I find it interesting when people think that success just falls from a tree. In all of my little 38 years I’ve yet to see a success tree just give you what you want. I’ve seen hard work, dedication, and integrity get folks into places that smarts couldn’t but not a single success tree.
Sometimes what’s wrong with us is we don’t have a will to succeed. We have a desire and a wish I could but not actually a will to make things happen. A will is definitive. It’s an outline of what you want to do and normally you bring with your will is hard work and a plan. This desire to be whatever you want is simply just a desire if the will isn’t strong enough to make it happen! If your will isn’t renewed daily. If you’re not putting an action plan behind what you want. This Monday and every Monday you need to renew your will. Just like it takes a will to be where you need to sometimes getting you out of bed, use that time out of the bed to make it count. Don’t waste your moments and your days. You can find every reason to be upset about what you don’t have. However it’s better to move forward for what you need and not waste your moments giving energy to that which won’t get you to your desired life.
Today make your day what you want. If you want change than be the change. Step into what you need! Change your perspective! Will yourself your greatness!
It’s almost a new month. It’s time to keep grinding. We are almost to the last quarter of the year. This can bring a sense of focus for some. For others it can be about a place of anguish.
What have you done for your year? What goals have you accomplished? If you have a place of panic coming up with the answers; let me give you a suggestion to help you focus and take control of your year. It can be overwhelming if you feel as if you have allowed your year to get away from you. Not every year will you crush your goals and feel like a boss. If I’m honest I’ve had some years where I felt like I didn’t do much of anything. Let’s have that moment now. That moment of not traveling enough, not working hard enough, not landing the perfect job, not getting the guy or girl you wanted…the list goes on.
Feeling like you’re not enough won’t just happen or attempt to pop up the night before the New Year. This is a daily struggle. It comes up the most when you decide to focus on those around you. Comparison can be the devil! It really is. Just trying to figure where you fit with those around you has to be checked. I mean you will forever find others doing better than you. Even those who seem to have it altogether struggle.
My suggestion is to be honest for where you are NOW! Be honest with who you are and where and why you are where you are! If you attempt to tell yourself that you should be somewhere and you’re not there it’s going to bother you! Take control of your emotions so you can find yourself able to make strategic decisions on how to finish the year out. Instead of focusing on what you didn’t do for 9 months focus on what you can do in the next 3.
I would rather finish strong for 3 than to have a full 12 on the line. You have to change your perspective. You can make great waves for the last 3 months. It’s a choice! It’s a mindset. One of the biggest stops in life isn’t in our finances, connections, or abilities but the mind. As soon as you will yourself to defeat without a reset you will wallow! Make one step towards changing your mindset and you can soar towards any goal. I would rather have myself in goal setting position than to have to start from scratch. You can make the decision today to work out and become healthier irregardless to what you haven’t done thus far. Today can be it!
So what are you going to do? Waste another 3 months worrying about the 9 months you had? Are you going to finish strong and develop long lasting new goals? How about new healthier habits for 3 months that jumps and sparks into a New Year? Your mind has to evolve from a all or nothing mentality. You will lose yourself trying to build Rome in a day instead of making sure the foundation by which Rome is built is solid! You are Rome and Rome needs stability instead of this stop and start mentality.
Picking up 3 projects just for the sake of saying you did it isn’t the answer! Finishing goals is! Knowing your foundation is laid is the key. Instead of a quick diet plan you replace it with lifetime choices. Nothing worse than dropping weight fast and having it come back faster! You can drop the weight in all areas of your life by building a stable foundation to help you maintain what you get.
So let’s refocus on what’s really important. Slow building with the right foundation will help you maintain when others who tinkered past you collapse. You can be the tortoise but you got to be smart. The ideal is to work smarter not harder! To work efficiently and not lazily! You got this. Bow break out that pen and make some promises to yourself. Write it down and then write down how to make it happen. Wake up daily and push towards it! Let’s put blinders on watching others pass you. When you see it have solid folks on your team that will check your back into stability! You can make it happen! Let’s refocus this last quarter!
Happy Monday! I’m coming to you today with a mid morning reminder. As I was at events this past weekend I had someone say along the lines: “why were you so nice to them?” I believe I had told a PR agent that I was flexible and not to worry about how anything appeared and I was more than willing to adjust. The young lady took it as me being a push over.
I remained calm in letting her know that keeping in mind that regardless of what was occurring (which by the way wasn’t anything serious) my job in life regardless of what I am doing or where I am is to be in charge of how I interact with others. We all have bad days and bad moments and at no time did I need to go out of my way to give attitude, smirks or anything of the like to another person.
Regardless of heat, issue, etc. it’s not fair to dish out bad vibes to those around me who undeserving of such behaviors. I let her know that there are always folks willing to be nasty, mean, arrogant and as someone who chose to be in the public eye to a certain degree how someone comes into contact with me matters. That doesn’t mean that I’m above being human. It does require for me not to ever forget that above being a blogger, an influencer, a mom, a wife-I’m responsible for how I treat others around me! I am responsible for how I talk to others. Doing things like coming off stuck up is not apart of the package. I treat others with the same level of care that I would want in return!
So on this Monday be clear that when you think no one is watching that they are. I am glad that instead of taking offense to her question I was able to listen and have great dialogue with her. I didn’t want her to have a bad interaction with me but I was glad to be able to remind her too that no one deserves the worse of us at any time for no reason. Remind yourself of that too. The world has enough bad apples don’t be that. Be as positive as you can especially when you’re around others!!
Nothing in life will be. Everything comes from a place of working hard. I’m amazed at the two extremes that people use the term “it’s not that easy.”
People use it’s not that easy when they want to highlight their accomplishments. It’s true when you work your behind off the last thing you need is someone coming with the discredit. It’s humiliating to be honest to put energy and backing into something only to have someone who by the way doesn’t like you to discredit your efforts. I would say often times it’s the ones that closest to you or those you let your guard down the most with. The ones you might have shared a dream or conversation about a dream with. They know that you’re not qualified but they don’t see your passions working behind the scene. None of which, can stop you unless your fuel needs to come from pats on your back! If that is the case you’re going to burn out fast. People’s attention span aren’t strong enough to hold all of your accolades in their forefront until your winning season pushes through. When winning season comes people become like magnets and want to meet up, link up, and talk. Always remember the times you couldn’t even get them to answer an email, a call, or smoke screen. That doesn’t mean be brand new it just means don’t rush to meet them so they can drink off of your success!
The other time people use it’s not easy is when they want to discredit their own ability to push through a difficult situation and usually about trauma or hardship. Example, “it’s not that easy to walk away.” When in reality it may not be but the consequences of staying is greater than the stagnant of staying. This could be staying in a relationship, bad job, not attending or finishing school, starting a dream job or passion. It applies to you when you are pulling at available and readily available excuses. You can make more excuses than a little bit! End it today. You can have zero knowledge about a dream but wake up and feel that dream on your mind. You know you have to walk in it but don’t let fear of rejection, intimidation, or acceptance stop you!
Nothing in life will just fall into line without proper backing of energy that has to come from inside of you. Whatever you are after this week go and grab it. Work hard for it! Push through! Be consistent! Manage your emotions and those around you! Say no a few times. No is a small but powerful word that successful people learn to use! Put a wedge in-between those who sit and listen to your dreams in hopes to deter you from working hard. If the people you speak to don’t encourage and in addition have zero resources to assist, why are you speaking to them? What can they do?
You got this! You can crush it! You can win! Work smarter not harder! Push through even when it’s difficult, hard, or makes you feel like you’re not going to win-you will!!
So since many of us had a 3-4 day weekend I decided to have today’s motivation ready. Its always hard to get back into gear after having so many days off. I do hope those who celebrated Memorial Day found it to be about fun and spent doing at least one thing that you loved for yourself. It’s never a good thing to spend so much time catering to others only to find that your cup is just about empty.
So how do you shift back into gear? First by accepting the fact that you have to actually shift into gear. The worse times to complain is when you act as if what you’re complaining about will change simply by stating your displeasure. If you’re going to complain today do it with an action plan. Follow up with job applications, put out a resume, make an investment to do something you love, or simply start the process of detaching from those things that no longer serve you. Whatever you do, do it with action. Do it with passion and turn complaint into something that will make you stronger, better, healthier.
I used to complain about the most mundane things. It not only got on my own nerves but the nerves of those around me. Nothing good can come from a person who complains like you’re going to get an award for it. It’s draining. It’s depressing and it doesn’t add to the value to you as a person. People detach or should detach from negative folks. Everyone around you can see the very game plan you need to start but your complaining ways make the path so thick when it’s not.
Today shake the Tuesday like Monday blues and utilize your time better. I would hate to use my last breath in a negative funk. Let’s step it up and change our thoughts, our conversations and especially those around us. You can draw better results even in the worse tragedies but what you say, do, and act.
Let’s conquer the day!!
So today I did my normal wake up in a great mode. Put on music. Wake the kids with love and a healthy dose of sarcasm while declaring a great day. All of my intentions were in the right place, but the way life is set up….
I really almost took a mental health day. The type of day when you say oh well and you get into the bed and act like the day isn’t in full swing. These days are super necessary when you really need them. However with all that I had on my plate I had to take a few minutes to gather myself. Stop and pray, control my mouth, retract my thoughts….and still the day went left. I would love to tell you that the day just got better but it hasn’t… fully. Will it? I am not sure it matters. It wasn’t in the gathering of myself that was going to make the day great, it was just in the press. When you attempt to keep your mind clear and your heart pure it seems as if life will just cooperate. That is false advertisement. Things go left and that is what it does. We live another moment to change our perspective and make things right!
Today and any other day I am still responsible for my thought patterns and my responses no matter what is going on around me. That little nugget is for those who say well my day sucks so I…. SO you what? You can spew negativity onto the world due to your disposition? NOPE. SO you can make those around you miserable? NOPE. SO you can go to work dumping your nasty attitude on others? NOPE. You are supposed to remain in control of you at all times even when the traffic is backed up, your coffee was made with milk instead of almond work, and you get to work almost an hour late like I did. You have to remain in control with the ones in your home push indirectly their issues onto you. You have to gather yourself. I didn’t have to gather my words this morning in my house because I got to a corner, prayed, and realigned myself. I know we all have bad Mondays but that Monday blues can be worked out. You can gather and reset in the midst of total chaos.
So if your day looks like mine did-there is hope. It doesn’t mean that gathering yourself will bring bountiful blessings in that immediate moment but you also don’t have to bring chaos to those around you until your day levels out. Will it level out? Eventually but you can either delay that blessing with bad attitudes, bad responses, and spewing negativity on others while you wait without pressing. Press because that’s what adults do. Press because you owe it to yourself to not waste another minute on this Earth in a negative mindset. You owe yourself all the love and peace you can surround with!
I can happily report that the coffee chain that messed up my order refunded me almost double what I paid….the day is picking up and I hope yours is too! Lets do this Monday!