Protect your Spirit

Happy Monday to you.  Happy I am just making it Monday.  Happy I am alive Monday. Whatever your Monday looks like to you, make it that and rise above it.  Yes the weekend has left some of us dry.  If it wasn’t the news that is constantly being pushed in our faces, to relationships, situationships, kids, jobs, etc you may be at wit’s end.

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So we all know that we need to protect our spirit.  Your spirit is your essence.  It’s your wits.  It’s you in a nut shell. I know there are many times when I have to take a time out. I give my kids one and have no shame in taking one.  You need to protect your essence. All of life’s drama can take the beauty out of you if you let it.  Today I am even more guarded to keep being informed but to filter some of the junk to avoid getting too overly emotional or let things take me out of my element.

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Life is hard but cover yourself today and everyday.  Cover your children who don’t fully understand but are in the presence of the same junk you are touched with.  Never underestimate that they are able to pick up on negative vibes just as much as you do. Protect what they see and hear.  Protect who they are around.  Who you allow your kids to be around speaks volumes as they take on what on who is around them.  Protect what words you say around them as well.  Words have life and death in them and you have to be careful that the tearing down isn’t occurring in-house.  We are worried about the outsiders but truth be told you can cause more damage in house than you will ever know if you aren’t careful.

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Filter what you take on when it comes to social media. I love social media but the down size is that it doesn’t always allow you to be social.  It can become battle grounds.  It can become warfare. It can zap your energy.  It can take up so much of your time.  It can allow you to not be able to disengage with those around you.  It is a choice and you must make good choices on what you entertain on social media.  Everything isn’t worth a response. Everything doesn’t need a clap back.  You have to clean your social media act up. Delete some accounts you don’t need.  Take a few folks off that you allow to get you all up in arms.  Learn to take a step back with who you call friends on your social media accounts.  Never post anything you don’t stand by 100% and be prepared to live with any backlash.  Learn that some things that inspire you may just be for you.  Learn that you can choose to spread hate or love.  Love on yourself.  Practice self-love everyday.  Mental illness is real and it can be elevated by social media because when the mind is weak it allows the defenses of everything to be low.  Be careful.  Speak life today.  Speak life into your situations and find ways to make your bottom line better.  Reach out to help others when your able.  It’s no different from when you’re on a plane, they tell you to put the oxygen mask on you first.  Same rule applies in life, stop handing out all of your resources to others and leave yourself depleted.  Help you than you can help someone else.  Have a great Monday and practice self love and love on others around you.

Leave the kids out of it

So it’s no surprise that this world is cruel.  As adults and now some of these grown behind teenagers seem to “pop” off at any given time.  There has always been an unstated rule that you don’t come for children.  I could care less what you feel about a child they are off limit.  Even in the most heated debates talking about a child is the quickest way to make that conversation go left.

Kids don’t have anything to do with adult mess. You don’t have to even like how an adult chooses to raise a child but to say the meanest, ugliest things to and about a child may get you a two piece and I’m not talking about fast food.  Just stop.  I don’t care if you are family, friend or an enemy leave kids out of your raggedy mouths.  This week Ilie Nastase found out the hard way.  Even if you are the most racist prick and proud to be you don’t get to talk about someone’s unborn child.  That is taking things WAY too far.  I blame the Nastases of the world.  We co-sign some of the most down right wrong behavior.  We go into comment sections of stories and leave the most unearthing things.  We have no filter.  We “come” for folks all the time but best believe if you step out of line and act like a habitual line stepper in my Charlie Murphy voice over a child and especially mine I am done.  The reason being is that you will do and say anything if children aren’t sacred. You can’t be trusted and I can’t trust my response to your foolishness.  Leave folks and their kids alone.

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Like my mom always said don’t say what you wouldn’t want said to you and yours.  It’s that simple. I know a lot of folks that dish out a lot but can’t take it.  You better be sure which rock you stand on if you talk about somebody’s kids.  I can’t change what you think or what you say but you can best believe we won’t be breaking bread talking about kids. Even if I hear you talking about someone else’s kids that’s a problem.  Have some respect. Nastase is a 70-year-old fool.  Nothing worst about a fool than an old fool.  You should have way more class than to be talking out of turn about a child.  However what I am learning is that just because of your age it doesn’t give ANYONE a right to be that gutter.  Your age doesn’t automatically earn you respect but how you treat others matters.  I have seen more old fools that think they can use title and relationship to be disrespectful. I had someone in my life make a comment about my kids in my presence and my husband and I haven’t been in their presence nor have we entertained them a second more.  That is a no-no.  Nastase and any other raggedy adult that acts like this should be shame.  But guess what they won’t.  Some folks don’t get it until someone steps out of line and talk about and down to their precious little one.  I still believe karma is a beast and I hope for the sake of Nastase that an apology is made and is sincere.  Karma gon come and give you what you serve-believe that!

By the way congrats again to Serena Williams who is out here killing the game while even being pregnant.  That in itself shows the strength that she has physically but to address Ilie in such a classy way kudos to you.  Ilie and all the others like you, grow the hell up.