Since the days have been a little crazy and I haven’t blogged in a few days I figured why not today? So if you read my last recap than you know that I am preparing my house and myself for my hysterectomy. I figured since I have now had my gall bladder and appendix removed and outside of child-birth would be done with surgeries, but I am not. As I handle the logistics like meal prepping, laundry and cleaning (as if that will ever be done) my mind is all over the place.
Another issue that has come up is that I had to get a mammogram. I have never done it before until yesterday’s appointment. Let me dispel all of the horror stories and say that it isn’t life changing in the fact that you hurt so bad you can’t think. It is uncomfortable. It feels what ladies feel at the first few days of your menstrual when you are sore. It was painless and didn’t take long. I was pretty optimistic that things would go well until I got the results 30 or so minutes later and now I have to go back next week and have the procedure redone. Now before I allowed my mind to take me there with a grandmother and mother who have had their dance with breast cancer, the technician warned me since it was my first time I most likely would be called back. The reason is simple, there are no images to compare if there really is something wrong. So next week I will be back. Until there is a reason to worry I won’t.
One of the things I can’t stress enough is for ladies, please do monthly self breast exams. They are yours-touch them and make sure all is well. Breast cancer is devastating but what’s more devastating is having a line of defense to feel when something isn’t right but not use it. Be vigilant about your reproductive health as well. There aren’t a lot of do overs in the reproductive world. You need to care about yourself enough to check yourself.
So in the next week things are going to get crazy. My kids will be starting camp and finishing their last week of school. I will have had the surgery and my husband will be the one that the kids run to the most until I heal. I am okay with it. I have talked to many women that have all suggested a few things and one of the top things that all of them have stated was to be good to myself during this process. It’s a bit nerve-racking when I think and wonder if I will have to do hormone therapy and how that will affect me and my family mostly. I will be talking to the doctor about that in-depth.
Emotionally one of the things that I have felt was like wait I really can’t have anymore kids. It went away but it was a bit overwhelming. It wasn’t something I felt when I got my tubes tied after my 3rd child. I had no sadness in me until I found out about this hysterectomy. I can’t explain it but I know that other women have gone through it. It was like I was at a funeral. You know me and funerals never get along. So after about 15 minutes of this semi despair feeling I was okay. I got myself together. I was able to move on.
On a happier and lighter note, my son, my bubs graduates from preschool today. If you know me know nothing else I make all celebrations big. Now don’t get me twisted I am not inviting the masses or throwing a party. I do things like decorate his room, and just make him feel overall special. He has picked where he wants to go out to eat, just a day of showing him how super proud of him we are. He moved from one school to this amazing school and since he has been super happy. Seeing how unhappy he was before and now is such a relief. Listen let me say on a side note when you have good kids and they start getting into trouble, do your research. Find out what is going on. I noticed with my son he would tell us things and we would ask things and it wasn’t adding up. However what I should have done months ago was moved him. I felt it inside of me and didn’t act. I was more concerned with having all 3 kids in different schools. It’s a lot trust me but his happiness is worth it. He is smiling everyday at drop off and pick up. He has friends who parents are more geared to how we raise our kids. That matters trust me.
My job as a parent is to correct him when he needs it and celebrate him always. We are going to do that. He is super ready for kindergarten but I am not sure if kindergarten is ready for him!! This beam of light is going to be something amazing and not just because he is my child, but because he is determined to be great! Super congrats MJ!!
Well I hate to be the bearer of bad news or good news depending on how you see it, but a new Year is coming soon. I know everyone will wait until after Christmas to start their new me, new this and that but wouldn’t be nice to do things a different this year?
Instead of waiting, actually put an action plan in place. How many years have gone by and you say the generic I want to do (insert desire) but you say it but don’t make a sure plan to do it? I am sure quite a few. It’s time to change that mentality and actually make a real plan. Get things in order. Get your house which can be the place you lay your head as well as your personal house the place where your soul and heart dwells together too.
Either way its time to do and not just talk. I am serious. Anything worth having is worth some work. I know we are used to instant. We want an update, instant. We want food, drive through-instant. We want to shop-instant. Now you can shop without even having to get out of your car to pick it up. We are used to the right now. Let’s take that same mentality and put some action behind it. For my house we do a vision board party. We go and get some supplies, use my old magazines and get it done. Some people are visual like me and it helps to see what I need to do. So for instance my house has their vision boards in their rooms. So we look at it often and talk about what we can do to complete a certain goal. We have completed quite a few individually and collectively. Yes the kids have their own too. Now for them it may seem more of an art project, but can you imagine them getting in their spirit now how to get a plan and work their plan? They are going to have the potential to be great in their own rights. It’s never too early to get the little people thinking in the right direction.
So what say you? You spending time only getting things right for the holidays? Your future can wait right? Nope. Get a jump-start now. For instance the dreaded lose weight that people want to do yearly. You only go hard for the first 2 weeks maybe month in January but that’s it. Why not hang your ideal wish outfit at your eyesight. Get a new gym bag and actually pack it. Get you a new water bottle. Get you some indoor videos or work out gear so that when it snows or rains you can still push. Hope about use the holidays the time to get it. Catch the sales. Give others who ask your list and go from there. Again you can work it if you are about a little action. Get a new work lunch bag that you love. It will help you plan ahead so you can begin packing healthier snacks instead of change for the vending machine or not eating at all. See how that works?
How about the new job plan? Have you had someone take a fresh pair of eyes to your resume? Have you printed new copies to go into your padfolio for the upcoming interviews you are going to score? Have you gotten a new interview outfit and shoes? Sales people. Use this time wisely. Even if you hate the holidays you can still love these discounts. Have you updated the many useful job search websites? Have you gone to a few networking events that are held now during this holiday season? No. Then you have not exhausted all of your means. Finding a new job is sometimes a full-time job. You need to be spending your time working a new plan now and not wait until the influx of resumes start loading up on New Years day. Will people hire during the holidays? Not necessarily but they so start looking and putting their plans into place.
This new way of thinking can be applied to all areas of your life. So its time to get moving towards your new future. It’s all in how you create it. One can’t simply pray without works. What are you worth? I hope you see the value in yourself so others can see the same thing. Put your action to where you mouth is….
So I have had straight A’s since the second grade. Even the raggedy 5th grade teacher that I had that attempted to change my grades because I was just “going to have babies anyway,” couldn’t stop my drive. I took and graduated from the International Baccalaureate program at my high school. I was apart of the first class of graduates from the program. I had been wined and dined by many colleges but I decided to go to Pennsylvania State University. I was offered a full scholarship and with other local scholarships my college was financially was looking great.
My first day on campus I was a nervous wreck. I really enjoyed the happy environment that “happy valley” showed me. I already knew a few people on campus and so for a freshman I was feeling myself. I felt like I had the social life down. I didn’t but that’s how I felt. So as time passed and we had that extended weekend to get settled, and meet new people it was time for classes to begin. So I walked into my classes so ready to learn and meet new challenges. However when I stepped into my math class it really made me rethink why I had come to college to begin with. This teacher was from another planet. He just went too fast and I couldn’t grasp the information. He had to classes were like 50 minutes and he meant to “teach” you in that little bit of time. At Penn State he might have taught 10 more classes that day the same way. It really was a huge campus and we all had to have this class for our general education requirements.
I will call this math teacher Richard. It’s no where what his actual name was but Richard will do. Richard was a hard teacher. He had been teaching for years but it was something about his teaching style initially that I didn’t like. So I knew I was going to have to work harder in this one. Math was never my favorite but I excelled in it before. As I knew I hadn’t gotten the first lesson, I just kept going I of course got a little cocky. Here I was a student who had competed with students all around the world and still found success so I didn’t study hard. I did minimal work and then that first exam came, I failed it! Not even like barely passed failed, nope like the type of fail where I’m sure the points I had gotten was for getting my name right. I had never failed at anything and I didn’t tell anyone about it initially.
To some students it would be no big deal however for a student like me I was devastated. I remember me not saying anything for the first day of receiving my grade. I was shocked, afraid and in the back of my mind I kept thinking I was going to lose my scholarship. I did the most hardest thing ever and that was call my parents. I didn’t even speak. My mom gave her normal what’s up buttercup line and I just started crying. She couldn’t even understand what I was saying. I could hear her mom voice about to go into extra because the way I cried you would have thought I was physcially hurt. I hadn’t been on campus a month. Once I got settled and finally told her what happened she was like okay calm down. She told me to go and meet with the teacher during office hours and ask for extra help. She told me that college wasn’t high school. She reminded me that I was on campus with a million other kids that are scholars in their own right and I was going to have to work smarter not harder. My dad agreed and told me I would be alright. He said go get yourself together and do what I had to do. I did.
I met with the teacher and passed that class with an A. Go figure. I couldn’t rely on my smarts, I had to work. I wasn’t the top of my class. At Penn State I was one of…. I had to humble myself and learn the new way of learning. I wasn’t in a small town with small classes of kids I had been in school with forever. The main campus where I attended had thousands of undergrad and graduates. So it helped me to fail that class. I learned about all of the academic support that was available. I learned to navigate better. I was able to see my weakness for the first time. That lesson has helped me in my personal life. I’ve bad many trials in my life, but I am able to know that I can’t do it all. There will be times where I will need help and it’s okay to speak up. If you are in college, thinking about college, or a freshman please learn to utilize all academic support. They come in handy for many classes. They can help with papers, etc. They are an endless wealth of assistance but you have to be willing to go to them. It worked out in the end for my good. I may have had more challenging classes since then but I didn’t fail in more exams becasue I learned how to get it together.