know their core values?  You aren’t going to agree on every little thing but let’s be  real, having kids or not is important.  How you will raise them is important.  I know of some men who marry women who have no intention of having children then bam they get side swiped and most end up leaving their wives for it.  The same holds true for men who make it appear they want to have a family but do things to ensure they can’t like get a vasectomy and never tell their mate. It’s a cruel and evil world out there.  Let’s organize how we need to protect ourselves and our children and future children from the foolishness.

Stop Marrying These Disagreeable Men and Women

How does it come off?  You have a man or woman who doesn’t like your family.  Then if something happens to you can you be sure that your child will have access to both sides of the family?  I know of evil families.  I really do.  However you deprive kids of having a relationship.  I am not going to act like there aren’t reasons to withhold kids from being around one side of the family over another.  There are.  But we as ADULTS have to be sure to separate our petty feelings over the kids.  My thing is at least try.  That’s key.  You should always be willing.  If after a sincere try to it doesn’t work then I can high-five a pull back. You knew from the time you were dating them and as time went on the person you were attempting or had attempted to yoke up with would not honor you or your kids by making things easy for your kids.  This isn’t just for folks with kids.  This is for the childless and wanting to be parents too.  Let me give you an example, my mother in law and I at one point of our relationship wasn’t on the up and up.  However whenever her and her son got into something or her and I did the same, I NEVER stopped the kids from being around her. That’s not my call.  It isn’t your call unless that parent will cause harm to the child. Then be around but don’t stop.  My mother in law isn’t here and although it was tough when we lived together I would have deprived my kids of their short relationship had I been in my bag all the time.  I am glad that my kids had the limited time that they had with her.

You know who you are married to or want to be with.  You know that they will not do right by you or your family. What is it about these disagreeable women and men that makes you throw caution to the wind and proceed.  Like most people will reveal a part of their hand if you are listening and really watching.  Instead we let sex, looks, stature determine more than it should.  Then we say I don’t know why this person is like that?  You knew it deep down.  I am not suggesting that all in-laws are evil, mine wasn’t either but what I am saying is stop bringing kids in the midst of your mess.  And you can say well I don’t have kids so I am good, you’re not.  You set the tone now for how you will do when you get kids. It’s true.  I was talking to a friend.  She made some ugly comments about her boyfriend’s kids and now they aren’t together.  She was devastated.  But I kept telling her you can’t say mean things about folks kids and think they will link themselves up to you.  If they were smart, they wouldn’t.  You have to be careful.  Sometimes the way you speak about your future especially where kids are concerned is important.  People don’t realize if you want to find out what someone is thinking just plain old listen.  People allow their heart issues to come out just from bringing up the same issues.

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Yes things happen that make disagreeable women and men come off as off but they are protecting themselves.  I know of a few but that is a small amount of folks.  Some people keep things going on.  Somebody has to be an adult.  Please stop allowing these issues to affect kids.  They do affect them no matter how much in your head you are telling yourself that it doesn’t.

Now unless you have made it clear that you don’t plan on taking kids around your mate’s family  and your mate is crystal clear than you are creating issues.  Why?  Children are a product of both sides.  To be honest.  You can keep kids from a side of a family and they will still exhibit some attributes of the other side.  You can’t keep kids away from folks just because you don’t want them to be like that side of the family.  If it’s in them you will be seeing parts of their unallowed family.  You haven’t solved anything.  Some family are toxic this is true.  However you have to teach kids how to be in the world and not take on everything about others.  I have friends who attend family functions with their kid to protect them from certain sides of families that may be toxic.  But guess what?  They tried. They didn’t just automatically cut off.  Being a parent means at times setting our issues aside for what’s best for the child.  Try with kids even if before things were bad.  Always be willing until people prove to you that you can no longer take your children around.  When kids grow up and you have tried, they will see things for themselves.  But can you say you tried when deep down you haven’t.  Kids will form resentment towards the parent that withheld them from their family when you don’t at least try.

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I think people hear what they want to.  There is no way my mate could tell me our kids are not allowed to have a relationship with my family without real warrant.  And I wouldn’t have yoked myself to someone who would be like that.  You better know that you know that the person you take vows is really on the same team.  Everybody hollering Team (insert last name) is really on the same team.  Some will be on the team as long as its beneficial.  That is why being who are gold diggers end up creating at times family households that causes more harm.  Yes I said gold diggers and let’s be clear gold diggers are both men and women. I don’t care what society says there are some greedy men who want what they want to.  You bring kids in the midst and treat kids like pawns.  Kids aren’t bargaining chips.  Please stop having kids just to shut your mate up.  Yes I said it. You didn’t want kids so I will have this one just so they can get off my back.  Many parents don’t even form bonds with these bargain kids because of it.  Kids need sound households not perfect ones.  Make sure the well-being of your kids is the vocal point.

How people treat your kids is key

If you are married to someone who allows there to be separate treatment of your non biological kids versus the biological kids that you share, they are not the man or woman for you period.  Now when you are dating you will have bumps in the road, but once you marry a person and you HAVEN’T worked all of the kinks out you are creating a disservice to yourself and your kids.  Do you know of the petty things adults do to kids? Like get biological kids gifts for the holidays  but not the non biological kids? Do you know some ugly petty adults will make comments in front of non biological kids that makes them feel unwelcome? Let’s keep this 100.  You should definitely not be on the Earth messing with kids.  I really do believe that.  Kids don’t have a choice when adults decide to link together.  If you or your family treat a certain set of kids differently, mean or etc. that is the worst thing you can do. Kids may not understand why but they turn into adults that never forget.

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I have been in situations where I remembered how some folks treated me as a child.  My step-dad never treated me like step anything. He raised me from a young child and I would go to toe over him. I only highlight step to illustrate for this blog.  However the same can’t be said for the rest of his family.  I am not suggesting that I was abused, nor overtly mistreated, but I remember comments made in my presence.  I remember my mother making sure that no one would overtly mistreat my twin and I different from my brother. We need parents to step it up in this category.  There are some adults that I still don’t vibe well with.  However as an adult now I make sure that no one does it to any of my children. I also don’t have to entertain the same adults now.  I remember getting into a conversation with my dad and he made it clear to me that I could just be an adult and withdraw.  He wasn’t encouraging me to disengage but he made it clear that instead of getting more and more upset, walk away.  It was the best idea.  I never wanted as an adult to put my dad in the middle of any issue with another adult at this point.  What is done is done.  But like the saying goes, you will never forget the way someone treats you.  Be careful of how you treat step kids.  You got grown adults walking around being hurt now over the way step families treat them. I did my job by going to counseling and anything else I needed to do to deal but most do not.  And it matters to a step child to get it right within themselves. If you are a step child (adult) still hurt over folks that will never admit, never apologize please get help.  I refuse to let people who don’t influence my life for the positive to have a hold over me.

To any of my family that I am sure is or will read this, I am not opening up anything so miss me with the texts or the phone calls.  These are my experiences and nothing is going to change that.  I don’t need a pow wow, move on like I did and do what you need to do like I did for me.  No family no matter how perfect we all want to look like will get it right.  

Kid will pick up on the wrong

Every kid no matter how nice and perfect their households were will pick up on the things that aren’t right.  I know for me things didn’t come up for me until I had my own kids. I can’t say my childhood was bad because it wasn’t.  However things that most kids didn’t have to deal with we did.  It made us strong.  My parents did the best they could and as far as I am concerned I came out of it with the will and tenacity to be a good adult.  I am not perfect by any means but watching my parents struggle definitely made me handle tough situations now. I didn’t grow up with a silver spoon and it made me want to go that much harder in life to be great.  Kids pick up on the good and the bad no matter how you try to shield them.  You do your kids a disservice by not handling your issues.

The holidays are upon is.  It’s supposed to be the happiest time of the year.  However this is the time when adults do the most passive aggressive stuff to kids who are victims in the midst of couples who link together.  Please know your limits and be honest with yourself BEFORE you marry.  Stop getting married thinking time will work things out.  You can’t change who you really are when you really don’t want to.  You are just lying to yourself for the sake of marriage or having someone linked to you.  Just stop.  You are bringing in future kids and messing them up before they even have a chance to be in this world and be messed over.  I have had many talks with parents of mixed families before writing this piece.  The sentiments are different  but sadly the situations turn ugly. I have a friend that confided in me that he or she doesn’t want to be married due to the fact that they don’t want to have kids.  The sad part is they gave hope to a mate that they would have kids and now they don’t want to.  That isn’t fair to their hopeful mate. I couldn’t sugar coat it because they are a friend to me.  It’s a messed up situation.  There are years lost now.  I pray that their union can hold on because to me that is a place of betrayal that you can’t deny.  It’s one thing for both partners to be on the same page about not starting a family. However to lie and knowing you aren’t is devastating.

Please step families, stop mistreating kids. I know you really want to get back at the biological parent because you don’t like the fact that your biological family member could have done better in your eyes.  Stop.  Grown folks can be grown and make their decisions. Who someone links up with doesn’t stop your breath, doesn’t make you fat, or bring money into your home.  Leave kids out of your issues.  Let me say that karma never misses so if you intentionally hurt a child please do NOT think that you will reap that.  You and I both reap what we sow.  You get what you dish out so be careful of the servings you dish. Kids should always be respected at all times.  Be underhanded to the adult if that is what you want but don’t do it to a child.

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One last thing, be careful that you don’t fall in love with a monster and it cost your child their innocence.  Too many kids are killed and molested by “step” families and for what? There isn’t enough sex or money in this world for me to sell my kids over to a monster. Please be careful and listen to your kids.  Sometimes what you think is hate from a child could be a cry for help.  I would rather you get a vibrator or a blow up doll before you link up with someone who will mistreat or harm your child.  Oh and it’s sometimes not the step parent but some of these raggedy biological parents are a mess too.  No one is exempt.

Ask yourself the following before you link up with a person?

  1. Do you want kids?  Like actually birth or parent them? Be honest with yourself and the person you are with.  Do NOT give false hope.  Situations may  not be perfect so while you wait for that moment to happen, please be careful that you aren’t hurting your mate in the process.  No one should bring kids in mess, but be honest and open during the hard times too.  It’s not fair for someone to wait for you and you knew you weren’t going to be open to a family.  Allow that mate to make the decision if they want to be open to your maybe or no response.
  2. If you have kids from a previous relationship is the person you are thinking about marrying willing to be a full-time parent?  Are they treating that child with the same respect as if you and he or she birthed that child together? Does the family of your beloved treating the child or children with the utmost respect? Watch how people treat your kids in the bad times because the good times will not cancel out a hurt child over petty inconsiderate comments.
  3. Do you parent a mixed home with the same rules?  Having separate rules for one set of kids over another is creating issues.  Be clear that parenting is a dual partnership in every sense of the word.
  4. Do you have open communication?  Can you child come to you and tell you that one parent has hurt them and you set aside your love for your beloved and investigate? Love is blind.  You should never dismiss a child until you have found out what your child’s issues really are.

Happy Anniversary ToiTime

Today is the day.  I am so excited.  It’s like a birthday and an anniversary all wrapped in one. So today I want to do some self reflecting.  One, I can’t believe its been 2 years already. It seems like yesterday I was sitting at my laptop debating how to start this blog.  I knew I wanted to be dedicated and bam, I said let me go ahead and do it.  I did.  I was scared.  Like why would anyone care what I have to say.  Like on the real I struggle everyday to be on point. I don’t put too much pressure on myself to the point where I can’t focus, but I do want to be better than my day before.

With that being said, I want the blog to excel.  How do I measure it? Sometimes by the emails I receive from readers when they say they were struggling with a topic that I covered and feel more equipped to handle it.  Sometimes by likes, comments, and shares, its sometimes all about the numbers.  I am grateful that my site allows me to see how many people read a certain blog and what country the reader is in when they are reading it.

Now to the fun stuff.  I have learned a lot about blogging in my second year that I wasn’t aware in my first year.  For instance, timing.  Often times I would just post and never pay attention to the time of day.  But it matters.  Readers are all around the world, but there is generally certain days and times that I find that engage readers the most.  I would just post as soon as I was done typing and editing.  I love that I am figuring these things out because in the line of content, getting it out when it matters most is super important.  The other lesson in blogging is having a tough skin.  For my first year I got so many people telling me how much they enjoyed it that when I got my first bad review it took me back a little. I had several readers regardless if it was real or internet trolls tell me how much they hated it. My thoughts were hate it or love it at least it was read.  My sentiments are still the same. In real life I am not everyone’s cup of tea.  So on the internet the same is true.  I had to approach blogging in the same way that I approach real life, let it roll off.  I am not saying I am above feelings because I am not.  I am quite the opposite. I am passionate about what I say and do however I rarely allow people to get to me.  I do things like journal, work out, have sex with my husband, or play with my kids before I allow folks who most likely are unhappy with themselves get to me.  I know that’s blunt but that’s the realness of it.  I used to worry about what others thought until I thought about how at the end of the day most are working their own lives and one opinion don’t stop the show.

The most important lesson that I took from year one to year two is never force a blog. When I blog it is usually something I can’t stop typing.  The words flow because it’s coming from a real place.  So that is why outside of life events I may have gaps in my blogs for  a few days because I would rather it be real and authentic than to be forced just to make sure there is a daily blog out there. Blogs for me have been literally a happy thing for me to do.  It’s not a grudge when you love what you do.

Also I try not to talk politics or religion.  I have my opinions actually very strong opinions on both  but at times I try not to go there.  I am not ashamed of my beliefs.  However I know that people get really irritated by these types of conversations.  I do draw on both at times so if you are a reader you can tell.  I am a preacher’s kid.  That is the largest lifestyle that I know.  Often times I make fun of myself because I feel like I have lived in a bubble for most of my life at least until I was an adult.  So I will allude to it. I have gotten people emailing me talking about why would I talk about it like that?  I say what anyone under that lifestyle wants to say.  I hold nothing back.  I respect all but this is my life.  I can’t and won’t doctor it up to fit another mold.

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A few things I did for today’s celebration was bought some business cards.  You would think that in the 2 years ToiTime has been up and running I would have had all of that together however I didn’t.  So I got me so much organizational things for the blog as well. I am a visual person so anything that is bright, colorful and about organization which I excel in is super helpful.  I can’t wait to share the items as they come in.  My goal was to make my blog right before 2017 so when the ball drops I want to be fully operational and ready to rock out with all of you.  What are some of the things you want to do but are waiting for something to line up to do?  Squash that mindset and make things line up as much as you can.  I was always taught that you do what you can and everything else will line up in place.  Let me say that as a person who has stepped out on faith a million and one times it works.  It’s not a magic trick.  You can set yourself up just from doing the right things.  So step out.

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Blogging is fun for me.  So when others ask me how do I blog so often, work full-time, be a wife, and mother to 3 beautiful children, I let them know simply this is my happiness spot. No matter how crazy the topic we discuss this is my happy spot.  We all need a happy spot. Something that defines us as a person.  Something that makes us smile.  And ToiTime is it for me. I hope you enjoy ToiTime because in 2017 the website is going to be changing as well as my domain.  I want to be able to offer more and to do more means I have to make room for more blessings.  So in this last month I am moving things around and getting ready. I am not waiting for 2017 to come in to make life pop and neither should you.  Put what you need in place now to be successful.  Thank you for year 2!! We rocking into year 3!!

If you haven’t done so, don’t just read the blogs, share them.  Follow me on all of my social media as toitimeblog.  Yes we are very active on social media so don’t be a stranger.

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My Thankfulness

I know that is clichéd but the reality is for those who celebrate it, it really is about being grateful.  It’s the one time of the year where you hold all the sour faces would perk up.  We know you can’t control everyone and sadly there will be some who are still going to find a way to complain but when I think and look back on this year that is almost over I have to be grateful.  Please take a moment to realize your blessings.  I know in my family we usually go around the table and tell each other what we are grateful for.  Even if that is not what you and your family does, take a moment to acknowledge your blessings.  Even if you are dealing with the most lowest part of your life and you feel like you can’t have another thing fall, trust me I have been there take a deep breath and hold on.  You are still blessed. There is a lesson in your struggle.  You won’t see it if you aren’t open to learning.  If you take your eye off the problem and find what is that you aren’t getting that you need for your next phase the answer will reveal itself.  Take my word for it.  I have been in things I thought no way I would make it.  I got calm.  I opened my ear and spirit, prayed and the answer came.  Refocus your eyes.

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One of the recurring themes in our home is that we can do nothing of ourselves but everything together.  When it’s just been us 5 we have remained strong in the darkest of hours.  I am grateful for all that HE has done for me and my family.  I am grateful for my little people who keep me grounded.  They are little bundles of joys to be around.  They really are a blessing.  Even if they work hard to do the opposite of what we ask.  They are still our gifts.  I was going over the story of the children in Chattanooga and my heart got so heavy.  If I got a call that my children were taken from this Earth over some dumb, prideful, irresponsible adult I would be losing it right now.  My heart goes out to each and every parent that is dealing with the tragedy of that lost and any loss of a child.  The pain is overwhelming I can imagine.  I had nothing but tears in my eyes as I hugged and kissed my kids last night.  That has to be a hard pill to swallow.

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I am grateful for my husband.  I have seen him take some amazing stands this year in his life, our relationship and as a father.  I can’t even begin to complain about him.  He really is a great man.  He was so super thoughtful and continues to be even with him dealing with his own tragedy this year.  He is still pressing on.  I know his mother would be proud of him.  She loved him more than anything and that’s not just a statement.  As an only child he was her world.  And he honored her until her last breath I can surely attest to that. I love you Marques.

I am grateful to my extended family on both sides.  I am so blessed for my family wrapping their loving arms around us.  They have been such a great support system during all of this year.  The ups and downs and all the late calls and texts.  You guys are the real MVPs.

To my amaze balls friends you guys rock. To be honest my friends are really just family. The ways that you have stepped up this year and have continued to help us in ways that I couldn’t even imagine.  Thank you all!!

Please again count your blessings, name them one by one.

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