Monday Motivation:

It’s almost a new month. It’s time to keep grinding. We are almost to the last quarter of the year. This can bring a sense of focus for some. For others it can be about a place of anguish.

What have you done for your year? What goals have you accomplished? If you have a place of panic coming up with the answers; let me give you a suggestion to help you focus and take control of your year. It can be overwhelming if you feel as if you have allowed your year to get away from you. Not every year will you crush your goals and feel like a boss. If I’m honest I’ve had some years where I felt like I didn’t do much of anything. Let’s have that moment now. That moment of not traveling enough, not working hard enough, not landing the perfect job, not getting the guy or girl you wanted…the list goes on.

Feeling like you’re not enough won’t just happen or attempt to pop up the night before the New Year. This is a daily struggle. It comes up the most when you decide to focus on those around you. Comparison can be the devil! It really is. Just trying to figure where you fit with those around you has to be checked. I mean you will forever find others doing better than you. Even those who seem to have it altogether struggle.

My suggestion is to be honest for where you are NOW! Be honest with who you are and where and why you are where you are! If you attempt to tell yourself that you should be somewhere and you’re not there it’s going to bother you! Take control of your emotions so you can find yourself able to make strategic decisions on how to finish the year out. Instead of focusing on what you didn’t do for 9 months focus on what you can do in the next 3.

I would rather finish strong for 3 than to have a full 12 on the line. You have to change your perspective. You can make great waves for the last 3 months. It’s a choice! It’s a mindset. One of the biggest stops in life isn’t in our finances, connections, or abilities but the mind. As soon as you will yourself to defeat without a reset you will wallow! Make one step towards changing your mindset and you can soar towards any goal. I would rather have myself in goal setting position than to have to start from scratch. You can make the decision today to work out and become healthier irregardless to what you haven’t done thus far. Today can be it!

So what are you going to do? Waste another 3 months worrying about the 9 months you had? Are you going to finish strong and develop long lasting new goals? How about new healthier habits for 3 months that jumps and sparks into a New Year? Your mind has to evolve from a all or nothing mentality. You will lose yourself trying to build Rome in a day instead of making sure the foundation by which Rome is built is solid! You are Rome and Rome needs stability instead of this stop and start mentality.

Picking up 3 projects just for the sake of saying you did it isn’t the answer! Finishing goals is! Knowing your foundation is laid is the key. Instead of a quick diet plan you replace it with lifetime choices. Nothing worse than dropping weight fast and having it come back faster! You can drop the weight in all areas of your life by building a stable foundation to help you maintain what you get.

So let’s refocus on what’s really important. Slow building with the right foundation will help you maintain when others who tinkered past you collapse. You can be the tortoise but you got to be smart. The ideal is to work smarter not harder! To work efficiently and not lazily! You got this. Bow break out that pen and make some promises to yourself. Write it down and then write down how to make it happen. Wake up daily and push towards it! Let’s put blinders on watching others pass you. When you see it have solid folks on your team that will check your back into stability! You can make it happen! Let’s refocus this last quarter!

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Monday Motivation: It’s Not That Easy

Nothing in life will be. Everything comes from a place of working hard. I’m amazed at the two extremes that people use the term “it’s not that easy.”

People use it’s not that easy when they want to highlight their accomplishments. It’s true when you work your behind off the last thing you need is someone coming with the discredit. It’s humiliating to be honest to put energy and backing into something only to have someone who by the way doesn’t like you to discredit your efforts. I would say often times it’s the ones that closest to you or those you let your guard down the most with. The ones you might have shared a dream or conversation about a dream with. They know that you’re not qualified but they don’t see your passions working behind the scene. None of which, can stop you unless your fuel needs to come from pats on your back! If that is the case you’re going to burn out fast. People’s attention span aren’t strong enough to hold all of your accolades in their forefront until your winning season pushes through. When winning season comes people become like magnets and want to meet up, link up, and talk. Always remember the times you couldn’t even get them to answer an email, a call, or smoke screen. That doesn’t mean be brand new it just means don’t rush to meet them so they can drink off of your success!

The other time people use it’s not easy is when they want to discredit their own ability to push through a difficult situation and usually about trauma or hardship. Example, “it’s not that easy to walk away.” When in reality it may not be but the consequences of staying is greater than the stagnant of staying. This could be staying in a relationship, bad job, not attending or finishing school, starting a dream job or passion. It applies to you when you are pulling at available and readily available excuses. You can make more excuses than a little bit! End it today. You can have zero knowledge about a dream but wake up and feel that dream on your mind. You know you have to walk in it but don’t let fear of rejection, intimidation, or acceptance stop you!

Nothing in life will just fall into line without proper backing of energy that has to come from inside of you. Whatever you are after this week go and grab it. Work hard for it! Push through! Be consistent! Manage your emotions and those around you! Say no a few times. No is a small but powerful word that successful people learn to use! Put a wedge in-between those who sit and listen to your dreams in hopes to deter you from working hard. If the people you speak to don’t encourage and in addition have zero resources to assist, why are you speaking to them? What can they do?

You got this! You can crush it! You can win! Work smarter not harder! Push through even when it’s difficult, hard, or makes you feel like you’re not going to win-you will!!

Monday Motivation: Gather Yourself

So today I did my normal wake up in a great mode. Put on music. Wake the kids with love and a healthy dose of sarcasm while declaring a great day.  All of my intentions were in the right place, but the way life is set up….

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I really almost took a mental health day. The type of day when you say oh well and you get into the bed and act like the day isn’t in full swing. These days are super necessary when you really need them. However with all that I had on my plate I had to take a few minutes to gather myself. Stop and pray, control my mouth, retract my thoughts….and still the day went left. I would love to tell you that the day just got better but it hasn’t… fully.  Will it? I am not sure it matters. It wasn’t in the gathering of myself that was going to make the day great, it was just in the press. When you attempt to keep your mind clear and your heart pure it seems as if life will just cooperate.  That  is false advertisement. Things go left and that is what it does.  We live another moment to change our perspective and make things right!

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Today and any other day I am still responsible for my thought patterns and my responses no matter what is going on around me. That little nugget is for those who say well my day sucks so I…. SO you what? You can spew negativity onto the world due to your disposition? NOPE. SO you can make those around you miserable? NOPE. SO you can go to work dumping your nasty attitude on others? NOPE.  You are supposed to remain in control of you at all times even when the traffic is backed up, your coffee was made with milk instead of almond work, and you get to work almost an hour late like I did. You have to remain in control with the ones in your home push indirectly their issues onto you. You have to gather yourself. I didn’t have to gather my words this morning in my house because I got to a corner, prayed, and realigned myself.  I know we all have bad Mondays but that Monday blues can be worked out. You can gather and reset in the midst of total chaos.

So if your day looks like mine did-there is hope. It doesn’t mean that gathering yourself will bring bountiful blessings in that immediate moment but you also don’t have to bring chaos to those around you until your day levels out.  Will it level out? Eventually but you can either delay that blessing with bad attitudes, bad responses, and spewing negativity on others while you wait without pressing. Press because that’s what adults do. Press because you owe it to yourself to not waste another minute on this Earth in a negative mindset. You owe yourself all the love and peace you can surround with!

I can happily report that the coffee chain that messed up my order refunded me almost double what I paid….the day is picking up and I hope yours is too! Lets do this Monday!

Monday Motivation: Light a Fire

Light a fire today. Never let others control your outcome. We do too much complaining about things that aren’t right and not enough making moves. You don’t like your job? Light a fire……under you. Not the job! Get a new one. Have a plan. When you tired it shows in your actions. You light a fire and make things happen.

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You don’t like your weight? Light a fire. Don’t sit around talking bad to yourself. Get up and use that idle time to work out. I used to work out to Khloe Kardashian’s “Revenge Body.”  This was after dropping weight. Sometimes I would listen with my ear phones on but it motivated me to move more. It motivated to see the reasons why I gained the weight and work on the inside out. I no longer sit talking about my arms is getting big, I light the fire and work on them. If my thigh or any other part of my body is bothering me I get to work on them.

You don’t like your relationship? Work on you actively and in addition suggest couples counseling while you get personal counseling. He/she unwilling to attend, you have your answer. Faith without works is dead you can’t simply pray good behavior into another individual. Either love is worth fighting for the right way or it has to be set aside. I fail to believe that all this living to be done is meant to be spent arguing and being miserable with an individual who doesn’t mean you well.

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I know the number one issue with lighting a fire is depression. That is why things like bad jobs, weight, relationships, and goals seem hard to achieve because you have allowed your mindset to take over. Your mind has made a nest of negativity and you don’t have the mental strength to move. Well your first light of fire needs to be a certified counselor or therapist. It will be hard. I hate when people paint happy pictures of people attending therapy. But all that bad has to come out. Often times you leave hurt. You leave empty. Its a process, but one that is worth the journey. What do you have to lose? Everything-like a fire!

Whatever you need today, light a fire. Get up off of your do nothing and take a few steps. Make a few calls. Send out a few hundred resumes but get the fire started. Every day you should be doing something to ignite fire in your life and in your soul. So light up the gifts inside of you, work on you, and make life happen. The only excuse you have is you. So stop making them. Get back into life and light a fire in your soul to make life beautiful!

Monday Motivation: She is me I am she…

Remember when Beyoncé first left Destiny’s Child and she had her alter ego named Sasha Fierce. She would reference her in that she was shy outside of performing. I think a lot of us adopted the whole alter ego, mine was Natasha.

Natasha was also an alias I used in my single days when I didn’t feel like being bothered. This was back in the day when you could curve a dude and he would just eat it. Now a days when are forced to give their rightful numbers to avoid the male ego and avoid being harmed. Men we need you to go back to the days of being okay of being curved. Women I think are getting better at attempting to be authentic too. I know men read my blogs I am not putting it all on you.

Back to Natasha, as I gotten a little older I still refer to Natasha but I realize that she is me and I am her. She is a part of me. She isn’t this imaginary alter ego that I use to be more bold. Natasha and I are one. We are both bold and quiet. We are both able to speak into the universe what we need and get it. We can read a book and turn up with a quick twerk. We both love book stores and the occasional club scene. We both know how to act in corporate America and we can respectfully fall in line in any small company atmosphere. We can be healthy and have splurges. We can be homebodies as well as out and about. We can want solitude and be okay in a crowd. We use alter egos to do the things that we are to shy to achieve not realizing that if we can call on the alter ego which is us, it was in us to do so. We can ask for a raise from that job because we have done the work. We can ask for someone’s number because we are dope individuals and want someone on our page.

We can make moves in our lives because Natasha is us and we are her. We both combined are awesome. Being older I hear from women older than me telling me not to hold back. If something is no longer serving its purpose in my life, get rid of it. Don’t wait until you are 50 to make your own choices. There is too much love and light on this Earth to allow life to simply happen to you. Regardless if you name your alter ego or not is neither here nor there. We ALL have multiple sides to us. It’s learning to allow you to fold and evolve. It’s a beautiful thing to see yourself in the mirror when you accept yourself with all the flaws and messiness you are.

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  • Say NO more
  • Say YES more
  • Eliminate waste in all areas of your life
  • Link with other dope individuals
  • Smile More
  • Cry when necessary
  • It’s okay not to know the answer
  • It’s okay not to have it together
  • Compare yourself to you and no one else

Whatever you need your alter ego for, combine her/him with who you are and shine. Together you are all you need. Be great today!

 

Monday Motivation: Leech of the Past

Happy Monday! Another week is upon us. I know it’s easy to complain about how tired you may be or how unhappy you may feel if you’re feeling a little unmotivated. One is the best motivation killers is when you do a mental walk back and add the energy killer of comparison.

You allow your mind and events to do a movie reel playback of all the mistakes you made and blame your current place of life on its demise. It’s true to some extent that our mistakes do play a large part in a present but it doesn’t have to define it. The movie reel of events only has the power to deter you when you stay stagnant in the credit section. At some point you have to get up right? At some point you have to live right? At some point you can’t carry all the weight and expect to fly, right?!

The past although hard, messy, painful, hindering, or true has to be left in its proper place. I’ve seen people who like me were undeserving of their “new life” push through and when something wasn’t available they created it. You don’t have to be in the best of situations or have all the necessary resources or know all the key players of the game. You do have to be able to walk away from the leech of your past and even if fear tags along, move on. Once those few steps are made fear drops off. Fear won’t have anything to move with the courage of taking the initial steps.

The leech of your past is binding and exhausting. It doesn’t have to be the end of your story.

The I can’t because….

The I don’t deserve because….

The I can’t move forward because….

All of them leeches need to be removed. You can make anything happen when instead of giving life to what you can’t do, accept your past. Own your past. Own your mistakes because in doing so no one will be able to hold it over your head. No one will be able to keep holding it over your head as bait to keep you paralyzed. You yourself need to stop holding on to it as well!!!

This Monday it cost more in life to walk out your dreams from the inside out. The cost is definitely worth it. The leeches of your past can’t stop what’s birth in you to complete. Take the sting out and move forward. You owe yourself so don’t let yourself down! You got this!

Monday: Re-Direction

If you have kids or have seen a child that is having a moment, you know how important redirection is. Having to get that child’s attention so they can focus on the task at hand is a lot at times. I have had to continue to redirect my own children. To be honest I have had to redirect myself. You can lose your focus looking at what everyone around you is completing. You can lose your focus looking at what you haven’t done. Redirect your attention.  Redirect the energy that you easily give to the things around you that may not even be serving your goals. A lot of adults function in life-like toddlers and then don’t know why end of the year, they feel defeated in life. Redirection helps bring your mind, heart, and goals into focus.

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What is on your to do list to complete? What are your core list to complete this week, this month, this quarter, this month, or this year?  That’s a lot of lists? To a point it may be but you need to redirect yourself off of things and people if you EVER want to get things done. Redirect your thoughts so you can stay out the negativity that seems to talk louder than positivity. Redirect your spirit from being defeated every time you hear the answer of NO. You need to redirect your heart every time you willingly hand it over to someone who you ignored the red flags. Redirect yourself every time you have a mate that cares more about themselves than being on a team.

Where could you use some direction this morning? Focus. You win when you redirect even if you have to redirect while carrying frustration, tears, pain, or hurt. It will drop off but you need to get your goals in aligned. Align this morning. Align and just start with one thing on your list, you won’t even notice how productive you are or how smaller your circle naturally gets. Big crowds don’t like to work they like attachment. Only those on the same wave length will stick around when you redirect!

I know that this Monday we could all need a redirecting. Have an amazing day, week and month!