It’s 7 days before Christmas and with that in mind, let me answer a few Ask Toi that have been sent my way these last couple of days. Keep in mind that in order to submit a question, please email them to firstname.lastname@example.org
Although I am preparing for Christmas, end of the year, etc I will always and forever be available via email or any of my toitimeblog social media sites
- What do I do if I am early in the dating stage and the new boo family gives a gift to me? ANSWER: One I would always go to a family event even as a new dater, with a hostess gift. Ask the boo if the family drinks, or bring something that can be used in the home. It doesn’t have to be expensive. This holiday season I bought these wine bottle holders from Michaels for 3 for $5 and one bottle can be around 10 so there’s a gift for under 20. Do not feel the need to get anything that is too personal yet. You want to be appropriate and welcoming. Be yourself and enjoy the time.
- Do I have to go to all of these holiday parties? ANSWER: No. I would get the list of parties that you are going to and go to the ones of those who you are the closest. I know that some folks will be bummed but the reality is no matter how much money you may or may not have, holiday parties can become expensive. You have to be smart in how you do them. If you want to go to them all, then do. Find a black number, and dress that same outfit a number of ways. If you are asked to make something, find a signature dish that you know will take little to no effort like a pasta salad. Make sure you know how long you want to attend and make an entrance as well as an exit.
- My family can be a handful, how do I politely tell my new boo that I do not want him to interact with the fam bam just yet? ANSWER: Go to your individual celebrations with your own family and meet up and do something that is just for you and the new boo. Let the new boo that you don’t want to bring them around just yet. This will only work if you are being truthful and honest. If you have multiple boos and you trying to be slick, trust and believe things will reveal themselves. Don’t ghost you’re new boo just because you aren’t sure of where you, spend time with them and make them feel like you are trying to put in the energy you want in return.
Keep in mind that no matter what stage of life you are in, not everyone is in a jolly spirit. This doesn’t mean you need to water down who you are and what you want to please them. Be yourself and enjoy or not enjoy it as you seem to fit. If drama is on your menu, kindly exit stage left. People all around the world are practicing self-care and don’t be surprised if a few of them look at you sideways or exit left. Don’t nobody have time for the foolery any year.