Monday Motivation: Showing up for Yourself

How will you show up for yourself?  Isn’t it super upsetting when you are waiting on someone to do what they said they were going to do?  It’s the worse thing ever. How about you when you say you’re going to do something for you but you fail to show up for yourself. This is why resolutions or goals fall. You fail yourself. You don’t show up for yourself and then you get mad and the cycle starts all over again.

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There is a lot of life to be lived but showing up for yourself needs to be at the top of your list.  How can you show up for yourself this morning? I choose to pack my snacks and breakfast ahead of time. I decided to show up for myself in how I eat and nurture myself. On Sunday after attending a function with TCP, I decided that regardless of how tired and unprepared I was to run I still got up grabbed what I could and ran my 3 miles. I couldn’t find my running socks, my running sweats that I like to wear in the Winter, my running hat, and I didn’t even have my house key.  I still showed up and showed out.

I am determined that the same energy I give towards work, my kids, my marriage is the same energy I should get first. I will be making more tracks in showing up for myself in other ways. In the amount of water I am drinking, the workouts for the week, blog events, me time, etc. I am showing up for me. You need to show up for you. Show up and make that doctor’s appointment. Make that appointment to get that new haircut you have been putting off. Show up for you. It’s something in not failing your mission even if you have to tweak it. Show up and show out today and this week, this month, and this year!

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Let Them Eat Cake Under the Sea Variety The Children’s Charity of the Delaware Valley

Cake! Cake! Cake! Cake! Cake! I had to to go there because that’s what the evening was all about. Having the best cake bakers come out and compete for the coveted titles while raising money to fund the initiatives of Variety. Variety’s mission is to help hundreds of children who have disabilities and their families. Coming together knowing that the event would help them provide meaningful programs and outreach made the program that much more sweeter.

I was a newbie this year. I had read other blogs as to what took place last year so I could get into formation of what was to be expected. Once there I was in a wonderland of cakes seriously. They give you a container so you can easily place your cake samples inside of it. If you think you love cake, you ain’t seen real cake until you attend this charity event. You have cakes lined up cut and ready to enjoy. Did I mention there’s no limit on how many times you can treat yourself?! My workout and run this morning was definitely on point to offset this indulgence.

GH Cakery; Instagram GH_cakery

The bakers stuck to the theme of cake under the sea. The various and creative ways in which each baker allowed their creativity to flow was nothing but pure amazement. It’s the type of baking that baking shows are made of. To see this level of artistry up close and personal is mesmerizing. However it wasn’t all show as the cakes were equally delicious. So many different flavors were presented. From one of my favorites of kiwi lime pie to blueberry red velvet. Each baker brought the theme to life.

Last years 2018 winner Best in Show and Best in Taste, Bredenbecks; Instagram @bredenbecks

During the charity event I would like to point out a few observations. One the atmosphere was super light. I like to think that the cake, unlimited drinks, the DJ provided by Mole Street Artist and some members of the Philadelphia Eagles including Swoop made the difference but it was the kids helping at the door with their smiles that set the tone. I think it was great having them there to push the mission and keeping everyone on task definitely helped.

This year was almost complete domination and from the design to taste I can see why. Beverlys Pastry Shop scooped Best Taste, Best Design, Audience Choice, and Best in Show. Take a look for yourself there’s no denying it was well earned.

Also shout out to student winner, Gabriella Messina from Walnut Hill College for winning Student Designer!

All in all the night was magical. From the raffles which let me tell you were some of the best prizes anyone could want from a night on town to tickets to shows, it was super creative.

Cakes by Kharis; Instagram Cakes_by_kharis

Special thanks to Variety Children’s Charity, Cherryl of Phillyfoodgal (travelwithchefcherryl) for the invite, Philadelphia Eagles Care, Loews Philadelphia, First Trust Bank, Ten Pennies Florist, Regal Entertainment Group, Wawa, Sesame Place, ABC 6 and Comcast.

For more info on how you can support Variety all year long in their endeavors, click the link! Donate!

TCP presents Spread Love

TCP or The Cultured Professional is a network that has everything from blogs to podcasts and even a cooking show. It’s a one stop shop for all things information that continues to expand and grow. With information comes responsibility. The responsibility to be aware of not just ourselves but those around us. That’s where the concept of Spread Love comes in.

Three years ago the concept was born in providing peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and care packages to the less fortunate. With that in mind, members of TCP came together along with community leaders and volunteers to “Spread Love.” Just in making these sandwiches the thought process of what it means to make someone a sandwich is bigger than simply making sure each corner is filled with peanut butter. The concept of making sure to feed someone as you would yourself and to keep in mind the basic needs we take for granted was on the minds of all who came out to support. Volunteers of all ages came together to make today’s 402 care packages and sandwiches a huge success.

One of the biggest initiatives was to find out as a community the needs that exist and how to resolve them. Being present with intent is what drove the discussion towards ideas that could be put into an action plan. Ideas such as a community garden, cleaning up the neighborhood, teaching financial literacy, programs to increase mentorship and life skills support just to name a few are all great ways to think towards sustaining the very lives of those around us. Speaking of intent, 3 of those ideas will be backed as those winners’ ideas will be backed by a check for $500 a piece.

One of the biggest issues with speaking on how to bring the community together is usually the lack of having community leaders who will support the very initiatives. However today wasn’t that day. Today Spread Love had the elite privilege of having the backing as well as help from Lancaster Mayor, Danene Sorace as well as the Lancaster Community Foundation. Today with the help of Mayor Sorace and her family, TCP was able to be intentional on future plans. Sorace not only listened to the ideas, she also gave a lot of great input on resources already in place. She made sure she too assisted in making care packages.

Lancaster City Mayor Danene Sorace And husband, Christian And family

Often times we tend to complain about ways to make things better but we rarely do the things necessary to assist. When community initiatives are being set often those who ideas don’t step up to let their voices heard! Here’s how you can help in future initiatives:

  • Show up and be present even when you don’t agree with an idea
    Come with a plan and don’t be afraid to speak up
    If you feel you weren’t heard the first time, keep talking

The next time there is a community event, attend. You would be surprised of the wealth of knowledge you may learn just from being at the right place at the right time. Today we were able to see free flow of love and support. It crossed all barriers! We have the power to unite on issues that are bigger than us if we take the time to speak with intentions.

Marquis and Whitney Lupton

There was fun, food, activities for the kids and raffles and prizes all while jamming out to the awesome sounds of DJ Biz!

On behalf of TCP we would like to thank the following:

Lancaster Mayor, Danene Sorace

Lancaster Community Foundation

Brightside Community Center

Chef Oliver Saye, For providing the best food to nurture our volunteers

Derrick “DJ Biz” Wright

All news outlets for the coverage

Every volunteer who without your help we wouldn’t have been able to be a blessing without your diligence of accepting the call and making it happen!

To all who donated toiletries, bread, peanut butter and jelly and all necessary supplies

Shout out to the whole TCP crew! “We working over here!”

 

Meet the Johnsons: Jamar and Kizzy

Chef Oliver and Zuma

The Queens of Raw Royalty: Hollywood Bonnie, Honey, Jassy, And Siren

William Way, Brandon Way, Lancaster City Mayor, Danene Sorace, Marquis Lupton

Saturday Vibes

I often hear people say they are bored. One thing about being bored is that you have too much time on your hand to complain and to over think. Not that you have to fill your every waking moment with things to do.  Just relaxing is a blessing when you don’t have plans. Those sometimes are the best. However you need to focus on renewing. Saturday vibes are super important.

 

For my house it’s filled with soccer and events. I am aware of that so I like to spend my Saturday nights doing nothing unless it’s a date night and having adult juice.  This is my relax. Often times during the day I have worked out, played parent Uber, attended events, and whatever else comes up. I know that once Sunday comes that’s my day to meal prep, do laundry, clean, and all other events that are scheduled.

Take some time to get your Saturday vibes right. I always try to find some space for myself. This is when I have a lot of money and when I don’t. I try not to let that get in the way. There are always free events in Philadelphia for me to find and go do something. Do not think for a few seconds that Saturdays don’t matter because they do. I try not to add too many events. I used to be on this go-go go run but I find that sometimes that is taxing.  Find the balance in learning to chill out a bit.  You have no idea how rewarding it is after working all week and running around it is to not have too much pressure.  These next couple of weeks are really demanding of my schedule so if you think I’m not searching for that relaxation, you are sadly mistaken.  You better renew!

Ideals for Saturday Vibes

  • Brunch
  • Reading my Magazines
  • Nap
  • In home spa day
  • Going to nail salon
  • Datenight with bae or friends
  • Playing board games with the kids
  • Movies
  • Reading a good book
  • Doing my hair or my kid’s hair
  • Spa

The list is really endless on what makes a great Saturday.  Whatever you do-get into the vibe, catch it and don’t let it go!

Slow Down

I am meticulous about deadlines and schedules. It drives my husband nuts because he’s the type that goes with the flow! However today in my commute home I ran into an older woman who many passed by. She looked lost and asked me how to get to the train station. She said she was worried she has missed it.

Even though I left my office 10 minutes later than normal and normally I would have been hustling quick to get to the train station I let her know I would not only escort her to the train but I would make sure she got on the right one. As we began walking slowly she started to share her story with me. These last couple of days I’ve been thinking about my great grandparents and this women’s spirit reminded me of my great grandmother. I took her to make sure she got on her train and she had me call her family to let them know what time she would arrive. I enjoyed that slow down.

I wasn’t late after all. We both were able to get on the train to our destination. She said so many people walked past her that she was getting anxious about finding the train station in time. I was anxious about being on time but our time was perfectly matched. I’m a firm believer even with anxiety that we will be at the right place at the right time. Today was that reminder. She said I provided her with comfort and today she provided me with joy! I pray nothing but blessings into her life! Such a sweet woman!

It pays to slow down and realize that delays are sometimes super necessary. There’s someone who needed me but in essence I needed her love and warmth!!

Monday Motivation: Take Care of You

Good morning. Whether you are off this President Day or working like me today’s motivation is about reminding you to take care of you.  I know you have a lot on your mind and heart.  I know you have a to do list that’s super long, but taking care of you while you accomplish these goals is extremely important.

People talk about not being selfish in life and that’s real.  However there are a few things that you must be selfish in and that’s taking care of you. Not worrying about everyone else around you and then setting you on the list last. I hear so many people say how much time they don’t have. Yet if you are sitting up at night stressing you have time to find ways of taking care of your needs. How can you use the time you think you don’t have?  Simple.  Learn to make a list.  Cross off things as you get them done and move on to the next thing. Make a list of health related items to get done. Did you get your teeth checked in last 6 months? If you are a woman have you had your gynecological exam and breast examined? Men if you are of age have you checked your prostate and have a physical?  I know you’re tough and are okay but a physical will lay it all on the table.  Start there. That’s checking your health.  What about mental health?  How are you REALLY doing?  Do you find yourself snapping out on others around you?  Could you benefit from therapy to attack some stressors and old pain that’s not healed. Healing will bring things to the surface for you to deal with and not ignore.

How about how you make a living or accomplish those goals?  Are you walking in your purpose?  Do you wake up every day dreading going into work because its simple just filling the time on Earth and paying your bills?  Have you considered using that job to reach your ultimate goal. This means sitting down and making a 1 month, 6 month, 1 year, etc plan.  Yes work in the day, and at night find a way to put aside money for your dream.  This changes how you wake up. Yes the folks on the job irritate you, but you aren’t working for a check anymore. You are now working towards a dream.  See how you can switch the perspective?

Get up and do one thing this morning that is about change. This morning I woke up with the world on my mind. I said Toi today is about how you can make a few things happen.  I looked at my vision board and said today I will attack one thing from each category to get to my vision.  A vision is simply the guideline but you have to put in the work to make it happen. Those cut outs are only helping you visually see the steps, so let’s get to the steps. Happy Monday and crush those goals. Trust me life is going to throw enough curve balls. You got to know when to let a few go past you, duck, and catch the ones that are for you. Today, its okay to focus on your goals. I would hate to see all that life inside of you diminish because your focus was fixing everyone else and not living your best life.

Sunday Message: Be your Own Party

There are so many times where we need the affirmation of those around us. Let’s be honest, people are attempting to push through their own stuff. As much as you should have people who celebrate you, don’t get discouraged when others can’t tap into you like you want!

So what happens when you have to turn things into a party of one?! You turn that celebration up! Yes you celebrate you like you want others to celebrate you! Your internal celebration dial sometimes has to be turned high. This means your word choices in how you describe yourself, how you treat you, and how you love on you matters. Stop negative self talk. It doesn’t help when your mind says one thing and then you allow your mind and thoughts to align together. Trust me it can be devastating to talk yourself out of a blessing or into some mess. Don’t you have a world doing it enough?! Don’t add to it! You may not have it altogether but good ma’am and sir you are still bomb! You are worthy! You are what the world needs. Smile, adjust your crown, shift your outfit and walk head high.

You can’t be mad at others who talk to you raggedly if you too join in on the fun! You are here for a purpose and while you find and begin walking in it, strut your stuff!

Party of one don’t have to be so bad! They are relaxing when you think about it. Party of one means you can shine your way without having to do it like the next! Celebrate you!

Today in the midst of a bad day or a bad moment, smile because you been down before and you know you will overcome! You know you will make it and you know you got this!