Day 8 of Self Care September Challenge

My Sunday funday was about recovering from the 5k and getting so more events under my belt. I went to Barre Class at the Bar Method in Rittenhouse. Lawd have mercy they worked my butt and other areas literally. I haven’t felt that much pain at one time in a long time. One thing I can say about The Bar Method my teacher Gina was hands down the most calming teacher I’ve had. She listened to me and calmed my nerves when I explained how nervous I was. My doctor a few weeks ago suggested that I take a barre class since I do a lot of running and cycling class. I can see why. They move muscles you think you move in a regular work out and you find out doesn’t matter. I love their hands on approach. When I was out of form for what we needed to do they helped me get on track!

After my work out I a few good blocks to Saxbys. I enjoyed another matcha drink aka the Big Mood. I love them I know they are naturally sweet with the raspberry syrup but I asked for a little more. It felt good to walk around one to allow my muscles to relax but I love good weather walking especially if the end result is treats from Saxbys. Oh and by the way since I had to get a bag to carry you can tell I got too much. Or was it? Treat yourself right?!

Not only was I recovering from my Saturday run I also attended Operation Wawa Road Trip! The play was phenomenal. You can see my blog on it here! So many amazing laughs and I sure could use a good laugh. These last few weeks have been full of stress. I mean like heavy stress. It felt good to dress up and put a little make up on and get out. I so wished I had taken a pic. I hate when I do that. After I got home I was able to relax!

The rest of the day I spent with one of my blogger friend. We enjoyed company at a restaurant. I’ll be posting more about that tomorrow so check out my Instagram to see what we were up to. Hint it involved amazing food and a little pipping tea!!

I ended up taking my twin back to the hospital as precaution but I’m glad that she was okay! I ended up falling asleep on the couch. So what did I notice about self care? I was super anxious when I go to a new location even with my GPS! It happens just about every time I have to be somewhere. When I went to Operation Wawa Road Trip even though I set my clothes etc out when it was time to go that anxiety settled in. I was able to push through as always by calming my nerves. I also reminded myself how often I had been feeling like this and it passes and it’s only temporary. I didn’t want to forget that and check my emotions!

How are you doing in your daily self care? What are the reminders you need to tell yourself daily as you navigate life?

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Day 2 of Self-Care September 2019

Today was a good day! I started the day out by praying. I had a lot of quiet this morning by getting up before my family to prepare the day. I also was able to do some yoga stretches and enjoy my cup of coffee.

The rest of the day I was super mindful of what I needed to do as well as what I wanted to do. Today I was able to have them work together but there are many days when that doesn’t happen. I had a long list of to dos! One of the to dos was to be clear when I spoke! I didn’t want anything to be done today that wasn’t intentional. So I was selective in being on social media. I wasn’t on it as much! I wasn’t checking every few minutes and I was still productive.

I purposefully didn’t answer some text messages back. I prioritized text importance. I also didn’t take all calls today. I let a few folks go to voicemail. Lord willing I will check back in tomorrow. It felt good to be able to not feel such a sense of urgency. Today being Labor Day didn’t sway me to feel the need to find something to do. I just wanted to get done and enjoy the peace of the day!

Also I was able to end the day at Saxbys. As much as I love wine; I also love coffee. Today I had a matcha drink that was divine. It’s called #Bigmood and it was sweet and made with almond milk, matcha, butterfly blossom tea, and sweet raspberry greatness! I wanted the drink and I knew Saxbys always has me covered! Also can I take a moment to thank the barista who was patient with me as I hadn’t updated my debit card in the app she just simply waited until I did. No huffing and puffing and rolling of the eyes-just simple patience!!!!

So for all of my to dos-reflective thought process as well as centering myself started my Self-Care September into high gear!

Monday Inspiration: Be Free Stories II

I had the opportunity to attend yesterday the Be Free Event yesterday! Although I could never nor would I ever attempt to retell their stories I can tell you how inspired I left!

Brian Terada started Be Free as he began the journey to come out to his family and friends. Being able to create a safe place jump started this mission of hope, love and acceptance. It has opened the doors for others to “free” themselves in many ways. Opening up others to tell their stories of freedom in their way.

I had the elite privilege to stumble upon Be Free by way of Saxbys. I’ve found such a warm welcoming from Saxbys a few months ago and since then anytime I get the opportunity to relax and enjoy their amazing coffee shop I do. Saxbys has always allowed me a conducive working space to blog and enjoy my me time. I would encourage you to give them a try you won’t be disappointed!

I saw the link for Be Free first in Saxbys Instagram story and scrolled past. I believe in timing and was drawn to relook at the story again. I saw and read the information and decided to RSVP! I still didn’t have an idea of what to expect! I purposely didn’t log onto Be Free’s website because I wanted to walk in and get my own sense of experience. Let me tell you because I believe in timing and divine calling, everything tried to deter me. However surpassing my own anxiety that attempted to rise as each hurdle came along, I knew I had to be there!

Once inside I was greeted by warm smiles and my anxiety was also calmed by Saxbys cold brew! Ryan Lewis my Soul Cycle instructor, gave me the look of relief and I knew whatever hurdles I had gone through to get there was worth it. Y’all remember the last time I blogged about Ryan. As I sat and listened to the stories of strangers I had never met, one reoccurring theme hit me. No matter what they had been through what made them “free” was their ability to not quit even when quitting was all they had. Each person including me was not at that moment by chance. We all needed to hear each other’s story. Stories of amazing strength from life. Stories of pressing through pain and heartache, everyone wants to be free to live, to love, to be whole!

I encouraged Brian not to stop the Be Free Stories. This safe space is necessary. This may be the only therapy, the only space of love, the only space of encouragement that someone receives. There are so many who need Be Free’s movement! If you could be in a space of complete freedom, love and knew you wouldn’t be judged, would you go to that space?! If the answer is yes, Be Free is that space!

I am grateful for the moment to be present in watching, listening, and participating in other people’s breakthrough and triumphant. Shout out to Lululemon for sponsoring this amazing event along with Saxbys.

To get more information on how you can participate, donate, and support to Be Free, Be Free Stories

Saxby; Change your Environment

Today’s message comes from the beautiful Saxbys. I am here in this space and the environment is super conducive to crushing my goals. A lot of followers know I always plan my blogs ahead of time. It helps me to continue in my creativity. I found Saxbys online and from their Instagram I really thought it was somewhere outside of Philadelphia. I was wrong. This was about less than 15 minutes from my house. I planned in my head to give them a try.

Two places for a self-proclaimed nerd are bookstores and coffee shops. The reason is I love the atmosphere that is present in both places.  Saxbys gave me the 3 things I look forward to while being in coffee shops. One is natural lighting. I love the way it makes me feel therefore I can create in that type of space. The second is COFFEE. I had their sweet mint cold brew and it tasted so good it made me second guess my selection. I didn’t have to add anything in it other than my almond milk. You know I am still on team no dairy. First sip had me in love. Sweet mint had enough of the chocolate mint flavor that I felt like it was  Girl Scout cookie. I’ll get back to sipping.  The third thing that I love about Saxbys is the third element that I look forward to with coffee shops and that’s the people in it. I know its hard to separate a place from the folks that comes in, but truth be told the right coffee shop’s elements will attract certain types. I loved that Saxbys gave me what I needed.

Now how does Saxbys help in today’s message, changing your environment. I have been and always will remain creative because that is who I am. However sometimes stepping out of your controlled spaces helps to get you moving towards your goals in ways you wouldn’t have even given thought. For one moving out of my house today allowed me to take care of one of my needs today and that was to get away from my family. I love the kids but after a while mommy needs her ear phones and adult interaction. My husband doesn’t drink coffee like that and its rare that he’s going to a coffee shop with me. It’s like my own mental retreat. One of my other needs was coffee. Sometimes I wake up with headaches that I know that often times caffeine helps. Saxbys cold brew had some of the coffee I’ve had in a while. It was exactly what I needed. As I sat and realized that my headache was subsiding, I felt a lot more relaxed.

What if I hadn’t been open to trying something different? What if I allowed my anxiety to get the best of me and allow me to sit home with my family, drinking my home coffee, and not feeling like my cup literally being full. Sometimes it takes moving out-of-the-way to go after the things that you need to be whole. As a mom I know its easy to look around and get in a zone about the needs of my house, but I am striving to take time outs that I need to allow me to refuel and come back whole. Sometimes life won’t allow me to take an escape on one of my solo trips. Being practical about moving things around so I can grow is an essential goal of mine. I used to think being in the house and being present with my family was the only way i could prove to be a great wife or mom. You already know with my self-care notion that being whole requires you to find space, say no, and be able to fuel yourself in a guilt free way.

So let me tell you how finding spaces in the city you live in is crucial. I hear from women who have a thousand complaints about not having a place to go, no one to go with them, or just that they are bored. I am a living witness that you can change that, one outing at a time. So I encourage you to get out of your own way and change your environment. It will help you see the world around you in a different way. As I sat in Saxbys writing, organizing, listening to music and people watching, it was that little space of heaven that made me for a second forget about my long list of to do. It allowed me a place of peace that I needed. It allowed me time to do a mental check in with myself.  I had a lot on my mind that I felt like I could map out without the voices of those around me that I know and love. Strangers talking about all kinds of things, sipping on that coffee goodness was what I needed. Saxbys allowed me a mental retreat today that I so needed. I would encourage you to get out and try Saxby’s for yourself.

Now if you do come to Saxbys let me help you with a few things:

  • Intimate space
  • Variety of drinks including teas, smoothies and food
  • Cheaper than the competitor coffee shops
  • Outside seating and indoor seating (University of Penn location)
  • Great customer service
  • Music low-key playing in the background
  • Clean environment
  • Beautiful artwork
  • Natural Lighting
  • College vibe but adults from all walks of life
  • Plenty of sit down seats as well as outlets to plug into
  • Knowledgable Baristas-I stood there making life choices on coffee and they were super patient with me

Also for those who love apps, Saxbys has an app to get you in and out. You can link your card to it as well as earn points for more coffee. In addition just for signing up you can get $3 to go towards your first purchase!! I would say that’s a win!! So enjoy!!