Self Love

Self love will look different, sound different, taste different, etc to different people. Self love means by the very definition is about loving yourself.  The broadest definition of self-love is learning how to care for you, what you need, how much you need, and being okay to not limit how often you love on yourself. How you…

Action Do Something

So let me just say that I have about had all I can take but I know that is not true because as time goes especially in the next day or so the complaints are going to take off.  I am referring to the swearing-in of Donald Trump, which artists or celebrities will be in…

My thoughts on MLK Day?

As we have taken part in another MLK day, I have so many mixed emotions.  I have done my duty as a parent to instill in my kids the importance that they need to be accepting of others even though based on their own skin color they may not get that in return.  I have…

How to Have the Best New Year’s Eve…

First of all this is one busy night.  There are a lot of preparations to make it perfect, but let’s keep it real there’s no such thing as perfect.  You have to set aside what goals are most important to you.  They say how you bring in the New Year is super important and it…

Hurting the Babies

So with the holidays in full swing we need to have a discussion about mixing families. It’s no secret that people are master manipulators.  There is no fail proof way to determine if the new boo you have is the one that will honor you all of your days as well as do right by…

Evaluate my life when I feel in Shambles…

Self evaluation of your life should happen often.  How often is up to you.  For me I always have a plan so I may look at things weekly if not daily.  It’s not that I am attempting to carry the weight of the world on my shoulder.  For me it’s always keeping things fresh and…

Women’s History Month: Awilda!

Welcome to another wonderful edition of our women’s history month series.  We have been delighted with some great stories thus far.  Today we are going to hear from Awilda Lopez Mercado.  I met Awilda in high school.  Let me tell you of my first impressions of Awilda.  From afar I honestly thought she was this beautiful…

Favorite Christmas Moments

So I’ve been asked via my Ask Toi what are some of my favorite holiday moments and so of course I have quite a few. Most of my moments are pretty much surrounded by my family.  Yes family means a lot to me.  Growing up I learned that family isn’t necessarily by blood but the…