We not washing now…

So I was listening to Steve Harvey show yesterday when I heard the strawberry letter about a wife that is no longer washing her behind. Now I have personally answered I think at least 2 Ask Toi about non washing spouses and now I got to turn this into a blog because I got questions….

Why I am not being nice to Side Chicks

Today is side chick appreciation day.  This is the day when the memes come out hard.  I heard someone say that we should be nice to a side chick and this is my response to that, hell naw I won’t.  I know that came a bit left but that is my real life rated G…

Self Love

Self love will look different, sound different, taste different, etc to different people. Self love means by the very definition is about loving yourself.  The broadest definition of self-love is learning how to care for you, what you need, how much you need, and being okay to not limit how often you love on yourself. How you…

How to Have the Best New Year’s Eve…

First of all this is one busy night.  There are a lot of preparations to make it perfect, but let’s keep it real there’s no such thing as perfect.  You have to set aside what goals are most important to you.  They say how you bring in the New Year is super important and it…

31 Days and Change is Coming!

Well I hate to be the bearer of bad news or good news depending on how you see it, but a new Year is coming soon.  I know everyone will wait until after Christmas to start their new me, new this and that but wouldn’t be nice to do things a different this year? Instead…

By Any Means Necessary…

I used to seriously judge other women.  Gasp.  Yes little ole me.  My judgement had a lot to do with the non traditional ways that women have made their living.  What I mean about that is things like prostitution, marrying men they don’t love for money, or any other from that women feel as if…

Birth of A Nation Flops

So I have been reading the many blogs that reported that Birth of a Nation flopped.  I have been paying more attention to the comments.  For those who have seen it have said nothing but great things about the film.  For those who hadn’t there are several factors that could have contributed to it. Hurricane…

Life skills should be Gender Neutral!

I’ve seen several companies that are promoting the idea to end statements that a woman/girl is doing something like a girl.  Even if they are doing whatever they may be doing like a girl who a girl is strong.  We have had so many years of saying to women and girls alike that you have…