You ever meet a real life negative Nancy? The one who complains about the sun being in the sky. They always have some rebuttal for everything you say. They are dissatisfied in their own lives and the only time they have any joy is when they are needed or have any type of good happening in their life. They also are the type to think that no one other than them has a good life even though in their life they complain.
So their name isn’t Nancy. Insert whatever their names are. I have been listening to people lately. Not eavesdropping but just listening. If you quiet your spirit and listen to the people you are in communication with you will notice the relationships that need to be cut. You know getting cut hurts. It may be a sad thing but having someone in your life that is draining is ever more hurtful. You ever leave a conversation and then your life sucks even though before you were happy and content. It’s the life sucker you just engaged yourself. If you constantly are engaging in this type of behavior no wonder depression, hatred, envy, jealousy don’t leave you as quickly as it should. You are drowning.
You can be on top of the world and have Nancy comes and steals your happiness. Note not all Nancy’s are life suckers. The issue isn’t making them change because they won’t. Most negative Nancies don’t even see anything wrong. They blame it on their personality. Oh your personality calls for being a jackass to others? Being troubling? Always having something to say? Always giving unsolicited advice? There’s a word and its called contentious. I have been hearing this word for weeks and it wasn’t even being spoken. Some times contentious argumentative people like to talk and have anything to say just because they think they can. If you say the sky is blue they will have something to say about it. Like Lord, do you ever breath in happiness? Also be careful if someone says you are that way, look at who you hang around. 9 times out of 10 that is your answer. Like momma always said everyone ain’t telling the same lie. So you can drop the fact that you aren’t liked by whomever. The reality is your personality you want to hold onto so dear has rubbed them and probably a few of your cherished friends the wrong way too. Admit it you are the Negative Nancy.
Be honest about yourself before you start trying to figure out who amongst you is the negative Nancy. If you know you could use a little more positivity in how you address life in general. Then for Pete’s sake get there. People are tired of your ways trust me. The ones who don’t speak up to you know it too and they just limit their interactions to avoid the drama that is you. I know what you’re thinking I stay to myself and I don’t cause problems, but you are wrong. The mere fact that you are alone and already are negative when you do speak and interact you tear people down sometimes by your mere presence. You are being tolerated not celebrated. That is an issue you can’t blame others for.
I would love to give you a step by step but you know what you need to do you just won’t do it. There is no middle ground. It’s different when you are trying to do better and you fall and keep trying. But there are so many set in their ways and have this take it or leave it personality. Like really you are just that awful that change is beneath you? Oh wait the rest of the world is supposed to deal with your bad attitude and ugly disposition. You can’t smile and be positive? Oh then the world should leave it. You hurt any chances of real relationships being this way. So if you want its going to have to be from a real place on the inside of you. However to all of negative Nancies, ain’t nobody got time for you or your antics.