Bodega Bar and Kitchen

I had the pleasure of attending the Media and VIP night for the grand opening of the Bodega Bar and Kitchen. I was impressed with their offerings as well as their drinks so let’s break this down on what you can expect from this new venture by brothers, Alex and Stavros Vasiliadis and business partner, George Karagiannis. 

This Latin inspired will feature live music, upbeat atmosphere, Latin cuisine and the most amazing hand-crafted drinks. The inside is glorious and full of color and personality. Where can you find all of this and more? Of course, Bodega Bar and Kitchen located at 1223 Walnut Street and it opens this Friday. 

I highly recommend that you at the Bodega on to your night scene. It serves as a great way to grab drinks after a long day of work. If you and a loved one love Latin infused food this would make a great date night as well especially with the lighting. Its going to be a crowd pleasure for sure. I am not sure how many Media and Influencers were there, but it was jammed pack. The Bodega Bar and Kitchen is 950 square feet of space that is extremely Instagrammable due to the 20 feet high ceilings. The bar is 19 feet long and is made from a reclaimed Pennsylvania Sycamore tree. I found some gems that were beautifully obvious and some hidden ones as well. It’s stunning inside. That alone is super inviting.

Look for more seats and patio to be placed to hold more seating as well in the Spring.  Inside now it can hold up to 60 seats. 

Little fact, the space used to be a nail salon. When you look at the insides you wouldn’t even be able to tell and that make me love it more. Some of the materials inside also include articles from the owner’s travel. I love that touch of inspiration. Traveling and being able to see the items from your travel inside of your business is like a vision board dream. 

Food 

Everyone loves to eat and when you are out and about like myself and want to grab a few drinks, food needs to be close in proximity. I will tell you the offerings from the Media event were unique and extremely good. 

The Crispy Brussels

Served with Mimolette fondue, apple, and focaccia these are not your average Brussel sprouts. Bursting with flavor these would many any non-veggie eater into a full-on believer. 

Beet Soup and Salad

Served with Trout Roe, Quinoa, and Hazelnut it was surprising my favorite of the night.

Tasso Corn Beignets

I loved the Red Eye ice-cream, and powered bacon fat was different for me, but it was delicious as well. 

In my opinion the highlight of most of everyone’s delight had to be the Pretzel Fried Pastrami Chicken. It’s the one thing that I kept noticing everyone going for. The smiles from ear to ear let me know that although for me it didn’t beat out the Brussel Sprouts it was everyone else’s delight. It was crispy, good, and hot. I can’t lie and say it wasn’t a runner up to the sprouts but it’s a contender. 

Going forward the menu will break down from garden, snacks, entrees, sandwiches, desserts, and a luxury treat selection. 

I want to shout out the Chef, Shain Wancio. Some of the parings of food I had never had together but the way it was prepared made me a believer.  Presentation to me is everything when you present food to people and the way the care was taken even with so many of us in the room made me super happy to see.  I definitely cant wait to try the extensive food offerings. 

Drinks

Everyone that I know likes a good drink. You already know how I feel. It’s the one reason why I have started a gallon of water a day challenge with my friends so I can reward my evenings with amazing drinks in the city. Bodega Bar and Kitchen has 4 signature drinks Especial Margarita, Ginger Rodriquez, The Diplomat, and The Gypsy Ramblas.

I had the Ginger Rodriquez, and the Especial Margarita.

Let me tell you about the Especial Margarita. I had one made for me at the bar and it was good. Nice and strong but it was something even better about it when I had another later shared with Kory Aversa of Aversa PR and that one was probably the best traditional margarita I have EVER had. I feel as if when it comes to margaritas if you have had one you have had them all but this one tops everyone I have ever had since I began drinking at 21. That within itself speaks whole volumes. 

The Ginger Rodriquez is good as well. It’s made of Orendain Reposado Tequila (which I swore off since college), 10 Ginger Syrup, Lemon-lime juice, and Bar spoon mezcal.

I always end my night if I can with some form of wine and I had the Segura Vidas Sparking Rose and it was amazing like add it to my list of bottles to purchase. 

If you don’t like cocktails or wine and want beer keep in mind that Bodega Bar and Kitchen will also have a beer program that will include beer, ciders, and seltzers too. 

So, I need you to come in and look around for yourself starting this Friday. You might come in for a drink and find that you want to try the food. When you do try it, you will absolutely love the experience.

Hours will be Monday-Friday from 11am until 2am. Also, on Saturday-Sunday it will open from 9am-2am. Happy hour will run Monday-Friday from 5-7pm. Live music along with recorded music will go from Wednesday-Saturday from 10pm until 2am. So now you can eat, drink, and dance if you would like. 

Congratulations Bodega Kitchen and Bar. Thank you and Aversa PR for the invite. You will be seeing me, just be sure to have my Margarita ready and I’ll be in to dance!

 

Wonderspaces Philly

I had the opportunity to view and attend the VIP Media party for Wonderspaces inside of the Fashion District. It was an amazing experience to say the least. Wonderspaces is an interactive art exhibit if I had a way to describe it. It’s a very classy interactive color explosion of wonder that literally pulls on your core senses. 

I am going to break down my top 3 favorite exhibits and give you some things to know along the way. This exhibit is suitable for all ages. However I would caution that some of the exhibits due to the nature of the exhibits. Nothing outside of the dinner party VR would be upsetting to a child but their attention span might not last due to the fact that they aren’t able to jump and play on everything. I would bring a child that is age 5 and up. However for ticket prices kids 3 and under are free so use your own caution. When I went through the exhibits I went thinking about adults with families since I had one. The space is huge. It also has its own sets of doors but you can still get to it wherever you enter the Fashion District. 

Ticket Breakdown

You purchase a ticket during a timed slot. You need to arrive within a 15 minute window of your ticket time. Also you can stay as long as you like but I would leave about an hour and a half to get through it all. During the media event there were about 400 of us and we comfortably was able to get through without any issues. I arrived around 6:30 and stayed to just outside of 8:30.  I did more networking and talking so you might take less time than my 2 hours. You can’t switch your ticket time once it’s purchased. All sales are final.

Adults $24

Student with ID $20

Senior with ID $20

Military with ID $20

Kids 3-12 $15

Housekeeping rules

Kids under 16 need adult supervision so this isn’t going to be a hangout spot for your preteen. There is a coat and bag check but please do not bring in large bags and they might not be acceptable. Also there is a bar with snacks and drinks but no outside food is allowed. I would go over to Wonderspaces and get on their email list so that when there are exhibit tickets as they will change during the year you can be the first to know about it.

Also everyone must sign a waiver. I said it earlier it’s interactive but people with health issues such as Vertigo, dizzy spells may want to refrain on certain exhibits to prevent any of the illusions messing with you. I don’t have any of these issues but my eyes were definitely messing with me. However once you sign the release you release Wonderspaces from any fault. 

Here are my favorite 3 exhibits. I am only giving you three even though if I am honest the WHOLE thing was amazing. Keep in mind this is 24 thousand square feet of greatness. You might find your favorites to be something different.

Dinner Party

It’s one of the Virtual Reality exhibits. It’s interactive of course by its nature but in addition to that it’s also very deep. I would seriously caution allowing young children to view it. It’s about a couple who was abducted by aliens. It’s based on a true story and after viewing it will leave you feeling intense. I have to again preface that for me I would not allow my younger kids to view it. Even as an adult it was a lot. However it was good. I loved the fact that you sit and view it at an actual dinner table. 

Body Paint

Something about being able to control things excite me. Leave it at that. I loved the colors and the boldness of it. I loved how my movements made me feel. Go to my Instagram to see the actual video under More Philly of my highlights. It was so much fun and I felt like I had released so much –a bit deep but once you do it you will understand trust me.

Submergence

You will never forget this light show. You can see this as you enter the space. It’s going to be a great picture moment. Its 12 minutes of lights. Make sure you stay until the end it’s worth it. You will hear everyone tell you that. They aren’t lying. So don’t do like I initially did and go in there and leave before its time and have to walk back. You can walk in and touch the lightings but just be sure not to handle it too rough so that others will have an opportunity to experience it as well. 

I don’t think there was an exhibit that I didn’t like. It’s going tobe one of those experiences that my pictures or anyone else’s will be enough. You will need to experience this for yourself. Let me know when you do.

Wonderspaces opens THIS Friday January 24th. It will be the talk of the town and an amazing addition to the Fashion District. I have to admit it was my first time inside of it since the new renovations but I was super excited to be there.

Thank you Wonderspaces and Aversa PR for the invitation. Thank you Akira for being my date for the evening.

We had the staff cracking up it’s what we do

The food of the evening was absolutely amazing!!

 

Women History Month Apply Today

We are in year 3 of women month here at Toitimeblog. It’s where we show an extra appreciation towards women who are doing things and paving the way. With that being said I want to encourage women from ALL backgrounds to apply to be featured. This is a month long celebration and I can do one blog or more a day. It’s a great opportunity for women to showcase what they have done and where they are headed. There have been some amazing women who have answered the call and helped to shine the light.

I get every year women saying they have nothing to offer that would be an encouragement to others but that is simply not true. From the single mom doing what she can to support her family to the woman who is the head on a board of directors we ALL have a story. Consider sharing the story with those around you. Women run the world of course but while we do we need to learn to encourage the ones under us to be the best versions of themselves. If I listened to others tell me that I have no story I wouldn’t have birthed this blog 5 years ago. The ways in which it grew came from being authentic and I hope it’s a source of help to those who seek to read whether you are simply curious or just want to see what I am up to-let’s keep it going! Thank you to all the women who have done it in the past and if you have any amazing updates I would love for you to come back and share as well!

It’s simple to apply:

Send an email to toitimeblog@gmail.com

Know that when you do I will send you your questions and all you have to do is answer them inside of the email. I will type up your blog and attach a picture of your choosing and if I have questions and most likely I will contact you to clarify your statements. I do the work and we learn a little more about you.

The faster we get the entries I can pre-edit and I will let you know the day that your blog will post. My blog can be set ahead of time (which works for all of us) so that we all can continue living.

SO let’s go ahead and get involved!

We take women serious around here. I don’t allow anyone to be mad fun of here or allow the space to be used for bitter arguments and pettiness. We encourage women to strive to greatness knowing we are going to make mistakes along the way. We walk in grace and allow that grace and hard work to push us ahead. 

I love learning about some of the best women all around the world!

 

The Children by Lucy Kirkwood and directed by Abigail Adams

Over 40 years and an “old friend” seems to have washed onto your door steps. A surprise for sure that is going to bring about some heavy punches of revelation. The Children by Lucy Kirkwood is a mingling of old friendships, crossed lines, environmental disasters and I would even say some blind facts.

Hazel and Robin live a quiet life. After the earthquakes and tsunami, they have learned to alter their lives and move with ease.  They know to limit their electrical use. They learned to manage their meals. Their quiet lives seem to be well managed until Rose shows up unannounced and that’s when secrets are spilled, and the revelations go deep.

First, you notice that the relationship between Hazel and Rose are strained. Hazel is trying to catch up but she’s very uneasy. Her interactions are dry. She’s hospitable but almost in a way that is more obligatory and not out of love. If one of my college friends had shown up, we would have had an amazing reunion of sorts. Not the case here with Hazel and Rose. First, Hazel hits Rose in the nose. In her defense she wasn’t aware that Rose was even in the house. She tries to make things right offering to help clean her up a bit. I knew in the way they moved that something was off, and I couldn’t quite get it. They catch up and Rose wants to know a lot about their oldest. Hazel is guarded about her oldest daughter’s troubles.

Robin comes home after the catch up and awkwardness and I thought to myself I saw a switch in how Robin was acting towards Rose. He seemed to cordial. My suspensions wereconfirmed when Hazel left the room and he and Rose embraced. I was sitting in my sit thinking this had to be some messed up reason that they were too comfortable and crossing the line of Hazel and Robin’s marriage. There was history. Old flames who had reunited and I wondered if Rose coming back was to scoop up the man she might have felt got away. They were hugging and kissing way too tight for my liking. This explains Hazel’s ability to catch up with Rose earlier. They weren’t full on friends. They were like fremies. I don’t think I have any that I know of in my own circle and none that I am aware of that had a past relationship with my husband that could ever pull up and visit on a whelm. 

It’s easy to note that Hazel, Rose, and Robin worked together in the plant many moons ago. They would even say were responsible for the core meltdown. Once the spilling of the old flames started to unravel so did other secrets too. This play has it all. It gets extremely serious when Rose comes in with her own plot twist. Should they make it right for the younger ones behind them? Is this a suicide mission? You already see the down side to the core meltdown in Rose and Robin. I find it interesting that and this could just be because I am married Robin willingly gives information to Rose that he hadn’t shared with his wife. I peeped how even with the years separating them he is very open with her in ways he can’t give Hazel. 

Careful Hazel seems to be the wife of convenience.  I hate to describe her that way, but it seems like responsibility led them into their partnership. They seem to flow more on a guarded sense of marriage. It has worked but you see the loop holes the second Rose showed up. No one should be able to expose loops in a marriage the way its unraveling. Also, Robin’s anger is an issue too. Hes sitting between the woman he’s married to and the one he “once” loved, and his mouth is extremely fluid. I will also point out that this play has strong language so no one under the age of 13 should be in the audience. My mom used to tell me that a man’s anger elevates when he’s messing around or has his emotions tied to another. 

 

 

Here are my take away without giving away the ending:

Life is always a circle. What you do in the past has a way of boomeranging back to you.

Make decisions you can live with and be able to deal with the consequences of those decisions

Fall in love with the one you love not the safe one. Love doesn’t die. It doesn’t go away. You can’t simply move on as people would like to make you think

Let grown kids fall sometimes. I am a mother I get that I have reached that stage, but I had examples of allowing kids to fall and figure some things out. You can’t do it all for your kids and expect them to thrive.

I had a great time as usual. This play although has its seriousness it is hilarious. I love the energy between the actors.  As always People’s Light did a wonderful job bringing this production to light. It has a lot of humor even some dry humor because I found myself laughing at times when others might not have caught on to a side dig. I also love how welcoming People Light’s staff are. Not even with me but with others.  

One of the highlights that People’s Light has the new Smart Caption Glasses. Smart Caption Glasses provide customizable in-line captioning of the play’s text within smart glasses. This is a great partnership with the Institute on Disabilities at Temple University and the National Theatre of Great Britain. People’s Light is the only theatre in United States to have this amazing technology bringing theatre to all audiences and meeting the needs of the patrons at the same time. 

You can get your tickets by going to www.peopleslight.org

Remember there are tickets available as group sales, dinner and a show sale, brunch and matinee sales, after show actor talks, etc.

People’s Light is a theatre that cares about its patrons and I love being in their presence. Thank you, People’s Light, for having me. Thank you, Carrie Gorn, as well. I can’t wait for the next production.

 

Harrietts Book Store

 People say that book stores are no longer necessary due to eBooks, E-readers, etc. Content a lot of it anyway can be found online. I beg to differ. I was told the same thing when I started blogging. I was told it was a completely saturated field and people only wanted to influence aka be online and take pictures. Thank goodness Jeannine didn’t listen the naysayers.

Comfort place

Bookstores are my number one place that I personally go to get centered, get some quiet, have peace, sometimes create, and to unwind from stress. Its always been my number one go to growing up. If I said I needed to go to my retreat a lot of close family and friends knew I was headed to the bookstore where I would spend literally hours just escaping and having the time of my life. I have always been an avid reader. I was in my car and I saw a post about Harriett’s Bookstore. I was shocked. There was a new and even Black woman owned bookstore in Philadelphia and I wasn’t aware of it? The sheer excitement came over me. I immediately contacted Jeannine so I could come and interview her and check out the space.

My firsts impression was that it’s a beautifully aesthetic. The vibe is absolutely perfect. Jeannine greeted me with a smile, incense burning, quiet, and breathtaking. I felt at home, loved, and honored just to walk into the store. When I tell you how much peace is felt I can’t describe it. Its like being at a family member’s home who you trust who also makes the best comfort food. What I love about it is you are surrounded by books and artist who are women. Women who may or may not have a large following but are dedicated to their craft. Jeannine wanted to give space to the underdogs. One of the best ways you can support women is by giving them space to be the artist that they are. Support by buying their pieces.  Support by rallying behind them and that is exactly what Jeannine is doing.

Why Harrietts?!

I asked her why the name Harriett. She let me know that she spells the traditional Harriet with two T’s. It is to honor Harriet Tubman. As a child she felt drawn to her spirit.  When she was younger her and her sisters did a resurrection of the ancestors as a piece and she choose Harriet Tubman. Jeannine is an educator as well as a writer and a creative. She wrote a piece from the perspective of what Harriet Tubman would be saying if she was whispering in her ear, “It’s me they follow, it’s me they follow.” This piece also was taken, and an artist made it into an interpretive dance almost 10 years ago. Harriet Tubman took Courage in stepping out and helping to free slaves and Jeannine is using the same courage to step out and do what others said she couldn’t, open a book store and make it a community hub.

She recalls writing an email to her sister complaining about this idea of a book store and her sister resent her an email that she had sent with the same complaint. It was like a gut punch to the chest. Here she was in the same space with this burning idea and she had not brought it to fruition. Ideas never die. They simply wait for you to breath life into them. Jeannine knew what she had to do but how could she remain fiscally responsible being a single mother and leap into her dream? “Once you commit to a dream nothing can stop it” and that’s what Jeannine did.

Local artist Ivy the Vine

Courage

We see the things that Harriet Tubman did. Did that mean she did them without fear? No. Courage is walking in the face of fear knowing that you are prepared to do whatever it takes to see something through. Interesting enough Jeannine mother is blind. She grew up in times where her mother would either have limited sight or no sight at all yet in still, she traveled the world and took care of others. Do you not see the strength that Jeannine comes from? Oh, and if that isn’t enough to just channel the spirit of Harriet, Jeannine’s mother parent name was Courage. It all ties into who she is and what she is becoming. That sent chills up my spine and let me tell you why. When you walk in your purpose, things will align just like that even if a hurdle or two comes up. The ancestors are walking with Jeannine. There is no bigger figure in history that exudes courage like Harriet. She could have saved a few and no one would have judged her, but she took this courage knowing it could cost her life and she trekked on. 

One of the most important things that has carried Jeannine is discernment. She has it and it helped her along the way. Its been principle when people even in love told her that this was a silly idea. Silly in theory to go against practicability vs responsibility. To start something that others deemed would be a lost in profit along the way, yet she sold out of books just from opening her doors and hasn’t even had the Grand Opening which is scheduled for February 1st. Her goals are to not only have a book store but to be a community hub. She has made sure she puts a dog treat bowl out. Makes sure its always warm and welcoming. She’s even working with Swarthmore to have teachers come and set up a children’s room so that young kids can experience an open the conversation about activism and community involvement early on.  

Crossing the list

Jeannine was super nervous about crossing this milestone that was year in the making. From taking this idea from inception, complaint and sitting it down to picking it back up and turning it into what is Harrietts. 

If we could learn something from Jeannine is that not all ideas are safe. Stepping out in courage like Harriet Tubman doesevoke the love of courage-while supporting women activist and authors as they continue their own journey of success is going to keep Harrietts here for quite some time.

Harrietts is open daily from 10-6:00pm. How we can support is come in and purchase a new book from amazing authors. Support by taking space here and coming in droves to bring others in.

Thank you Jeannine and I appreciate your extensive collection-I also made my own purchase Toni Morrison’s Home! I plan to finish this as I travel at the end of the month.

Feel free to also come and be at the Grand Opening on February 1, 2020!

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Monday Motivation: Blue Monday

Today is blue Monday. It represents the fact that today is the MOST depressing day of the year. Now if you grew up in the church like I did you aren’t allowed or shouldn’t speak “things into existence.” To speak about the most depressing day of the year means that you are speaking or willing it to be so. That is not the case. We are going to acknowledge it because it is a real issue that many can’t simply pray away. The factors that went into the study of Blue Monday deals with financial, motivation, and weather. Winter is and will always be associated with seasonal depression. The cold and gloom of the season attributes to it. So no we aren’t willing something that many face. We are actively speaking on it.

Disappointment of it all

The disappointment of having those around you not think enough of depression to be a valuable discussion can hurt. You want the people close to you to see YOU. It’s hurtful when they don’t. Why are they saying things like, “you’re trippin!” “Get over it!” Sometimes because to acknowledge your issues is to acknowledge their own. However you are going to have to get to a point where you take your own personal journey of depression into your own hands. Can you survive another person’s inability to see your depression and also find ways to combat it? Absolutely you can without the love and support of those you love. It’s hard. I have been in that place. But I do know that me having more days of less depressive moods or having the necessary tools to fight when a depressive mood comes is more important than faking it for a crowd. 

Image Check

Also let’s talk about when people tell you or you feel like you are disappointing this image they have of you. This representative that we use on a daily can be great. For instance I am a blogger who seems to be in the in crowd in the city. And nothing about that is false except where I post pretty pictures I equally talk about the fact of when I am having issues behind the lens. Some of your favorites wouldn’t because they are afraid of what others would think. I think for me I have had the closest folks near me betray me in ways I wouldn’t have thought that what strangers think doesn’t seem to matter. End of the day I share because as human we share like experiences. There is a woman like myself telling herself that because she deals with depression she’s not good enough to be loved. That is a lie by the way. You are loved and loveable. You are strong even in the lowest of an episodic depressive mood. We are complex and to smile through pain without checking into yourself to work through it will set you up in the long run. We aren’t poster board. Even if we were I want someone to see relatability in me not because I am pushing a product or experience. I want them to lay down on their pillows with more days of peace than anguish because this lie of what we put out doesn’t match our soul’s desire and issues that have to be worked out daily. 

Depression isn’t weakness

I will forever say this. I say this not just because I too fight with it, but because its true forever. It takes a lot of guts to stand in a place and say I need help. It takes a lot of loving yourself or wanting more for yourself to take the initial step of calling on professionals to help. You have to do what you have to do. Being better and going through personal healing will depend on your ability to stand up for yourself and make life better. There is no magic fix with depression. I know that a lot television and movies show people laying on couches of therapist and coming out happier than when they went. That is a lie if there ever was. Sometimes it’s so draining I have had to go to sleep. I have been angry or sad after leaving. It’s hard to pour your soul and think that this instant happiness and smiles will appear. You are setting yourself up for failure. One time I left therapy and sat in the car of the parking lot for an hour just staring into space trying to take in what happened in the actual session. 

So on today’s Monday Motivation let’s talk about depression. Let’s talk about it looking really dressed up and happy on the outside but with sadness on the inside. Let’s talk about the loneliness that it feels as if you are the ONLY one going through it. Let’s also talk candidly that like you and like me we are all connected. We don’t have to not talk in order to deflect. It’s more support out here than you think. How about the fact that we can be ourselves and take breaks when we need them. We are complex and beautiful humans.

There are options

Talk to someone if you need it! I have several that I reach out more in the winter months than any other time. It doesn’t take a big crowd just a few or even one person you love. Write it out so that if you make the decision to see a therapist you know where to start. I have taken my journal to show how I think when I and deep into a depressive mood. Get encouraged. Know that you aren’t alone. Even if you need medication to help you aren’t a failure. I have said many times about needing medication when I was in the middle of postpartum and how those around me either told others I wouldn’t have even told or they acted as if I was on “white people” stuff because I wanted to be better. Getting help in the Black community is like playing Russian roulette. Change the conversation. Getting help is about self-preservation only. In order for me to be truly happy I have to be willing to get the help that I need. 

Reshuffle your goals today! What are the most important things to you. One step even if it’s not giving you a result is still a step in the right direction. Be realistic; Rome wasn’t built in a day! Be kind to yourself! Give yourself the grace you extend to others!

Solidarity

I stand with those who are going through this. Those who aren’t be someone’s light today and every day. Instead of speaking out on things you don’t know, get educated. You can be someone’s stumbling block because you speak from a place of ignorance or arrogance. Choose to be someone that someone else can confide in instead of someone where they have to walk light around. 

 

Sunday Message: Your tribe Matters

It’s one thing to be born into a family and not be able to choose who you are around. It’s another to consistently pick the wrong tribe and blame it on others.

Often times the one you choose reflects who you are. That can change from time to time. When I was in college not all of my college friends reflect who I am today! I’ve changed. My tribe has changed as well. It’s very rare to be who you are through all phases in life. Life changes and so does your taste in friends. It’s okay to acknowledge when something no longer works! It doesn’t mean you are stuck up or that you are being mean to people just because you are choosing to expand your circle.

Who’s in the circle?

Ask yourself why you hang with whom you hang with! Do they build you? Are they one sided? You know the friends who want you to uplift every achievement who won’t even say congratulations to even the biggest or smallest of things! Does your circle include those who make you genuinely feel loved? Do they remember the important days? Do they make you feel like you need to step up! Are they truly in your corner? If you answer anything in the negative about your circle it’s time to change the circle a bit!

Natural Progression

Sometimes instead of wrecking shop and upsetting the balance you could especially for friends who don’t do as much let the relationship have a natural fizzle! This means you could simply allow the lack of communication etc. continue! After awhile it will fade and you can let it fade or you can have a conversation and speak genuinely to the person to let them know you are just going into separate directions! This is for adults! Meaning kid and kid like folks who want to play games this isn’t for you. To be an adult means that at times you need to have uncomfortable conversations. It doesn’t feel good to end things but it’s necessary.

Cut the Cord

There are times when you can’t let things naturally progress. You have to be super clear about the intentions and cut folks off. You can do this a number or ways. I like direct conversations. Sometimes you can talk it out and find ways to mend even at the moment of ending it! However there is no need to keep people in your life who don’t even serve a greater good for you. Why? What’s the point? I get some folks have been in your life but longevity doesn’t equate to meaningful forever stay. Some folks are super mean and they don’t think you will ever walk away because you haven’t in the past. In 2020 we need to have conversations about what works and what doesn’t and it’s okay to be the adult that you are and acknowledge it’s time to cut the cord. You can wish folks well and distance yourself! You don’t have to be mean to tell people you are done!!

Know yourself

Do you get mad and easily irritated and take that out on your friends? Sometimes it’s not your tribe that’s the issue it could be you! Sorry to say that there are some who tear their friend circle with their own hands. You can’t be so demanding. Every group has a natural leader or two! Just because you are the leader doesn’t mean you can demean others. If you are the cause of many frictions deal with you! I’m the type that looks in first before I point out to others! You might really need to do a self check in how you act with those around you.

So it’s one thing to not be able to pick family but you need to work on your tribe! Your tribe is all about who you allowed into it! You can’t get mad at the tribe you picked!

Let’s clear the path for those around us to help us to be our best versions!!! Let’s define the tribe!