Monday Motivation: Take Care of You

Good morning. Whether you are off this President Day or working like me today’s motivation is about reminding you to take care of you.  I know you have a lot on your mind and heart.  I know you have a to do list that’s super long, but taking care of you while you accomplish these goals is extremely important.

People talk about not being selfish in life and that’s real.  However there are a few things that you must be selfish in and that’s taking care of you. Not worrying about everyone else around you and then setting you on the list last. I hear so many people say how much time they don’t have. Yet if you are sitting up at night stressing you have time to find ways of taking care of your needs. How can you use the time you think you don’t have?  Simple.  Learn to make a list.  Cross off things as you get them done and move on to the next thing. Make a list of health related items to get done. Did you get your teeth checked in last 6 months? If you are a woman have you had your gynecological exam and breast examined? Men if you are of age have you checked your prostate and have a physical?  I know you’re tough and are okay but a physical will lay it all on the table.  Start there. That’s checking your health.  What about mental health?  How are you REALLY doing?  Do you find yourself snapping out on others around you?  Could you benefit from therapy to attack some stressors and old pain that’s not healed. Healing will bring things to the surface for you to deal with and not ignore.

How about how you make a living or accomplish those goals?  Are you walking in your purpose?  Do you wake up every day dreading going into work because its simple just filling the time on Earth and paying your bills?  Have you considered using that job to reach your ultimate goal. This means sitting down and making a 1 month, 6 month, 1 year, etc plan.  Yes work in the day, and at night find a way to put aside money for your dream.  This changes how you wake up. Yes the folks on the job irritate you, but you aren’t working for a check anymore. You are now working towards a dream.  See how you can switch the perspective?

Get up and do one thing this morning that is about change. This morning I woke up with the world on my mind. I said Toi today is about how you can make a few things happen.  I looked at my vision board and said today I will attack one thing from each category to get to my vision.  A vision is simply the guideline but you have to put in the work to make it happen. Those cut outs are only helping you visually see the steps, so let’s get to the steps. Happy Monday and crush those goals. Trust me life is going to throw enough curve balls. You got to know when to let a few go past you, duck, and catch the ones that are for you. Today, its okay to focus on your goals. I would hate to see all that life inside of you diminish because your focus was fixing everyone else and not living your best life.

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Monday Motivation: Stay Consistent

Another Monday has come upon us. You may be in your feelings about it deeper than Drake. The best way to combat a Monday is to be prepared for it. If you woke up unprepared for it then it’s time to hit it with consistency.

Consistency can assist you mentally in achieving a successful week. Attempting to get up at the same time, making sure I prep certain aspects of my week helps to better settle my mind and home. Consistency allows you to control certain anxieties that may come along with getting through my Monday,

We attempt to teach kids to be prepared yet we wake up each week unprepared and not ready. We know life will bring whatever curve balls that will come yet we don’t do enough to be ready for the parts that we actually cultivate. If you know your constantly not prepared to have the proper food as an example ready how can we be upset that “we end” up making bad food choices during the day?! We played a huge part in not being ready for our day and for the week.

Let’s start our week with consistency. Wake up on time. Try not to snooze. Meditate and pray! Be consistent in it and not just as a fall back to when life starts giving you a bad hand. Be consistent in your prepping. Make your lunches ahead of time, pack your breakfast, prepare your clothes ahead of time, and get your kids to do the same.

Consistency will cover you on the days when life attempts to make you fall. Consistency will help you guide your Monday blues. It’s hard to start a week you lack in preparation to be successful in. Wake up determined to have a good week where you were ready for it! Also if you woke up and you weren’t prepared, reset! Turn your mindset! What can you do NOW to get it all aligned?! Do that and don’t stress yourself! Have a knock out Monday and an awesome week! You got this!

Monday Motivation: Running On E

There are many times when we push through with enormous amounts of energy.  However there are many times when you are running on E.  One of the things if you have a newer car is that once you are on E, often times there is a reserve tank that can take a few miles until you can get to a gas station. This in life is when you and others think you are out for the count but you make it enough until you can fill your mental and emotional tank for your journey.

Running on E seems so alone. Everyone around you seems to be moving faster. You seem to be going slower and slower to “conserve” the little bit of energy. Running on E is often dressed in your friends getting engaged while you can’t seem to secure a date. You are going to work and you feel like you’re one bail away from spazzing out on a co-worker. Running on E can be job hunting and being or feeling rejected.  How about running on E when it seems your kids are our of pocket while others kids seem to be well-behaved. Running on E can be wanting children, suffering in silence while the very ones around you are popping up pregnant and claim they not only weren’t trying but also didn’t want to be a parent.  Running on E is scary. You are not focused on goals. You are only hoping you aren’t left as stranded as you feel. I have been there.  Its hurtful. It’s lonely.  It’s exhausting.

One thing about running on E that you learn real quick is that one, help will come if you need it.  We tend to push away help because it’s not wrapped up in the packages that we want them in.  Also once you refuel, if you’re smart you find better routes to take in life that will either maximize you or find ways to be self-aware of your personal tank.

How you refuel is to sometimes stop comparing your journey to those around you.  Self sabotage will have you gassing yourself with another person’s goals instead of what you need.  Sometimes resting your mind which is the hardest to do but sometimes the most necessary. Sometimes reading blogs or material that wake up the goals inside of you. Refueling  could be taking a nap.  You might be up late nights trying to make something happening when the one that needs the physical rest is you. Another way to refuel is to disconnect from social media. There are a million and one ways to refuel.

The biggest lesson is to not give up.  Help is either coming or you will be awakened to what’s inside of you that will help you.  Either way, once you awake, refuel your own tank. You may be burned out from taking on everyone around you while neglecting yourself. Push through Monday, refuel and recharge and crush your goals while receiving help and awakening the gifts inside of you.

Monday Motivation: Take one Step

This morning I had to remind myself to get up before my family. Not just because of my work schedule but to set the tone. I got up and prepared the house and got everything aligned. That initial thought when you wake up is ugh, do I really want to get out of my warm bed?  The answer is no you never WANT to get out of a warm bed, but life says otherwise. I said my prayers and got my mind together and knew if I took one step, all of the other necessary steps would follow.

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That is how life works. Sometimes we are so afraid to take that initial step but we fail to remember that one step is all that we need to start any process. Think about the New Year and how excited everyone was to reset. You only needed to refresh your mindset to know that one step towards your future would be enough. If you are struggling from one point to the other, do all that you can on your end and know that all other steps will follow. Want a new job, update your resume, get emails out to your contacts, that’s one step that if you continue to be vigilant interviews and eventually offer (s) will come. Looking for love? Getting your spirit and mind together is one step that will lead you towards a path of self discovery that will lead you to your forever love.

Take one step. Sometimes getting out of the bed may be the hardest especially if you feel like your life has dropped. It hurts. It sucks if all of the moving parts of what you feel your life has become has fallen. I have been there many days. But you have to learn to take that first step out and soon you will you have more strength that you thought. As I whipped around my house this morning with a great burst of energy, I didn’t realize that before 7am I had most of the house dress, medicine given. coffee made, pets secured, and I was on my way! Take your first step today! You are going to surprise yourself!

Monday Motivation: Christmas Edition

As the holidays are exactly 8 days away one of the things that I have changed is not waiting until the last-minute for everything. I have a few things to do but I am not allowing any of it to get under my skin. For that I am grateful. I know the holidays aren’t about giving gifts or receiving gifts as much as it’s about be a blessing to those around me and spending time with my family and which is my personal choice to celebrate the birth of the Savior.

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I am not allowing the hustle and bustle of the season to make me crazy.  I am not going to spend time getting into countless arguments over stuff that I know that I can’t change. I know I can manage my time. I know I can prepare things early enough to be sure that things are the way I want them.  I know that beyond preparing for the actual day of Christmas is about preparing for the kids to be on break. Finding them activities that can be done in and out of the house that won’t break my budget.  These are the things that I am allowing to motivate my week. I don’t want to be sitting around upset or making myself vulnerable to mindless arguments over who should be doing what and when.

Be intentional about your thoughts this week. Your to do list will get done in tine. Do what you can and what can’t be done, don’t max out cards to do it. Don’t stress your life so that you are going more and more into debt and pain in the New Year. Do not do more for folks if it isn’t coming from a good place and a good heart. I have cut out a large amount of spending by focusing on the kids in my life. That doesn’t mean I didn’t get any adults but I definitely didn’t try to get all of the adults I know. Balance is my focus. My motivation is keeping the spirit of fun in my thought process. Playing with my children. Making time to watch movies with them. Making sure that I bake with them. Not worrying about material parts alone. Some people really lose it trying to keep up with the Jones’s.  Don’t let that be you. There are a million things to be celebrated. Families coming together that were torn apart, checking in on the elderly, seeing strangers smile who might have been so down that the holidays seem like a joy kill to them, serving the less fortunate, any and everything can be seen through different lenses. Do not loss that focus as you wrap gifts, prepare food, and set out outfits.

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This week, choose joy. Choose to see the good in this already evil world. Choose to be grateful for what you have and the little you may think you have may be someone else’s portion. Choose to be happy that you have the ability to make decisions that affect your life. Choose to smile more. Choose to be kind to others around you. Pay it forward. We need to hear more stories of others doing for those around them than taking. Let’s hear it this week for making sure you check in on others. There is a lot of pain that comes in with the  holidays too. As much as I love celebrating, I know that some folks are hurting. Some folks are experiencing high levels of pain, death, grieve, etc. My heart goes out to them. I have been praying for more people who are in these situations more and more as the holiday gets closer. Think of those people around you. Motivate your Monday and week to the things that matter that don’t have anything to do with price tags.

Keep your mind and heart clear. Sending you love as you go into the home stretch of this week!

Monday Motivation: Movement Necessary

It’s another Monday! Another week! Another chance to make our lives the best that we can. It’s a time to reset and refocus. So many of us start our Monday’s complaining. I get it. You had no real work responsibility all weekend long and now it’s back to the grind. However instead of looking at how blah you feel, find a way to refocus your efforts!

The New Year will be here soon where everyone will make promises to themselves but often times those promises fall by the wayside because we don’t actively look towards our goals. If you don’t like your job what are you actively doing to make that change? If you aren’t happy in a relationship, what are you doing to work on yourself that will give you the strength to see your worth? These things matters. The reason successful people have success is they don’t turn their brains off. They are constantly in active motion.

As you begin your week and Monday what are you doing to have active motion in your life? What steps are you working towards to set yourself to success? Move. Make things happen. Everyday you can move yourself that much closer to greatness! Everyday! If your losing weight daily checking your eating habits and how you are moving will get you towards those goals!! Everyday you have the power to evoke a strong level of change! This change can be personal and in the world around you!

So what are you doing this fine Monday?! Own your flaws. Own your goals and refocus them daily, weekly, and monthly! Get moving! Move towards your goals!! Move! Make the necessary changes!! Move towards the you that you want to be!!

Monday Motivation: Checking in on Others

The holidays are in full swing. Its going to be so much going on and before you know it the year will be over. Why is it important on a Monday to talk about checking in on others? Strong people have a tendency to hold themselves in and not really open up. You can send a text and get a response that things are fine but there is something uniquely special about a phone call.  People’s voice and really making sure they are okay are important.

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So slow it down a little bit and make a list of friends and be sure they are okay. There is something that it pushes you when you do. If you speak to your friends and you  hear that they are truly good, it inspires you. If they aren’t it will inspire you too to either help where you can, offer support, or make you change how you live your life. We can’t lost the connection to one another. I love technology its an important tool, but it can’t replace human to human connection. It’s important for us to reach out to our loved ones. I make it a plan to do my best to call my grandmother at least once a week and sometimes more to be sure she is okay. You have to check in on others. I am even going to check in on a few family members that I haven’t done a great job in checking in on this year myself. It’s just a way for us to take a step back and put others above ourselves.

If you are super busy like me, set aside some time and dedicate to making at least a few minute calls. If you think the other person may be long-winded, I love to call folks on my lunch break, on my way home, or on my way into work. It’s a great way to have a mid-day pick me up or a way to make sure you get it done  and I can cut the conversation off and get back to my day. You may be thinking well wasn’t the point to check in? Yes that is still checking in. You don’t have to be on the phone for hours to check in. I believe in my planner so in between blog goals and planning, family planning, and life planning you can add check ins. You will feel better when you do this, trust me. This goal is just as important as anything else you have going on in your world.

Be vigilant in checking in on others. Be sure that those that are in your crew are okay. Make this your Monday goal! Maybe even rotate your check in lists. But make this a priority!