Fight Procrastination Day

I’m really glad that there are days like this. They help us to get our minds together and what a day than fight procrastination day. We all at some point have procrastinated about something. From weight loss to grocery shopping to laundry, procrastination takes many forms.

Fighting procrastination means making an attempt to do the things that we all need to do but have been putting off. What do you need to stop putting off? Have you completed your 2018 resolutions if you made it? This is something you need to get back on track. All of the promises made to yourself need you to bring life into them. It’s easy to let a few goals slide. However depending on the level of procrastination, the guilt that comes from it can be unbearable.

Waiting and putting off grocery shopping until you have literally no food may not stop the world but depriving yourself for example your education, and making excuses year after year could affect your quality of life. Not washing your hair a few extra days may not end world hunger, but putting off going to the doctors could put your life as risk. Counting up the cost of what you choose to ignore is a part of prioritizing. Some of the little things we ignore can add up.

Take some time to make new list and instead of ignoring, avoiding, or crossing off altogether prioritize what matters to you in the long run. Sometimes procrastination comes from putting yourself last. You are important and nothing you do for others will matter if you can’t find a way of pouring into yourself first! Your goals and dreams need you and you need to fight procrastination and make it happen!

Here is a small helpful listing of what you can do to help fight procrastination:

  • Make smaller goals from large goals
  • Reward yourself
  • Make realistic goals
  • Eliminate people or things around you that are triggers of distraction
  • Set time restraints around your goals
  • Write your goals down

I hope that today and everyday you take the time to make one step towards each goal you set. We all can get caught up in life . What we do once we get caught off guard, matters. Fight procrastination and hit it hard!!

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Better Breakfast Month

There are so many holidays in the month of September. I do think it’s a good idea that they whomever makes these days made better breakfast to be in September. It’s a good idea because it correlates to kids going back to school!

food gourmet on top of brown table

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We no that in the United States unfortunately some kids struggle with meals. This really ought not be but it is a reality for some. Breakfast is super important. As an adult it’s hard for me to concentrate when I’m hangry. (Angry + hungry) how much more for our children? I know some folks really can’t eat breakfast. I am not one of those people. I would encourage the non breakfast eaters to at least eat fruit.

Eating better starts with choices. Having a variety of choices comes down to being prepared. Instead of sugary foods invest in whole grain options. I would suggest prepping it ahead of time. Time is the biggest issue with breakfast.  Not having enough because the stress in the morning and trying to be on time sometimes clashes. I get that!It’s easier to grab on the go.  The same breakfast sandwiches you can purchase at a fast food place can be made at home. Invest in fruit. Invest in cereals with less sugar and be creative. You can have fresh fruit in your oatmeal or cereal as an alternative.Make the time to prepare things at night meaning packing bags can help cut down on time.  If you have lunch and breakfast prepared you can be more in charge with what you place in your body.  Often times we shove food into our body and grab food from vending machines because of not being prepared.  If you have a family if you mirror the change you want to see it makes it easier for others around you to align.  Not all food that is grab worthy is bad.  You can grab yogurt and eat that with some granola and fruit and have that be better than a sugary donut a diet soda.

Even if you say come on “I can’t do that,” commit to a few days a week of making healthier choices. Once you see how much better you feel it may be an easier to make that change stick!  The benefits of eating a better breakfast:

  • Better Concentration
  • Aids in weight los
  • Helps in portion control for the day
  • Better productive day

Can you step your game durng breakfast?  Give it a try!

Sunday Message: That’s Just How they Are…

Listen there are a number of folks that do not like me. I am okay with it. The feeling may even be mutual. However what I won’t tolerate is mistreatment of kids whether they mine or not. Kids will forever be off-limits for eva. I don’t understand why any adult thinks it’s okay to involve kids in the midst of adult issues?! Besides kids is the inability for those who like to start issues and play mannequin when you don’t want to deal with their excuse of “that’s how I am” anymore, be vigilant.

I’ve had some bold ones use the excuse of that’s just how so and so is. I’m looking at them like ok ma and? (In my Jayz voice) Just because you are of a certain age is not the prerequisite to be disrespectful. I know the older you get the more your give a care is alerted, but out right nastiness is not going to be tolerated in this day and age when folks is trying to be on the do better. Be aware of those who won’t change and meet you in the middle especially when they are the culprit or the initiator of an issue. My mom used to say they “throw rocks and hide their hands.”

These are the same types of folks that get amnesia after they have done something and can’t understand why you don’t want to deal with them. They will make themselves the victim after offering up a petty apology and then tell others that at least they said sorry. Watch them. They are the same ones who generally are found in drama. Remove yourself from them.

If that’s how you are and you’re:

Mean

Ignorant

Uncaring

Selfish

Drama filled

These are the some of the things I don’t want to just deal with! It’s not up to me as a receiver to deal with. This is a personal issue that you can leave alone and force those around you to either take or take off. You don’t get to spew foolishness on others and then hide behind that’s apart of personality and dare someone to stick with you when you aren’t attempting to change!

Let me say I found this hard lesson a few years ago within myself. I had to come to grips even when the mirror was being held to me from a source I could have easily dismissed. I had to realize that the person’s tactics was wrong in their delivery but the truth was in the middle. So I separated myself and did my own work. Sometimes it takes that to get things right. However continuing to defend my own bad behavior or those around me isn’t being accountable either.

Be accountable for you! You know what was said about you was true! You know you have things that rub folks the wrong way in your home and outside of your home. Your personality can take you places and it can also deny you entry to places as well. Be honest with yourself. My mom always said “everyone ain’t telling the same lie.” So if you’re hearing recurring messages about you, it may be time to take inventory.

Do not be discouraged. It will hurt when you accept the things about yourself. But push through it. Trust me when you do stop taking excuses from yourself its super easy to hold those around you to the same standards. When I hear excuses I just mark people. I realize they aren’t at the point of receiving. I don’t necessarily cut them off about it until their behavior becomes toxic. Once it becomes toxic I don’t have to entertain it on the strength of any relationship.

I’ve been reading blogs by other bloggers about toxic mothers lately. These are men and women who believe that their mothers are toxic. I don’t think there is a higher relationship outside of a love interest on Earth than a mother. If people are willing to separate the toxicity that a mother can bring I think you can separate from a friend, associate, coworker or any other family relationship. No one is worth your peace. No one is worth that level of stress.

We have to be careful of what we project. Sometimes you can mean well and think you are being true to yourself and come off with attitudes, stuck up etc. Being who you want to be is crucial in self-development. If who you are coming off is not what you want others to take away from an interaction with you than it’s time to find a better delivery or do an inward search. Our delivery around certain people could be nervousness. Like when you go on your first date and you’re super nervous and awkward. If it’s that, you can work on it. If you’re always show boating, speaking ill of others, demeaning, or rude that is all about who you are inside. Those things need worked on.

I pray this Sunday message that you look inward and deal so you can deal with those around you. In dealing with those around you do not allow the excuses of “this is just who I am take it or leave,” sway you. You may have to take them up on that offer and simply leave it, and leave them alone. It doesn’t have to be a final chapter close. It could be seasonal. Don’t accept the excuses from yourself or those around you!

Summer Recap

So Labor Day means it’s officially unofficially the end of Summer. I want to thank all of my tan lines that kept this melanin poppin! FYI black folks will tan or get darker like anyone exposed to the sun. Skin care all Summer long meant moisturizer for my skin type and lots of sunblock that should be worn all year round! I love being in the heat, the sun, and any form of water. Not even heat waves had me complaining! With that being said, let’s recap parts of my Summer.

Did you say Brunch?!

I love love brunch. If you say let’s brunch I’m on Pinterest getting my life together and happily ready in no time. I don’t know if it’s the care free of it all but I love it. I’m type of girl that if one of my friends got me flowers and took me to brunch I would be the happiest girl on the planet. None the least between brunching with the fam bam, to brunching with my girls, I def got my Summer brunch on! I look forward to some awesome Fall brunches with different flavors of the season!

Water anyone?!

In addition to Summer brunches I had an awesome time in the water. The only thing I could not schedule this year was my solo beach trip!! There’s still a few warm moments in the upcoming month or so and I will attempt to fit it in. Between so much transition and my kids I could not find the time. However I didn’t complain about it and enjoyed a lot of water days this season!

We Are……

I was able to have a college reunion with some of my best friends and framily at Penn State University. I was able to take my twin and niece along too! What a weekend full of great drinks, a little adult night out, time with framily, and watching the kids enjoy some of what I think makes Penn State one of the best things I’ve done with my life so far! And of course you can never leave campus without their world known famous ice cream made fresh on campus!!! Shout out to Peachy Paterno I’m still in heaven!!

Hey Boo!

Nothing is better than boo loving, date nights and attending one of the best concerts of the Summer, On the Run Tour 2 with Bey and Jay!!

Family time

We are always together and creating memories from the Ice-cream Festival, fireworks, Sky-zone and movie nights there’s nothing us Storr family can’t get into!

Photo Pop Philly

I can’t explain the instant happy that I experienced from walking into this interactive photo dream! I saw it online and had to attend. This pop up art exhibit was well out together and even had changes to it during its time! I must shout out to all of the artists who slayed each set! Anytime I’m having a down moment I can look back at my photos and have an instant smile! FYI a little plus their last day will be Monday September 3rd! To get tickets you can log on: Photo pop Philly

And I had the best time with friends too. I always do! Friends is like the family you get to choose and boy do I have some great ones!

Hey Mark!

One of the highlights of the Summer was seeing my cousin Mark! I miss him so much but he doesn’t live close. I can truly say that my heart has been made whole and I only saw him for a little minute. However when you have someone who is everything to you, you could see them a few minutes and it feel like a lifetime!

All and I I have so many more pictures from so many events this Summer! I can not complain that I didn’t live my best life! I truly enjoyed what Summer had to offer! I plan on continuing the patterns all Fall! So you know you will see some of the awesome events I already have planned. My family knows we about to be at some of our favs super soon! Trust me I’ll give you a glimpse!

So we say Summer as it closes, you have been good to us!!

Pressure

Pressure makes diamonds. It’s a hard process. Pressure in our lives can do amazing things. It can be the fire you needed to start a new business or to help you to reach a deadline. It’s necessary and usually it’s side of stress that comes along for the ride. You have to understand that it’s normal but how you respond to it can be a huge difference from stress that overloads you or takes you out.

Stress is a killer. Over working and never taking breaks is not good. Sometimes we take breaks and use those breaks as mini sessions of stress. You need moments or relief. You can not down yourself 24 hours in a day and then say this is how I get things done. You’re not a machine. You need affirmations along the journey to make it. You can’t simply be a Debbie Downer all the time and expect to get a result!

Take the pressure you are in and find ways to deal with it. If you have a deadline work on completing it and then learn to reward yourself after. It’s okay to celebrate you. When I completed my latest blog for Greenide. I got up the day it was to be submitted to edit. I had to wait until the day of to see it with fresh eyes. When it was done I was able to grab an iced coffee and blast a song! It was a small reward for the pressure I was under.

How about when I parent my kids. There are too many moments when pressure was up and stress was right there attempting to wear me down. I’ve talked numerous times about my kids being in the hospital and sick. My job on the line and having to find a balance. However I thought it was wrong to be happy not for my child getting better but for me for not buckling under pressure. That was so backwards. I had survived having to deal with Human Resources and I had survived bosses who didn’t fully understand or understood but had to keep business as is and sadly my situation had no loops for sincere care.

How about at work the pressure to always be “on.” The pressure if you’re looking for work and being told no. That is pressure. It’s stressful but hard work will pay off.

Let’s acknowledge that pressure and stress! Let’s find ways to handle it and find ways to combat it when we can. Let’s reward ourselves when you do something well. You don’t have to be in a funeral state of mind where you down everything that you do or the steps you take!

Don’t let others put pressure on you either. God knows you can take yourself out! Pressure is necessary within reason! Keep it in check! Talk to someone when you’re overwhelmed. Seek help it’s not a sign of weakness. It’s okay to say no to a few things. Self-care is necessary daily. Love yourself. Seek a few moments of quiet times at least once a day!

Back to School Prayer

Within the last few years the increase in violence on school grounds have been too much. I don’t remember having my parents worry if I would come back home after leaving. It was understood I would have a long day, work hard, and then go home. Today parents like myself are doing what they can to make each moment count. No longer do we take for granted that our children will return. That breaks my heart. To all the parents who would have had children starting this school year, my heart goes out to you!!

Another aspect of our children going back to school is for their education. So many students fall through the crack that my prayer is that they will have the necessary tools to be successful. I pray that the teachers who are already underpaid are there for the right reason. So many teachers and no not all, are there for a check. It comes out in how they govern their classrooms daily. They are in neighborhoods they don’t believe in and they take away from those amazing teachers who give beyond their means to see that no student is left behind in school or life.

I pray that the students would be successful and make strides this year! I pray that all students no matter what they face will be successful. So many students who don’t have lunch money, no rides to school, having daycare issues for those who are parents trying their best to graduate, may they have the resources necessary to make it happen! May the teachers have supplies! May they have cooperative parents! May the administration be understanding and stop discriminating, power tripping and have the students in mind when they make decisions that will affect them! May the parents have the resources necessary to meet their student’s demands. May the parents have the patience to go back in time and remember math work it’s been a thousand years that they had to do so they can help their kids.

All of theses blessings and more I extend to all students, parents, administrators and teachers!!

Love is….Forever?

Whew!! How Derrick gon show up on the scene like that! I mean typical man who is out here doing his thing and now Derrick wants to get back and came with a ring! My mouth dropped! Like how in the world?! Closure with an ex is tricky. It’s nice to get but not always necessary. Ex girlfriends and boyfriends relationships can be so messy. I think for the relationships that at the time I felt I needed closure I’ve had it! The ones that I haven’t I surely do not need so if there is an ex reading this, this isn’t an open invitation, I’m good love, enjoy!!

The Come Up

Yasir is making moves sort of! He is at the place where he wants to be on his own and he has found a spot. The only issue is it may not be the place he needs to be. Yasir in this new environment may not be good for his overall journey!

Yasir said one line that made me pause:

Some women over clean their environments as a reflection of how they didn’t have control over their bodies! I can see one control over another! This is simply one observation so don’t shot the messenger!

Back to Proposals

Nuri asked Yasir to marry him. I was thinking is this cause Derrick has now shown up with his ring?! It’s super normal to be over engulfed in love and think this means you never want to be apart but let me give a little caution to others, be cautious of taking this plunge. I know some couples who have been married for more than 20 years from these types of encounters and others who have been divorced quicker than the ink has dried on the paperwork!

Ex Factor

Yasir goes back to his “place” with Ruby! And once there he sees Ruby getting on with someone whom they were supposed to meet up with for business in the morning. Yasir didn’t call before he came over. This is a number one rule. Never show up uninvited!! Yasir asked or should I say knocked on the door while Ruby was handling her business about his prayer rug! I kept yelling at the television Sir, you ain’t have this rug this whole time and you were coming over in the morning so why?! Ugh all this drama!!

Rings and keeping of rings….all I have to say is you gotta watch this because I’ve never seen nothing like this….

Love is….an alarm to wake up?! Not necessarily…..

Love is season one and done! See you for season 2!!