Solo Trip: Phoenix, Arizona

So I just had the BEST time ever for a few days in Arizona. Solo trips can be unnerving but they are definitely worth it.

The reason for a solo trip is simple, I can do what I want and for how much of it that I want. Who doesn’t like to get away?! I have been trying to make a trip around my bday become a yearly adventure but with mine and the kids’ schedules around my birthday a trip wouldn’t have been feasible soI had to pump it up a little. I refused to not take a trip just because it wasn’t during my birthday week.

My goal while on this trip was to relax, enjoy, and to step out of my comfort zone.

So with this thought in mind I decided to book. What I did was looked for flights first and then booked the trip around the best price instead of trying to find a flight around a particular date. I didn’t mess around when I found a flight that worked. I also set a tracker to see if the flight stayed grounded price wise. Once I found the price of the tickets to be within my budget I booked it. I then worked on hotel accommodations after the fact. There are a lot of deals out there so I focused on the amenities that meant the most to me. I felt like I had a lot of wiggle room since my family wasn’t attending this trip!

I picked Arizona because for quite some time I wanted to travel to this location. The other reason is the weather. I love heat. So I wanted somewhere that I felt I could get it and Arizona definitely didn’t disappoint. The weather was over 90 each day. And I was able to do a lot of activities, rest, and eat well.

So let’s break this trip down:

I arrived in Phoenix on Friday. My travel started very early. With that I was up at 230am and once I landed due to the time zone change, morning started all over again. I was extremely jet lagged. However once I checked into my hotel, a burst of energy and excitement came over me.

I stayed at the Grand Canyon University Hotel. It’s located in Phoenix and its through the college campus and ran by students. This hotel is super nice and super clean.

Now let me give you the pros and cons of this hotel.

The pros:

  1. Campus atmosphere
  2. Restaurant and bar was great
  3. Pool and cabanas
  4. Easy going staff
  5. Baristas are super bomb almost better than Starbucks
  6. Security is tight. They had an armed guard not a flashlight cop throughout the premises

Cons:

  1. No usb cord plug ins
  2. No microwave or fridge
  3. No safe in room to secure belongings

So as you can see the pros outweighed the cons. Not having a fridge wasn’t a huge issue. It stopped me from getting more food than I needed which in the long run was a good look anyway.

Few things if you are traveling alone:

  1. Do not be afraid to eat out. I enjoyed it and didn’t stay on my phone to take the edge off of me being alone
  2. Keep both hotel keys on you at all times
  3. Never reveal that you are alone while out and about
  4. Do a tour of the hotel so you know where everything is
  5. Be vigilant while out aka stay off your phones so your guard isn’t down
  6. Social media- do NOT check in while away. I used Snapchat and Instagram stories the whole time and made sure I didn’t reveal the city or state etc!

My first stop was the Phoenix zoo. I had a blast. Although yes I could go to the Philadelphia zoo, it was a great way to start the day. I was able to feed giraffes, touch sting rays, and ride camels. I felt like a kid. Anyone who knows me knows I’m the biggest kid. Waking around eating snacks, enjoying the heat and doing the activities was exactly what I needed.

As if I hadn’t been traveling and should have been tired from the hours at the zoo I spent, I headed over to IFly Phoenix. Now they do have one in Philly however I’ve been too scared to try it. IFly is the experience of flying suspended in the air and trust me it’s an experience of a lifetime. You go through a class that trains you on what to expect since while suspended you won’t be able to hear. They are with you and guide you through. This experience was definitely worth it. You can check out my video here IFly.

After the flying experience I was tired. The excitement was wearing off and the earliness of the day was creeping up and I slowly walked to Target to get a cord. That didn’t stop me from getting a drink or two before heading off to bed once back at the hotel.

So I got 9.5 hours of sleep. I still woke up as if I was home and after I realized I didn’t have to make my son’s 6am breakfast I quickly went back to sleep. I was off to the pool to do a few hours of lounging. I enjoyed the steady flow of cocktails and water. Word to the wise in Arizona, water is your friend. Don’t let anyone tell you different. Even at 8am it was already hot.

I love laying around at the pool but I love even more is just the heat. I did get in the water which I know my husband was under the impression that I wouldn’t. The way that heat was set up even under the cabana it was not playing games. Just think it’s just Spring in Phoenix and already well into the 90’s.

So to continue on with my day I decided to attend the Cajun Fest and meet up with my girlfriend who lives in the area. It was so much fun. They had all kinds of food from crawfish to alligator bites. I stuck to brisket, Mac and cheese and beignets. As with any festival the drinks was super weak so we decided to opt for beer. The local favorite is called the Purple Haze! I really enjoyed it!!

Oh by the way, there was a watermelon eating contest which was a blast and a half to watch. We also went with the intention of bar hopping. “What had happened” was we got stopped at the first bar and called it a night. I ain’t in my 20’s anymore. Plus it just allowed me to go back to the hotel to eat and drink some more.

On Sunday I had all kinds of intentions of getting out but the way my life was set up I opted instead to workout and lounge and the pool and have a lazy Sunday. It was the best. I got so much journaling done without interruptions. Listened to adult music vs. Johnny Johnny. That in itself was a blessing! 🙌🏾

Monday was a full day to tour Sedona. This was probably the highlight of my trip. I toured through Detour West. They were hands down amazing during the booking process to the pick up and drop off. I learned a lot, saw some of the most beautiful sights and the group I was with was small and a lot of fun!! Shout out to Robert for being the best tour guide!!

While in Sedona, we stopped in uptown Sedona for us to shop and eat on our own. One of the things I love to do is eat outside. So as soon as I saw the yellow umbrellas I knew, 89Agave was the spot for me. 89Agave is a Mexican restaurant which is another one of my favorites and the drinks and food was amazing.

I experienced heat exhaustion from all of the walking so I had to get some more water and take a nap before I went back to the pool after the sun went down. Now I had experienced the heat exhaustion with taking every precautions. I was told this could happen so I was well prepared and knew the signs of heat exhaustion.

Another tip is to keep sunblock on you so you can reapply often. I had 3 different kinds on me and definitely used them. Shout out to my girl Stephanie from sassy codesigns for designing me an awesome drinking cup for my travels. Between some adult juice and water I was drinking in style!

All in all I had a great time. I enjoyed my time away. Now let me just put a few things into perspective, during the tour I met a woman who had been away for the first time in her 17 years of marriage. Although that is a blessing for her to have been able to get away, women we have to get to a place where we take our lives and how we move seriously. No not everyone can book a flight and leave, but you can take a staycation even in your own city. Before you hit me with the I can’t afford talk, let me show you where you been wasting your money.

For the past year I bought a mini notebook and in that notebook I wrote down my bills and every purchase made. I was able to sit and see exactly where I had splurges. After I noticed the money that was wasted on things that didn’t matter I was able to cut those expenses. So less money on frivolous things to save up for a trip is doable. Taking your income tax money and paying down bills instead of getting electronics, bags, or shoes will help too.

The less money in bills you have to pay will put that money back into your pocket. So if you don’t have the money to take some time away even for a weekend it may be time to enlist better spending skills or time to invest into a financial planner. The money I save in couponing I could have stayed longer or taken another trip. Open your eyes to what you are doing in your finances. Even on tight budgets you can find ways to be more frugal.

The benefits to taking a trip alone:

  1. Being able to do what you want
  2. Downtime to get your mental in order
  3. Time to plan your next moves
  4. Fun on your own terms
  5. Ability to meet other people
  6. Way to keep yourself grounded on all levels

Extras:

It wouldn’t be me if I didn’t have a few extra things that made my travel and planning go so well!

Let me shout out Shein clothing company. They are the ones responsible for my bathing suit. I found them on The Real talk snow Instagram and I wasn’t disappointed. They have all sizes and the clothes were of excellent quality. I got my traveling T-shirts from them as well.

Shout out to Old Navy as they provided the jacket and a few other shirts during my trip!!

Ear plugs, I elected to have the ones that aid in air travel. They were about 6.99-7.99 from my favorite spot, Target!!! You will have to order them as they aren’t sold in stores but this beats the cheaper ear plugs as it regulates air pressure during take off and landing.

It cut down on ear popping and not once did I have to hear the little girl who was screaming her head off a few seats ahead of me. Also I would suggest eye mask. It made me sleep super well on my 4-5 hour flight. Between the earplugs and eye mask I was in an oasis of comfort both coming and going.

Battery power

So I am always on my phone. However while being out and about in a city and state I’ve never been, having a full powered cell was important. Now you can continue to have to charge one of those cute battery packs that you can get from Five Below or you can step your game up with a Vinsic battery pack.

Portable charger, Vinsic 20000mAh External Battery Back Phone Charger for iPhone X iPad Samsung Galaxy Cell Phones Tablet https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00ZH33Q6U/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_8703AbZRDXJQH

This battery charger did NOT need to be charged my entire trip! I charged my cell at night and while out I was able to draw full battery time every day that I needed it. You can charge two devices at once. I swear by this battery that once you get it you will never buy another battery pack in your life and it’s approved for flying!!

The one thing I would elect to do is to get a rental car. Arizona is do dense that Uber and Lyft really added up for me. Thankfully I was prepared for the cost, if you want to save a few dollars do rent a car. I just didn’t want the responsibility of having to drive and I enjoyed being able to be carefree with not having to drive.

I accomplished my goals of relaxing and having a great time. While away I was able to finalize my next moves and upon my return I have some new moves that I will blog when it’s time to. I am super grateful for the down time. I know my fam bam is excited to see me and I look forward to hugging them tight and to know all those meals I prepped has given me a few more days of not having to cook.

Shout out to my husband for not stifling me as I continue to grow in my personal development. When I booked he didn’t side eye me once. He encourages this growth so I can be the best woman I can be and in return has been making me the best wife and mother. This self journey has been going strong for over a year from the inside out. Also thanks for following my Uber and Lyft rides so you knew I was safe!

Shout out to my family and close friends who checked in with me and allowed me space to enjoy my time.

Shout out to my readers who enjoyed the blogs I left on my Facebook page while I was away. I definitely didn’t log into my pages while I was gone! Now it’s time to shift into my annual Toibration 10 day birthday countdown and activities and start all of the Mother Day blogs. Some will be reposts and others fresh blogs!!

Thanks for taking the time to read about my solo trip and if you’re ever needing some down time, Arizona is a spot you should put on your radar!!

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Ask Toi: How Do you Tell your Friends to Watch their tone with you?

You have to just tell them.  This notion of allowing folks in the name of friendship speak to you anyway suggests that you are keeping them even in an unhealthy state just to keep them around.  That’s the same notion used in some romantic relationships just for the sake of not being alone. I know you want to preserve relationships and of course blowing up at everyone is frowned upon but real friends should be open enough to speak the truth in love.  I think sometimes we forget that keeping real can go left sometimes and you must have a little finesse when you deal with other humans.  People have things in their life and on their heart that not everyone needs the in your face approach or the let everything happen approach.  There is a balance but you are the ONLY one who control that.

From what I gather you have allowed a build up go on way too long and you need to address the relationship as a whole. It sounds more to do with if that friendship should stick than it does with tone.  As adults you aren’t going to necessarily get it right all the time, but friendships are a choice unlike family.  If you choose this relationship in more than one way, then you need to find out what attracted you to it in the first place.  Keep in mind that not everything can remain.  So that means that there are times when relationships can run its course.  You don’t sound as if you are just someone in a tiff with a friend but more you are recognizing the unhealthy part of the relationship.  You have two choices, keep some control of how you allow folks to speak to you, or let it continue while you get frustrated and mad that you didn’t speak up.  I would suggest you speak up when things are being said and if that doesn’t work, you may need to figure out the extent of the relationship and let it take its natural course.  Also you have to own some responsibility.  I have had friends who for various reasons have crossed lines, but it’s not the habitual line stepper that was the issue it was my issue for not making others respect me.

Real Love: Friendship Edition

So I have been documenting my journey during various stints of my life.  I have talked extensively about moving to Philadelphia from Lancaster and how hard it was for me to adjust to life in general. I STRUGGLED. There were a lot of reasons why.  I had great friends at home in Lancaster.  I was newly pregnant with baby number 2 and a toddler as I moved into my fiance at the time’s home.  It was too much at one time and I was trying to act like it wouldn’t be a problem.  In my mind I am like I got this.  However I didn’t have it and I was too self-centered to reach out to others to tell them the REAL of how much I had been suffering but feeling like someone should just know what is wrong and rescue me.  Guess what?  I had to rescue myself.  Many didn’t know. I didn’t open up and I didn’t talk about it either.

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One of the areas that suffered the most was friendships.  All of them took a hit.  Not one was okay in my eyes.  It wasn’t that friends left me because they didn’t.  I lost the access that I once had or at least I felt that I had.  Do you know how hard it is to maintain friendships even an hour and a half away?  When you can’t drive as often as you want due to the hassle of having a toddler and a growing belly?  Listen, I didn’t invite any friends over because anybody who knows me and knows my ambitions would think (in my head) that I had accepted the very bottom by moving in with my fiance and his mom.  Now let me be clear that is how I FELT.  There was nothing bottom about taking on a plan to make sure you are secure and making sure that things aligned well as long as YOU have a self-care plan and I had ZERO!  I never let folks know not even my parents what my plan was and how having that plan is what has caused me to have a better life even now.  I just moved and acted like I was crazy in love and I was but it was a purpose for it all.

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So after I had my son and even after the birth of my youngest and last child I struggled to get out and make friends.  I am not one of those people who believes in having a thousand friends instead I believe in smaller solid circles.  To build a circle I compared them to friendships I had for over 20 years and they can’t be on that same level.  However after some self-care, some get over yourself, after some mental relief I have been able to establish some new friendships and they are proving to be something so powerful.  My new friendships have NOT replaced old ones but they are showing me that you can open your heart and life to another person and be whole.  I have learned that I can be the friend I want others to be towards me.  In that I have learned that the love will not look the same either.  We have to be willing to put it out and weed the wrong ones out.  That is a process.  It doesn’t happen overnight.

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One of my friends I will call her K is amazing.  I didn’t realize I needed her in my life until she came in and I allowed her the space.  I find that she is super refreshing and super encouraging.  If anybody would follow our daily videos or texts they would call us weirdos. I find that the love that she gives adds to me and makes me want to be a better woman and mother.  She checks me when I need it but her approach isn’t to cut.  I have had friends who kept it too real but didn’t have the finesse to be able to know where I was at moments and it would hurt my feelings.  I also didn’t speak up about the hurt either. I didn’t want the backlash. That is not a real friendship if you can’t say hey you are doing something that isn’t sitting well with me and I need you to stop.  I am glad that I am open to the kind of love where someone gives me the love I need and not the love they think I need and isn’t willing to change. I have had several budding relationships in the last 5 years and they are ALL super amazing.  They all have taught me so much about myself.  They all are a blessing.  I don’t have to pick and choose love I can have it all and having girlfriends in my life is necessary and beautiful at the same time!  This notion that having girls who are friends to avoid cattiness is ridiculous.  That only happens when you choose the wrong ones.  I have had to cut a few of those off too in the last 5 years or even just let nature take control and not see them as much too.  My friends old and new are making me better in this thing called life.  I am honored to have each of in my life.

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Monday Reset

Good Monday morning.  I know its hard to start your week off right on days when you don’t feel you are at your best.  Today is one of those super soaker rainy days when all you want to do is get in bed.  I right now want to be curled up in my bed with my laptop and a few magazines but life calls.

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I remember on days like today when I want to escape that Mondays are the beginning to the end of the week. I can’t get to Friday without starting my Monday off right.  I have a lot on my plate and that means that I need to push forward and pass how I feel.  I have to reset my thinking to crush these goals.  I still have to show up.  Above showing up on a Monday, I need to be clear.  As much technology that we have, I still thrive on to do lists.  I still thrive on writing down goals so when I complete them I can go to the next goal.  So with that being said, reset your thinking. I looked back at things that didn’t work last week and made changes according to what will set this week on fire. Is it getting up earlier and getting things done?  Is it preparing things differently?  Whatever that looks like for you, you have to do.  Your week and life depend on changed attitudes and mindsets.  So set yours on fire by shaking the Monday blues and getting clear on what you want to do and what it will take to get there!

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Weight Managment Help

A reader asked for actual tips of how I lost the weight and he/she is losing weight for health reasons and feels stuck.  First let me say I am not a weight management guru or a doctor so the first place to start if you haven’t given much thought is with your doctor.  For months I have been advocating for people to go and get a complete health check up.  FYI what you don’t know can kill you literally.  It’s not like mail that you pile up and leave alone you must inquire. The doctor can do a full work up and give you the information necessary to make your workout work for you.  You can’t do what everyone does without knowing the battle.  It’s your blueprint to being successful.

Whatever your doctor suggests that you eliminate do so.  I have no gall bladder and when my health was declining regardless of what I was doing and my weight went up, I had to get serious.  I want to be here for myself and my family.  Take a notebook with you and if you can write down things you have noticed.  Do NOT be ashamed of anything that is going on. Put pride to the side and ask questions.  Take notes so you can refer back to them when you get home. If there is something you want to change in your diet, ask while there.  Stay away from some of the fads until you get clearance.  Not everyone can do Skinny Tea and be okay.  Other factors play a huge factor in what you take in.

Game Plan

What do you want to achieve?  Write it down.  I would suggest a fitness planner.  There are some free ones online or go to Etsy and download one there for less if you don’t want to go into the store and buy one.  I have had both of them and they work. It allows you to hold yourself accountable for everything you eat.  Weight loss is 80% food and 20% working out.  So more than half of your issues comes from what you eat.  Change it and do it slow and work your way up.

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Food

Since food is important then lets talk about it.  If you are eating processed foods, lets change it. Fresh fruit and veggies can be prepared a number of ways to make it easier for you to consume.  Be aware that although things like juicing is great it takes away from the fruit you consume too.  I used Weight Watchers to count my food in points.  You can try it or you could write it down and see what you are consuming.  For instance do you have enough protein or are you eating fatty foods that won’t help?  Are you the type that goes to the fast food restaurants all the time because you don’t have time to eat?  Meal prepping will be your friend.  YES its work, but nothing in life is without work nor is it going to be easy. Pick a day to make your meals.  You can make your lunches, dinner and even breakfasts too for the week.  I would start off with a protein and bake that, with an assortment of veggies.  That alone will help.  Learn what snacks you should be eating and pack those.  On Mondays I look like a bag lady trying to bring all this food in but its better to eat with a plan then visit the vending machine eating a bunch of junk.  For meal prep ideas get on a Google search, Pintrest, or get a cookbook.  There are whole books dedicated to healthy meal preparations. Don’t be afraid to try new meals and experiment.  Use fresh ingredients and herbs.  It makes cooking food fun and takes the sting of having to prepare boring food.  Your food should be colorful and added with a lot of fruits and veggies.  Find ways you like them and when you find something you like eat it in moderation.

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Working Out

You are not going to jump into a workout plan and automatically love it. If you did you may not be in the shape you are in.  Mix it up.  The body gets used to workouts so change is good.  I would say if you can’t fathom going to a class by yourself enlist the help of your friends.  Take a class with someone you know.  However often times many of us are not as close to people, moved to a new city, etc and will have to jump in alone. That is okay. Try taking one class a week and then doing a gym workout for another day that week.  You may need to start off with 2 classes and work your way up.  I would also suggest moving all day.  Take the steps instead of riding the elevator.  Get up from a desk job and move. Sitting is the new smoking and just because you sit doesn’t mean you have to be sedentary all day.  Moving jumps your metabolism.  Get moving.  Also I have a lot of at home workout gear too.  I would suggest even looking on YouTube for an exercise that you can do at home if you can’t afford gym memberships.  You can go to a park, or outside and work out.  You can get old school and get a jump rope and do some reps.  Either way there is no reason as to why you can’t get active. You just have to make the decision to get out there and make it happen.

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FitBit Life

Having a fit bit or something that records your steps and movement is super helpful.  There are a lot of them on the market.  You can find one for all budgets.  I recommend an actual Fitbit.  They are a little pricey but they last instead of an off brand one.  They can help you with the APP to monitor sleep, food intake, water intake, and working out.  It can be overwhelming in the beginning and these gadgets help you make sense of it all.

Sleep is your Friend

I know we all have busy lives.  I am a wife, I work full-time, I blog, and I am a mom but let me tell you taking time to sleep verses being in front of the television helps.  Turn off your television it is not taking sleep away from you.  If you need notice then I would suggest getting one of those sleep noise gadgets that you put on that sound like water, etc to help you go and stay to sleep.  I have a stress light that I turn on.  I can leave it on one color or have it change ever so often.  This light helps me go to sleep and stay asleep but television is a no-no in the room all the time. Sleep helps the body rebuild and renew.  Do not count sleep out of your weight management program.

Water

You need water. You have to drink it.  Sometimes when you think you are hungry you are actually thirsty.  So drink up.  I do not like water, well I used to not like water.  Now I just switch up my cups or use a diffuser in the summer months and add fruit to make it taste better but I drink my water.  I try to make it a game by drinking however many ounces a day.  But get it in.  The water will help you flush toxins out of your system.  So drink up.

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All in all understand to be patient.  It will take time.  However you need to be focused on lifetime fine instead of summer time fine.  You want to be healthy all over. Getting in control of your weight and life will help you to be able to eliminate the medications you are on.  Health is more important than looks but you will change the way you look and feel about yourself on the inside and the outside.  It will change you.  You have to be willing to take the first step.  Know there will be a lot of setbacks and you will have times when you are frustrated, but STAY THE COURSE.  You will see results! Keep on pushing! Take the next step to a better tomorrow! Start now.  Please do not do the I am going to start tomorrow bit.  Start now.  Put the donut down, grab a piece of fruit, etc.  Make small changes. You don’t need to carve out time the more you wait the less motivated you will be. Jump while the fire is hot.

 

One year down… weight loss-chronicles

Welp a year has come. I have managed to keep my weight off and in addition I’ve managed to fight through the ups and downs along the journey. I’ve lost around 70 pounds to date but it wasn’t easy having to turn my back on dairy or indulging in my favorite comfort food in excess.

When I first began to lose weight it was more about me attempting to grab my life back. Here I was almost 36, out of shape, miserable in my own skin, and most importantly unhealthy. I have a fluctuating body type. So this simply means that I can go up and down at any given time if I’m not careful even with working out and eating right. To combat that I used the techniques that I leaned in my Weight Watchers class to change my relationship with food.

Depression

It’s one of the worse cause of weight loss to me as it’s more than size, it’s more of a mental road block. It can allow you to have knowledge of what you should do or even should be but it is one of the hardest things to “shake.” Depression had set in quite a number of times and I wore it proudly everyday in each outfit and every look. I tried to over dress. So I wore clothes that were too big. In my mind I needed to cover up my body so no one would see it or see me.

Big isn’t Always Better

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It’s also how I felt I was being viewed by others. There isn’t one thing wrong with big and sexy if done right. I’ve seen some of the most empowering heavy set women who own their sexiness better than a girl on the runaway. However when you aren’t meant to be a certain size your ability to hold on to a sense of sexiness goes out the door. I tried to own it but couldn’t. I wasn’t supposed to be the size that I had gotten. All I did was complain, compare, and fall deeper in the hold of depression. I was over 200 pounds and I wasn’t pregnant as I was being described. I had let myself go.

Lows

We all who have been on a weight loss journey remember the days of counting calories or points. In the beginning you are super excited and then it wears off as you try to re-enter a normal life with normal eating habits. At least that’s what I thought. When I had a high it made me excited but those lows, were a bit much. Feeling like I couldn’t get it together made my low days that much worse. I found myself justifying my emotions as excuses to eat what I knew I shouldn’t have to deal instead of staying the course. The only thing that kept me was learning not to let these moments keep me there and is I had a donut or something bad earlier in the day I didn’t have to wait until the next day to reset.

Pictures Please

I took and continue to take pictures even on the days when my stomach peeks through. Having kids allows them to be great props. However it’s just another mechanism to cope. It was either use the kids or be the photographer and not have to be in the pics. When I first started losing weight I got folks saying why are you taking so many pics. Imagine another grownup asking another grownup why something that didn’t take anything away from them a series of questions?! The pictures are now and was then a way for me to see my progress. I always check the neck and face. I’ve had days when people’s comments seemed to get under my skin and I had to remind myself why I was losing this weight. It wasn’t for likes but more for me to like myself when I had no clothes on. It’s easy to dress your body type and blend, but to like what you see, naked and vulnerable isn’t.

Wardrobe Change

When I first lost weight I was scared, judge-mental and excited to get new clothes. I’ve had to take quite a few outfits back for still buying the clothes that wasn’t my size. Losing weight is great until you can’t lose the weight in your mind. Thank goodness for friends who literally pushed me away from the old size and into my new size. I struggle every time still with clothes. I’m stuck in the middle of yes grab the smaller size to Girl don’t show too much!

So yes I’ve got all kind of tips to help with weight loss but….. the reality is that the journey is up and down and good and bath. The best part isn’t just the weight loss but the ability to be able to be healthy inside and out. For the first time in my life between Surgery and weight loss I’m not anemic. All of my tests are normal. I’m not ashamed to step on a scale and I feel great!

So if you’re struggling with seeing others lose weight and feel like you can’t commit you may be in a situation where you won’t have a choice. You will have to push past bad habits, denying yourself of your wants, feeling defeated to days where after all of your hard work the scale just looks at you and doesn’t move. Whatever your journey presents know that you can do it! You can fall several times throughout but I would rather fall then drop out of my own race!

Take each day and moment at a time. Reset many times! Don’t fall apart as you make change your bad isn’t your worst. Work on portion control and definitely work with your doctor to eliminate or add what you need for your health concerns. Don’t get caught up in diet fads. Don’t compare your journey to someone else’s. It will look different even if you follow the same rules.

Weekly Recap: April 6, 2018

I don’t know about you but let me just say it has been a week for sure.  I know we all feel like whew momma we made it!  I for one have been tried on every side.  I just want to thank the Lord that I am still here, still fighting and attempting to not let things get to me.  So I pray as we go into the weekend that we all would have refreshing weekends.  I for one will be training and relaxing but for once I don’t have a boat load of plans and I am not looking for any either.  Relaxing is at the top of mine! I pray the same for you.  So let’s get into it:

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Personal Goals

I am finally in the 2 week stretch to my personal vacation.  Let me say between my kids and work I am TI-RED! Yes that is spelled correctly, do not adjust your eyes.  It always seems as if when you have plans everything tries to disturb the groove.  I have had to adjust my schedule so many times that white out is my bestie this week.  I have had to move and shift my entire life and I am grateful for the grace to do so.  As challenging as it has been I am grateful for a trainer that has made me keep in shape and eat right.  I have been extra on top of making sure that my eating habits have been on point even for the Easter holiday.  Thanks mom for the amazing food but I limited myself to one plate and stayed the course.  I had to make room for a drink and some treats.  I am well on my way to keeping up with my health goals.  I am pushing through appointments and necessary tests to be sure that I am in my best shape possible.

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Blog Goals

Thank you again for an amazing March with the Women’s History month blogs.  Remember you can check them all out on the blog.  We have been having some amazing blogs this week.  If you have missed a few, click on ToiTime

Whats coming up

I will be taking my vacation for a week so I will not be available for Ask Toi or many blogs.  I have set up blogs ahead of time while out.  I will not be available by email either.  This is my time to unwind, and relax. I look forward to catching up with you when I return. You may see me on social media here and there but that is about it.  I will be unavailable April 20th-27th.  Please be respectful of my time.

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I will be still training for the Broad Street Run that takes place May 6, in Philadelphia.  I also will be attending a Girl Scouts conference on April 27, 2018.  So be on the lookout for those blogs as well.

If you have an anniversary or birthday in April then please celebrate! Toitime loves birthdays and any reason to celebrate is a reason to do it big!

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I am already working on Mother’s Day blogs.  I will be reposting a lot that I have done but I will have some fresh new ones as well Mothers Day is one of the hardest times of the year.  So just know that ToiTime has you in mind as this season comes around again!