I love my dad. There is no debate about that. I think that all dads should be celebrated. The issue with Father’s Day is that we don’t honor them. I know I am not blind to the fact that many dads don’t step up. I get it. I get that some homes only have mothers and grandmothers and women taking care of what should be a two parent job. However, does that mean that as a woman who has an outstanding father I should diminish my love for great dads? The answer is HELL NO!
I see the amounts of money spent on moms and I am like where is the respect for dads? Growing up I could be in the classroom where only a handful of us talked about having one. I felt bad for the ones who didn’t and I still do. However my dad is just a great man so you’re going to have to cry thug tears today if you don’t want to hear about it. Let’s start with my grandfather. Hands down the hardest man I know. I could care less what anyone says, that man is the best. He is over 80 years old and still does odd and end jobs to take care of my grandma. He gets up at like 4 in the morning to start his day. He is the last to go to bed sometimes. He travels and sings and he is the one that feeds everyone and is super helpful. There isn’t anyone in the family that can say a bad thing about him. I am sure he has flaws but as a grandfather he covers everyone married or not. He is there and is consistent. So no wonder my dad is definitely a chip off the block.
My dad is the type that I can call crying and he would stop the world to come to my rescue. Growing up he was hard on us but he definitely showed love. He is THE BEST dad ever. Not just because it looks good to say but off social media and this blog he is there. So when Father’s Day comes around I like to make sure that I give what I can to show him how much I love him and respect him. He has seen me in my worst, still loves me. He has yelled at me when I needed it, still loves me. He has taken me out on our little dates together, still loves me. This man has done it all. He has worked hard at jobs he didn’t even like to support us all. He has stayed up late hours if we were sick and went to work like it has never bothered him. He is the one that everyone knows and respects no matter what. He is just a great dad.
Then go from my dad to my husband. He is the best dad to our kids. He plays with them. He does whatever is necessary. He is the total opposite of what his dad was to him. That’s not a knock to his dad but it is facts. He works hard to make sure that he isn’t giving our kids what he was given growing up. People say that we are a product of our environment but that is a choice. My husband is the dad that sneaks the kids stuff behind my back. Like most dads he gets to play good cop for the most part. The girls have him wrapped around his finger. They give him them eyes and they get what they want. My son is his twin and I swear he uses that to his advantage often. So they have a great dad. I wanted them to have the same experience that I did growing up and I believe they do. My husband is hands down the best dad the kids could have asked for. I want to publicly let the world know how much of a great dad that my dad, my husband, my grandfather and my uncles are to their families respectfully. It is super empowering to know that these men have our families back. I love you all!
So those who have great dads, please celebrate them. Give them the same love you would give your mom. It’s a dual job. They are both equally important. For the ones who experience pain during this holiday, I pray peace and calm. It is hard not knowing what it is like to have your dad take you out as a daughter and show you how a man is supposed to treat you. To know that a man isn’t supposed to hurt you. To know that when the world is crazy that your dad’s voice and actions are to be protecting. If the world gets to crazy that your dad is supposed to raise hell.
Happy Father’s Day to all of the amazing dads in the world. To the ones with secret super hero capes, you will never go unnoticed here at ToiTime. Enjoy your day!!