I graduated from Penn State University in 2003 and started working immediately. After a few years I had my first daughter and moved to Philadelphia. See my post 5 Years Down to find out about how the move from a small town to a large city went. In addition to a toddler and another one on the way, I went through postpartum depression. It was about 3 months before I even figured out what was going on. I was a stay at home mom and didn’t feel like I had the support that I needed. To be honest I didn’t. The life I had left was full of support. I came to a city where outside of my boyfriend at the time’s family and him I knew no one. Philadelphia isn’t super far from Lancaster, but the cost of traveling with two small kids adds up. Especially when at the time I wasn’t working. It was too much. So I was drowning.
I needed an outlet and I was headed back into the work place. My first outlet was Twitter. (make sure you follow me at toitimeblog) Yes social media was where I could be light and actually talk to others about things I was concerned with other than my children. Then ToiTime, blog was birthed over a year ago. It was after I dealt with my depression and was able to put into words my own experiences in my daily life to help others. This was no easy task. I had to be real with myself. I had to use medication and counseling for the first 6 months just to get my life together. I had to stop allowing other people get to me, I had to have my own vision of what my life was going to be, what I was going to accept, and who should be involved.
Since then ToiTime has grown from just a few hits to over 11,000 hits. That’s amazing to me. I also have been in over 20 countries. Some of these countries I myself haven’t even visited but with the internet you can go anywhere and I am grateful for that. ToiTime is finding new ways to keep fresh perspective on some topics that we all face.
You never know where your dream wings will take you once you learn how to fly. Since then ToiTime has been read in more countries than I’ve personally visited.
I plan to nourish it and let it grow.
I have recently been working on me to be honest, inside and out. I have gotten my health on track and have survived having to have a hysterectomy a few short months ago. I’ve lost a total of 50 pounds and in that, I have reclaimed my life. I have had the opportunity to take personal trips, baecations, date nights, and my kids have all gotten summer tans and had a blast. This year was probably the most hit but the most enjoyed as well. I am trying to get that life, work balance right and although I may have missed a few marks I am on the up side of life and that’s where I want to stay.
On the inside I have come to grips of some failed relationships. Although my romantic relationship is solid, I had a few heart breaks that I had to be real about. So with that in mind I have pushed my own self-care initiative. For ME this has included taking a mental and emotional break from some family and friends. I know that many don’t understand it but it’s not up for discussion. My self-care and how I interact with others matters to me. I had a situation happen over a few years ago that took me to a place where I found myself going back to a dark place. A place where I really could have retaliated. After that I vowed never to allow myself regardless of who was right or wrong to get to that place again.
On a lighter note I am interested in living and not just existing. Sometimes life can throw a few blows and I like anyone else can get caught up. However at 36 I am at the best that I can be and I am looking to improve even more. Im looking to traveling more, getting out of my comfort zone, attending more blog events, getting more social, and still being a great person, kick ass wife, and amazing mother. So I hope you enjoy the blog. If you ever have a question, or just want to communicate a need that you want to see on the blog, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org