So Fall is going to be here in a few days. Yes. So I can stop hearing all of those complaining folks talking about relax. Nope now you can go and relax. Let people live. Let the Fall lovers have their time I don’t want to have to Kanye anyone over my favorite holiday but I will. I digress. Anyway with the Fall fast approaching I have made some new Fall work out/weight loss goals that I believe will help others too. Fall is the beginning of cuffing season as well as it’s the comfort food season. People will start making pies, cookies, mac and cheese, and before you know it 10 pounds have snuck up on you. To combat the heavier weight problems I have made up my personal goals that takes the edge off of everything.
I am breaking all of the Fall holidays into smaller goals. My overall goal is to maintain the weight I am in and by New Years not have to make a lose weight goal. Yes that means being at my goal weight and keeping it off. That in itself is a full-time goal. However if I look at the whole goal it may be too intimidating so here is how I am breaking up my goals.
I have a walk and a 5K at the end of the month. So all month-long, I have been working out. I started out 3 days a week but as the month quickly ends I have been hitting the gym EVERYDAY. This means when I am sick, when the weather is gloomy, nothing is stopping me from the workout. This has helped as I have noticed how much stronger I have gotten. This will help me on the run as I do not want to be the last one running. I want to be able to come out of that race with pride. I also have a girls trip the first weekend in October. Because of the closeness of the dates I will be good to go as I know I will indulge in some food that weekend too. My hope is we do a lot of walking. If not I will have to do like I do at home on the weekends and work out with the things that are around us. No I could care less if it’s just one weekend. I worked out just fine when I went to Chicago for my birthday so this girls trip will be no different. I woke up when others was sleep and did what I had to do.
The only issue I am facing is that with my hysterectomy surgery I find the swelly belly thing to be irritating. It happens that when you do too much your belly swells. I can wake up with a flat belly and by end of day or if I work out too much which I do everyday now I look 2 months pregnant. It’s annoying but I will work right through it until I heal fully and that stops.
This goal is to look good in my Halloween costume. Now please note yes I have already ordered it, have it and it fits. That isn’t the issue. It is making sure I look great in it. Last year I was a girl Mario Brother. It was cute but wearing it in the plus size section had me feeling super upset. I looked like I was squeezed into it at that. OMG. Not this year. I am going to be looking sleek and refined in my costume. I ordered and have a medium and that in itself coming from a size 14 to a 8 is a blessing. I will share my photos when Halloween comes. I am not knocking plus size women, however I know for a fact that is not the size I was supposed to be. Last year I was being lazy, and eating just to eat. I wasn’t working out like I should have and the result was easily seen. So this year I will be stepping out and looking like I should.
Thanksgiving is on the rise. I have already put in my holiday orders with my baker. Seriously I have. I will be baking things on my own but there is something nice when you can take the edge off and pay someone else and get good stuff to share at the holiday luncheons and dinners. That isn’t even adding all of the great holiday and winter drinks that I have recipes for, others make, and are going to be advertised….So now that my bakery orders are all in order I want to be able to not look like the turkey this year. Have you ever looked at holiday pictures and been like Lawd, why didn’t someone tell me I looked like that? I have and that will not be me this year. I will look cute and ready to eat and not like I ate already and need to be pushing the vegetable truck this year. I seriously love the way clothes fit on me now. I have been able to remove the big clothes out of my closet and I have gotten a few cute pieces. Once you get a dose of confidence after seeing your hard work, its hard to think about going backwards.
These 3 goals will keep me until Christmas. This Christmas I want to wear a cute Christmas pajama. Christmas pajamas is always a serious thing. Actually all of the holiday pajamas is a serious thing. I already ordered the kids Halloween pajamas and have them hanging in their closet. I am not one for last-minute anything. With that in mind the whole family always wears cute pajamas I just always snap the kids only. Not this year I will be in the pictures with my cookies in tow. I do not plan to stop eating my favorites. I plan on eating them in moderation. A little, not the whole thing of anything. I have been really good with portion control and during the Fall when it gets colder I plan on keeping it hot in what I do and how I look this Fall.
So your goals may not mimic mine but as you can see you can make monthly goals. We all need something we can attain to. For me its making sure I continue to look great as the holidays start to roll in. Having a monthly goal and something I can work towards works for me. It takes the edge off of the whole I want to have a great end goal of going into the New Year right and keeps me accountable. Plus you know all of the get togethers, fall parties, potlucks, are all destined to try to take me out but I am aware of it all and ready to knock them out with some healthy dishes to share.
So Fall is coming. I am super excited. Fall and Summer play step sisters with me on who is the favorites. With that in mind, its time to end the last quarter of the year. Literally 2018 will be here before you know it. I know we don’t want to think about it but its true. So while some will focus on making new goals the goal in that is to complete the ones you have started. Yes how can you make 2018 and just throw caution to the wind on 2017. Let’s end 2017 off right.
What I like about the fact that 2017 still has a few months left is that you have time to make some great strides. Think about September is around the corner so that leaves 3 months to literally get your life. Didn’t work out? You have 3 months to still lose some pounds. Time to get it right and tight can still happen. How? Dedicate yourself. That is half the battle. In the Fall there is a thousand activities to aid in that. Remember you got to get something down pack before the Winter blues enter in. Do it before the snow and cold will convince you that you can’t go outdoors. Where to get your motivation? Instagram? Facebook? YES and no. Your biggest motivation is in the mirror? When you get up and hate the way your clothes fit no matter what your size, that is motivation saying hey fix this. Motivation is always around you its a matter of not drowning motivation’s cries as you reach for that second donut. Trust me I get it, my husband brought donuts home last night. I had one today and walked away before motivation could kick me in the behind.
One of the other ways of getting organized is preparing. For all of the parents who are about to send their children off, get organized now. Start labeling your school supplies and clothes. Every year thousands of dollars are wasted because some other kid had your child’s stuff because it wasn’t adequately labeled. I cut this mess in half by ordering labels from Dinkleboo and getting the offer through Groupon for 5.00. I will not be sitting around labelling things with a sharpie this year. It’s time-consuming. Now I can have the kids slap their own labels on their stuff and bag it up. Yes for a mommy win. You can do the same in your adult life. Can you prepare before hand? Sure can. Many people complain about not having time to cook, I call BS on it. Yes I said BS. We know what that means. It’s called not enough preparation. I am super busy with 3 kids all under the age of 10, I blog, I work full-time, I work out, I have a husband, and I have a social life. Go figure. So how do I manage? A plan, a crock pot, a planner and a changed mindset.
So armed with a little motivation I plan ahead and work my plan. I make it into a game. Right now 9pm is the end game. Which means on Sundays I do laundry, meal prep by making 3 meals with 3 different selections at one time, and get all of the running around of life done by 9pm. Why? I personally treat myself every Sunday to a glass of wine and I “wine down” with my Sunday shows. This is how I get through it. I have the music on, I dance around but I get it done. I look like a Tornado has hit my house but by 9pm, all bags are set on the couch to grab including gym bag, lunches are ready, breakfast plans are done, and dinners are already set. This ensures that if I have a hectic Monday, I will at least have my life together on some spectrum. I will at least cut down on a thousand items being forgotten and left. Oh and I start out with writing out what needs to be done by looking at my calendar ahead of time. Too much work? No, but having stress over the things I could have prevented is worth it.
Speaking of list, a planner will aid in this. I already ordered and designed my 2018 planner. You can order one from personal planner and they are on sale now. Why? Back to school. You can catch a sale now. This is the time to get your entire life together. College and back to schools make getting your home, and personal life right. The sales I have gotten for new running sneakers, athletic gear, home, apparel, etc is crazy right now. I believe that life doesn’t have to cost that much and I rarely pay full price for anything. Get to these sales. Get to the makeover of your personal life. I truly believe in order to be a better wife and mother I have to be a better me. As I get things in order for my own heart’s desires the happier and more settled on the inside I have become.
Get involved. My biggest compliant if there is one is not having local friends to do things with. I have literally gotten out of my shell by attending events on my own. I have signed up for all kinds of events for the Fall already. I have (4) 5Ks set, a blog conference, and just some socializing that my Fall and Winter are about to be too lit. Yes lit. I am excited as I look at the colors flowing on my planner of fun non mommy, non wife activities that are building me up. So what are you waiting for? Are you planning on beating yourself up for the rest of the year? Are you planning to be super sad come 2018 over the lack of planning that you did in 2017? Get it right. Get it tight. Get your life and organize the hell out of it.
Make a list of things YOU need. Make one for your home. Make one for your job and any organizations you are involved in. Have you gotten your physical and all of your health appointments set or did you start? If you say no to either question, you can start by getting your personal health together. You should have seen your doctor, your eye doctor, dentist, and any other physician for any other underlying health issues you have? Have you been to the gym or met with a nutritionist? Make it happen. Have you set all of your kids appointments for the same? Then you have some work to do. If you are in a relationship do you need to outsource for help? This could mean counseling. This could mean scheduling some US time. US time is actually great medicine. My husband and I was finally able to get a little baecation and it did wonders. We were able to refresh our love, get away and not have to share food with little people, and relax. We set relationship goals for the rest of they year. We spoke TO and not AT each other. This is going to be helpful before the school year kicks in.
What about your finances? Do you have life insurance, health insurance, and an emergency savings? These are goals that should be in place or things you are actively working towards. Also no more go fund me accounts for funerals. Get life insurance. It’s a shame we put more emphasis on what we have on our bodies and what we eat than for the future. Also what about wills, powers of attorneys? None of that? Then it’s time to get in touch of a great attorney. If you live in PA and want one that can work remotely in helping you along, than email me email@example.com for a great contact. Trust me life is too temporal to be out here not handling your business.
You have options on where to start. Start with your health, finances, personal growth, new job searching, anything but start now and finish the year strong.
Happy Monday to you. Happy I am just making it Monday. Happy I am alive Monday. Whatever your Monday looks like to you, make it that and rise above it. Yes the weekend has left some of us dry. If it wasn’t the news that is constantly being pushed in our faces, to relationships, situationships, kids, jobs, etc you may be at wit’s end.
So we all know that we need to protect our spirit. Your spirit is your essence. It’s your wits. It’s you in a nut shell. I know there are many times when I have to take a time out. I give my kids one and have no shame in taking one. You need to protect your essence. All of life’s drama can take the beauty out of you if you let it. Today I am even more guarded to keep being informed but to filter some of the junk to avoid getting too overly emotional or let things take me out of my element.
Life is hard but cover yourself today and everyday. Cover your children who don’t fully understand but are in the presence of the same junk you are touched with. Never underestimate that they are able to pick up on negative vibes just as much as you do. Protect what they see and hear. Protect who they are around. Who you allow your kids to be around speaks volumes as they take on what on who is around them. Protect what words you say around them as well. Words have life and death in them and you have to be careful that the tearing down isn’t occurring in-house. We are worried about the outsiders but truth be told you can cause more damage in house than you will ever know if you aren’t careful.
Filter what you take on when it comes to social media. I love social media but the down size is that it doesn’t always allow you to be social. It can become battle grounds. It can become warfare. It can zap your energy. It can take up so much of your time. It can allow you to not be able to disengage with those around you. It is a choice and you must make good choices on what you entertain on social media. Everything isn’t worth a response. Everything doesn’t need a clap back. You have to clean your social media act up. Delete some accounts you don’t need. Take a few folks off that you allow to get you all up in arms. Learn to take a step back with who you call friends on your social media accounts. Never post anything you don’t stand by 100% and be prepared to live with any backlash. Learn that some things that inspire you may just be for you. Learn that you can choose to spread hate or love. Love on yourself. Practice self-love everyday. Mental illness is real and it can be elevated by social media because when the mind is weak it allows the defenses of everything to be low. Be careful. Speak life today. Speak life into your situations and find ways to make your bottom line better. Reach out to help others when your able. It’s no different from when you’re on a plane, they tell you to put the oxygen mask on you first. Same rule applies in life, stop handing out all of your resources to others and leave yourself depleted. Help you than you can help someone else. Have a great Monday and practice self love and love on others around you.
So finally today is the day. It is my birthday. Anytime you can wake up on the side of the living is a blessing. Older people look forward to seeing a new birthday while younger people act as if it is a dread. Perspective tells you to be grateful for any time you have as it is borrowed. Today I am grateful for my 36 years. I have had many times in my life where I have been close to death. I am grateful for the time I can spend making my dreams come true and being with loved ones.
I am truly blessed that this year has me pushing the limits a bit. I set out on a journey of self-love this year and I am reaping the benefits. If I can’t love myself than the love I have for others isn’t pure. Loving on me more has allowed me to block out distraction. I am no longer in competition with anyone else but me. I wake up and speak positivity over myself daily. I am not a love guru I just got tired of speaking negative thoughts of not being enough, being overweight, not cute enough, all of the things I tell my girls not to do to themselves. I know that some people have the do as I say mentality but I am my children’s mirror. What I show them by example is important. I can’t be trying on clothes and talking bad about myself but tell my daughter to be strong and confident and I wasn’t. I started addressing my issues.
I first looked on the inside. I was unhappy. I could fix my weight any day but if I can’t work on being happy what is the point. I would seemingly just find something else to be an issue. So I began to journal hard. When I felt unhappy what was the reason? I noticed the pattern wasn’t in any event but how I processed how I thought about the event. How much I allowed my anxiety take over. These are not easy tasks. I set out to find a way to turn each thought around. I am not saying I am totally fixed and I walk around with happiness juice pouring off of me in an annoying way, but I can get through the day and have a better outlook.
When I look in the mirror I love what I see. I just don’t tolerate myself. I don’t speak negatively about myself. I am not looking at my thighs and having issues. Not just because I lost weight but because I realize that whatever shape I am in, can change and I am fine in my own skin. This year will definitely be better than last year in the sense that I am ready to continue in this love walk. I encourage others to do the same. Let me also warn you that once you begin your journey you may not lose friends or family but your relationships with them will change. It’s then that you will see how people really view you. Remember there are some who benefit to see you all sad, down, and miserable. Once you change that they won’t be receptive to the “new” you. It will hurt. You will be disappointed but grateful that it happened. Shine on anyway…No one can stop your shine but you!!
As always let me end by shouting out my twin sister, Tierra. I had the honor of coming into the world with my own womb partner, sister, and friend by choice!! Love you and happy birthday!!
And as promised I am about 5 pounds to goal so the featured photo to this blog both at the top were taken at various points of my weight. My highest weight in December was 190. I am currently at 155. So that is a good dip and I am very proud of it! I didn’t want to be the same size as I was after the birth of my youngest who by the way is 3. You know how women say it’s baby weight but the kids is like 12, that is what I was doing. However with hard work, and dedication I have definitely improved the outside as much as I have improved the inside. I can definitely now give my kids a run for their money. My energy is definitely up. I can handle going to the gym 3 days a week. I am eating better. I have made a lifestyle change instead of only a summer time fine change. I want to be life time fine. I have people who depend on me and most importantly I depend on myself.
Huge shout out to all of my friends and family. I really am touched by the special and unique gifts that have all been super personal. Thanks for the emails, texts, calls, time spent-all of it. I am smiling hard today. Thank you to my ToiTime followers as well!!
So I will be on all of my social media spots today. I will be enjoying this day to the fullest. If you can’t celebrate you no one will right? Toibration continues….
Well I am hoping that your week has been a good one. Mine has been and is expected to get much better. This is my birthday weekend trip with the girls. I am super excited. My last time traveling them was in 2013 maybe to Miami and before then in 2008 Miami again. I love Miami if you can’t tell. However this time we switching things up and being grown in the city of Chicago. It’s important for me as a woman to keep my connections as tight as possible. On this journey to keep myself rounded means I can not only tap into my domesticated titles aka mommy and wife. I am first Toi and Toi needs to be happy and whole to be the best in those titles. I have some new blogs coming out about how we ladies have to be strong and confident even when things and others attempt to pull on our insecurity. Insecurity creeps in all of us, men too. The best thing is when you can look into the mirror and smile at the creation that God made you and be happy in your skin. I know it seems I am on all this self-improvement but if you don’t have self-love what do you have? I had to have an ugly cry this week. It was super cleansing but like momma always say cry on your own time don’t let these folks see you sweat.
I am 2 more pounds down and 5 to goal. Yay! I can’t tell you how excited I am for this goal. I have worked hard, ate right, worked out tired and exhausted but I am super close. Also this week my daughter is killing it in school. I am super happy when my kids do what they need to do. We teach them nothing in life is free. It takes hard work. She also will be having her first communion. I am proud of her choice to step up and apply what she wants in her life. Can’t be mad at a child that actively tries to apply herself?! Way to go Naila!! Oh did I mention that we both have birthdays coming up. May is a good month for the Storr women!!!!
This has been a crazy week. I have done some over time and the exhaustion has been unbelievable. However I have slept a little better than last week. This week has been about controlling my negative thoughts. I am one of those thinkers so when something has been said I have to admit my get back is quite strong. I will begin to think of ways to get cha. However because I am more mindful of it I have tried to combat it with positive thoughts and know that people will usually get theirs.
Also I will blog about an argument I had this week. It wasn’t a full argument but as I never want to put my business out there are a few things that women need to get from it and that and that alone I will talk about. Everything is about learning and growing.
Well again I will most likely blog a little less this weekend as my girls and I will have the time of our lives. But next week I will be releasing some new and old mom blogs in honor of Mother’s Day. If you still want to participate in the Mother’s Day blog for next week please email me at toitimeblog@gmail,com
So I told you all I would keep you updated with my blog. So with those sentiments let’s dive right in. I am doing Weight Watchers which uses a series of points assigned to food to help you manage your life. So I have 30 points a day and 35 cheat points that I use a week. So I did my weigh in and I am down another 3.2 pounds. That’s great news as I am so super close to my ultimate goal I can taste it.
This week and most weeks I noticed the more I eat normally meaning taking good care to be within my points but still enjoy eating the more I lose. Now let me make a statement right now before I began what I do doesn’t mean I am sending out a message that you can do what you want and still lose weight. You can’t. You have to be able to be disciplined but still allow for yourself to be you. I feel that is what I have been able to achieve and thus far I have lost 35.2 pound to date. So do I deprive myself? Nope. I work out and I work out hard. I also stick to the plan. I use my points wisely. I go out to eat and I drink wine and clutch your pearls I’ve even had a Unicorn frappuccino. See it’s not just what you eat its how much and how often. I splurge my points for what I want. I eat like I am supposed to and incorporate more fruits and veggies. It works for me.
So I don’t allow other people to dictate to me what I should do. I paid to do a program to change my life and it has. I do not let folks and their “knowledge” dictate to me what I should do. What I eat won’t make you fat. I am not interested in fads that don’t teach me how to change my lifestyle. This is why I don’t like diets that have shakes and meals you must buy. One they are super expensive. Secondly as soon as you get tired of doing the shakes and meals you go right back to where you started. I am doing what I am doing to be healthier first and to look better in my clothes. I want to wear the clothes I want to wear and not the ones I have no choice to wear. So if you’re looking to change do what works for you. Eat in moderation. I love donuts I had one last week too. However I adjusted my eating and didn’t slack on my workouts because I was too tired. Anything worth having takes hard work to achieve it.
I am getting close to my birthday and that is around the time I will hopefully have met my goal or be as close as I humanely can to the goal. I can’t wait to share with you. The goal of my sharing my journey is to help someone else see that yes I eat real food. Yes I enjoy food. I just don’t let food consume me. I no longer eat my emotions. I no longer eat and make excuses that don’t serve me. I am not a “gym rat.” I do practical work outs at the gym 2-3 days a week while at my full-time job. When I can’t and my schedule gets tights I work out at home and use my kids as weights. They enjoy it and I need it. If all else fails than I go to YouTube for free workouts but I get it in. I’ll check back in soon but this is the journey I am on to a better me on the outside as I work my inside.
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