Sunday Message: Preparing you for Better

It’s hard to see how life could be preparing for you better when the worse is happening. When life is kicking your behind with no breaks it’s hard to remain positive. However the truth is even in the worse or the thick of things, life really is preparing you for better. 

It doesn’t mean that life is going to continue to serve bad times. Even in times of greatness life can literally take a turn. However one of the things to keep in mind is that it always turns. Your response to the turn is what matters the most. If you plan on making the best of it you will have to take its lessons and turn them into triumphs. I know the strongest of women who didn’t have a plan in place but continued to move towards the betterment and it worked not because themselves were magical but they wouldn’t take no for a final answer. 

Let me share one story of my own life with you. When I first had my daughter I worked hard at work. I lost my job due to downsizing. I would spend all night in the hospital and wait for my cousin or friends to come after working their 3rd shift jobs to sit with her so I could go to work and come back. I cried all the way to the hospital. I didn’t have an iPhone to see her. I had to trust that my family and friends would do what I would so I could work and make money to take care of her. IT was hard. 

I moved to Philadelphia and found out surprise I was pregnant again. I knew it didn’t make sense to pay full price for a toddler and a newborn so I became the best stay at home mom I could. I was miserable dealing with postpartum in a new city with limited friends. When I tried to go back to work it wasn’t easy. I had a college degree and strong work references but getting a job was hard. I had to take temporary assignments rushing to get them to avoid paying a late fee because it made sense to let my husband work since his work was bringing in more money and had more stability. It was hard watching him flourish while I felt like I was drowning. I cried a LOT. I was miserable only telling others of my stress. However fast forward now those lessons prepared me for my busy life now:

I won’t work anywhere I can’t control my schedule. I found that instead of fighting working full time if I had to work taking a part time or temporary positions if I had to wasn’t the end of the world. I put so much stock into working for others that I didn’t realize that I could work for myself, work my butt off, and make the money I needed and have freedom to enjoy my family. I learned that I was fighting a system that I could and do now define. Also working from home or flexing my time works too-whatever you need it’s out there. Look for what works for you and do that. 

Those tears I cried before I don’t have to now because I get how to move and still do what I love and not have to choose. While I was hoping my husband or fiancé at the time couldn’t make me happy I had to work through it. My hustle now is was different than it was than when I wanted an easy way. Entrepreneurship isn’t easy but if you have ever struggled and learned the lessons it makes it easier. I don’t waste time or leave money on a table. When someone says hey email me let’s chat-email them right away. I make solid connections now and have seen them turn into solid gold just because I bring fear with me until it falls. Life will prepare you for the newness of life but you have to be willing to not fight the lesson. 

So whatever life is throwing your way, don’t ignore the lesson. The harder you fight the lesson you will end up having to repeat it and trust me you waste more time. Don’t waste your time or leave money on the table doing it. Life is trying to give you better you just stuck in the misery and can’t see. Wipe your tears and work smarter not harder.

Friday Check In-January 24, 2020

We are continuing the Friday Check in Series. I might make this a permanent series since checking in with self and others is so important. There are a million one ways to check in with others. You can check in with yourself another of ways. Today’s check in going to be about sleep.

Sleep

Sleep is something we all know that we need and yet with the way life is set up it doesn’t mean that we all get it. Sleep is about resting and not simply falling asleep. Sometimes or at least with me when I am stressed I lay up overthinking. There’s not much that can be fixed in your sleep but if we are honest we do things like staying up and worrying. Sleep is a necessary part of being healthy. I find and it’s been proven getting on a sleep schedule helps with losing weight and brain cell energy. 

So what stops our sleep?

If you have a new baby I can understand why you are up and sleep deprived. The whole notion of sleeping when a baby sleeps is great but there a ton of other things to be done like showering, eating, etc. when you have a new baby. However it is important to take as many naps as you possibly can. You see the meme where the mom was holding her baby in her arms but she was pushing the portable bed as if the baby was still in it? That is how moms who are sleep really live. Its super irritating to know you want to sleep or desire to sleep and sleep just won’t come. 

Stress 

Stress like I said earlier will keep you all the way up and not like the song. Sleep or should I say lack of sleep is real when life is steadily kicking your behind. Sometimes at night when my kids go to sleep and I am done at an event if I haven’t fallen over sleep I find myself doing ALL the things I didn’t get done. Dishes need to be washed and put away, blogs have to be edited or videos made, or even sometimes just television to finally watch. When I am stressed I sit with my journal writing and rewriting answers to my problems hoping I missed something I can go back and have that aha moment. It usually doesn’t come and before I know it its 1am or later. 

What I did this week was allowed myself and gave myself permission to sleep. I woke up Wednesday on pure excitement after sleeping in. For me sleeping in is until 645am. I normally get up at 5am. It’s my normal wake up time. I am by 8 or 9am accomplished more than most in a full day. I’ve been known to get ready, clean a kitchen, start laundry, get the kids ready and make breakfast before I even go out the door to “start” my day. It’s a great feeling to feel accomplished but sometimes we need to allow our body to rest and get right.

Go to bed

People think that sleep is just what you do but sometimes sleep is a form of self-care. I had 3 full media events from Monday-Wednesday. Next week is tight AND I am traveling for blogging too. I needed that one day as a day to reset. I was amazed how well I felt. It’s not that I slept in for hours on end. I went to bed in my bed instead of staying on my couch because I have been known to wake up with my planner, journal, or even my blog content calendar in my arms and my cat at my feed. Rest is essential.

Sometimes sleeping in or taking a nap is more important than working to get it ALL done. I am not a machine and neither are you. Today’s self-care and check in moment is sponsored by the message-go to BED! It will be there when you circle around. 

Card Giving

What’s our self-care check in moment of the week to reach out to others? This week I am encouraging you to send cards and letters to your friends and family. It’s one thing to send cards for birthdays and anniversaries but I am the Queen of cards just to brighten my friend’s day. I have packs of cards. Some are Toitime cards and others are just I was thinking of you cards. I keep packs and choose one to send. I love sending them out to my friends and getting calls or texts messages that it made them feel that much better.  Remember you never know what someone is going through. 

 

The Goat Philly

I attended the Goat Media and VIP celebration. If you remember last week when I attended the opening of The Fairview, it’s the same owner, Fergus Carey. He dazzled in his white.  The Goat is a partnership between Fergie and Jim McNamara, the dynamic duo has a great gem on their hands with this one. 

Located in the Rittenhouse section of the city at 1907 Sansom Street it’s nestled on the corner and named after the Billy Goat statue in Rittenhouse makes perfect sense. It’s also a play on the Greatest of All Time-I see what you did Fergie! Fun fact that I didn’t know at first was there was an online competition to help name The Goat. Talk about input from the start?! But don’t expect The Goat to play coy when it comes to the selections and drinks. The Goat packs a powerful punch and is ready to own its own. Trust me the hype is worth it. So you know how I do I am going to break it down from décor, food, atmosphere and service.

Décor

What’s more fun than one bar? Two! That’s right there are two bars. One bar at least for the Media night served up signature drinks while the other served wine. You know how I love my wine. The inside is beautiful. What caught my eyes was the very well lite lighting. Take a look for yourself:

I also loved how beautiful the floors were. I know that’s a weird observation but you can’t help but to take notice of it. Some of the décor was made of things like skateboards, etc. Shout out to interior designer Raymond Haldeman. The bars are visually stunning. It makes for a great time either for dates, happy hour, get together with friends, etc. 

Drinks

The flow of drinks was amazing. I know you know I love my drinks and that all drinks are great but they aren’t. Drinks need to taste well, have amazing presentation and be strong. The Goat had all of that and more. I loved their signature drink, the Pink Goat. It’s a mix of Gin, Elderflower Liqueur, grapefruit juice, and a dash of Prosecco and cranberry. It’s good. It has the right combination for it to be in the middle between a little hint of sweet and a little sour too. 

You know I always end my nights when I can with a little wine. I enjoyed the Fleurs de Prairie Rose. It was so good. 

Food

I mean who comes to the bar to ONLY drink? Not me. If I am drinking I need food options too especially my on the go lifestyle. Thanks to Chef Adrian Geronimo the food at The Goat is just as appealing as its décor and drinks. The concept behind The Goat is to have a mid-priced and modern pub that offers smart choices that are delicious. People are becoming more conscience when they choose to spend their money and eat out. The world wants options that include being able to keep in line with their lifestyle changes and still affords them great tasting food and The Goat meets those demands. 

Roasted Mushroom Flatbread

This was made with herbed ricotta, fontina cheese, caramelizedonions, baby arugula, and truffle oil. 

 

Ancho Chili Braised Short Rib 

It was (I didn’t personally eat it) extremely good and melted in your mouth.

 

Reuben Burger

Angus beef, pastrami, Swiss cheese, Napa cabbage, red onions, Russian dressing on a sesame brioche

Seitan Bulgogi Bowl

Carrots, radish, lettuce cucumber, daikon, soy ginger sauce

So as you can see there is food for every palate. They even have blackened tofu, and green Chile BBQ jack fruit sandwich that I want to go back and personally try. 

The event was a success.  Media and VIP were able to have a ball while eating and drinking great options. Also there was a live band. I grew up around music my whole life and so any time live music can be incorporated into the mix I am personally here for it. 

Service

The service was amazing. When I got in as most media events are the dash to the bar is long. I wanted a cocktail but started with wine. The server made me a cocktail instead of me having to switch sides. He had no idea I had a long day and just submitted a major project. Little things like that always stay with me and will keep me coming back! Even in my personal life I remember servers who go above and beyond. It matters!!

Thank you to my date of the night, Gesella. She came with me to the Fairview and I believe she had a great time as well. It’s always good times when you can come together and try new things and add more places to eat, drink, and relax!

Gesella and Alex Holley

Thank you to Aversa PR, and The Goat for the invitation. Thank you Gesella for accompanying me. I look forward to adding The Goat to my personal list of where to dine in Philadelphia. 

 

Women History Month Apply Today

We are in year 3 of women month here at Toitimeblog. It’s where we show an extra appreciation towards women who are doing things and paving the way. With that being said I want to encourage women from ALL backgrounds to apply to be featured. This is a month long celebration and I can do one blog or more a day. It’s a great opportunity for women to showcase what they have done and where they are headed. There have been some amazing women who have answered the call and helped to shine the light.

I get every year women saying they have nothing to offer that would be an encouragement to others but that is simply not true. From the single mom doing what she can to support her family to the woman who is the head on a board of directors we ALL have a story. Consider sharing the story with those around you. Women run the world of course but while we do we need to learn to encourage the ones under us to be the best versions of themselves. If I listened to others tell me that I have no story I wouldn’t have birthed this blog 5 years ago. The ways in which it grew came from being authentic and I hope it’s a source of help to those who seek to read whether you are simply curious or just want to see what I am up to-let’s keep it going! Thank you to all the women who have done it in the past and if you have any amazing updates I would love for you to come back and share as well!

It’s simple to apply:

Send an email to toitimeblog@gmail.com

Know that when you do I will send you your questions and all you have to do is answer them inside of the email. I will type up your blog and attach a picture of your choosing and if I have questions and most likely I will contact you to clarify your statements. I do the work and we learn a little more about you.

The faster we get the entries I can pre-edit and I will let you know the day that your blog will post. My blog can be set ahead of time (which works for all of us) so that we all can continue living.

SO let’s go ahead and get involved!

We take women serious around here. I don’t allow anyone to be mad fun of here or allow the space to be used for bitter arguments and pettiness. We encourage women to strive to greatness knowing we are going to make mistakes along the way. We walk in grace and allow that grace and hard work to push us ahead. 

I love learning about some of the best women all around the world!

 

The Children by Lucy Kirkwood and directed by Abigail Adams

Over 40 years and an “old friend” seems to have washed onto your door steps. A surprise for sure that is going to bring about some heavy punches of revelation. The Children by Lucy Kirkwood is a mingling of old friendships, crossed lines, environmental disasters and I would even say some blind facts.

Hazel and Robin live a quiet life. After the earthquakes and tsunami, they have learned to alter their lives and move with ease.  They know to limit their electrical use. They learned to manage their meals. Their quiet lives seem to be well managed until Rose shows up unannounced and that’s when secrets are spilled, and the revelations go deep.

First, you notice that the relationship between Hazel and Rose are strained. Hazel is trying to catch up but she’s very uneasy. Her interactions are dry. She’s hospitable but almost in a way that is more obligatory and not out of love. If one of my college friends had shown up, we would have had an amazing reunion of sorts. Not the case here with Hazel and Rose. First, Hazel hits Rose in the nose. In her defense she wasn’t aware that Rose was even in the house. She tries to make things right offering to help clean her up a bit. I knew in the way they moved that something was off, and I couldn’t quite get it. They catch up and Rose wants to know a lot about their oldest. Hazel is guarded about her oldest daughter’s troubles.

Robin comes home after the catch up and awkwardness and I thought to myself I saw a switch in how Robin was acting towards Rose. He seemed to cordial. My suspensions wereconfirmed when Hazel left the room and he and Rose embraced. I was sitting in my sit thinking this had to be some messed up reason that they were too comfortable and crossing the line of Hazel and Robin’s marriage. There was history. Old flames who had reunited and I wondered if Rose coming back was to scoop up the man she might have felt got away. They were hugging and kissing way too tight for my liking. This explains Hazel’s ability to catch up with Rose earlier. They weren’t full on friends. They were like fremies. I don’t think I have any that I know of in my own circle and none that I am aware of that had a past relationship with my husband that could ever pull up and visit on a whelm. 

It’s easy to note that Hazel, Rose, and Robin worked together in the plant many moons ago. They would even say were responsible for the core meltdown. Once the spilling of the old flames started to unravel so did other secrets too. This play has it all. It gets extremely serious when Rose comes in with her own plot twist. Should they make it right for the younger ones behind them? Is this a suicide mission? You already see the down side to the core meltdown in Rose and Robin. I find it interesting that and this could just be because I am married Robin willingly gives information to Rose that he hadn’t shared with his wife. I peeped how even with the years separating them he is very open with her in ways he can’t give Hazel. 

Careful Hazel seems to be the wife of convenience.  I hate to describe her that way, but it seems like responsibility led them into their partnership. They seem to flow more on a guarded sense of marriage. It has worked but you see the loop holes the second Rose showed up. No one should be able to expose loops in a marriage the way its unraveling. Also, Robin’s anger is an issue too. Hes sitting between the woman he’s married to and the one he “once” loved, and his mouth is extremely fluid. I will also point out that this play has strong language so no one under the age of 13 should be in the audience. My mom used to tell me that a man’s anger elevates when he’s messing around or has his emotions tied to another. 

 

 

Here are my take away without giving away the ending:

Life is always a circle. What you do in the past has a way of boomeranging back to you.

Make decisions you can live with and be able to deal with the consequences of those decisions

Fall in love with the one you love not the safe one. Love doesn’t die. It doesn’t go away. You can’t simply move on as people would like to make you think

Let grown kids fall sometimes. I am a mother I get that I have reached that stage, but I had examples of allowing kids to fall and figure some things out. You can’t do it all for your kids and expect them to thrive.

I had a great time as usual. This play although has its seriousness it is hilarious. I love the energy between the actors.  As always People’s Light did a wonderful job bringing this production to light. It has a lot of humor even some dry humor because I found myself laughing at times when others might not have caught on to a side dig. I also love how welcoming People Light’s staff are. Not even with me but with others.  

One of the highlights that People’s Light has the new Smart Caption Glasses. Smart Caption Glasses provide customizable in-line captioning of the play’s text within smart glasses. This is a great partnership with the Institute on Disabilities at Temple University and the National Theatre of Great Britain. People’s Light is the only theatre in United States to have this amazing technology bringing theatre to all audiences and meeting the needs of the patrons at the same time. 

You can get your tickets by going to www.peopleslight.org

Remember there are tickets available as group sales, dinner and a show sale, brunch and matinee sales, after show actor talks, etc.

People’s Light is a theatre that cares about its patrons and I love being in their presence. Thank you, People’s Light, for having me. Thank you, Carrie Gorn, as well. I can’t wait for the next production.

 

Harrietts Book Store

 People say that book stores are no longer necessary due to eBooks, E-readers, etc. Content a lot of it anyway can be found online. I beg to differ. I was told the same thing when I started blogging. I was told it was a completely saturated field and people only wanted to influence aka be online and take pictures. Thank goodness Jeannine didn’t listen the naysayers.

Comfort place

Bookstores are my number one place that I personally go to get centered, get some quiet, have peace, sometimes create, and to unwind from stress. Its always been my number one go to growing up. If I said I needed to go to my retreat a lot of close family and friends knew I was headed to the bookstore where I would spend literally hours just escaping and having the time of my life. I have always been an avid reader. I was in my car and I saw a post about Harriett’s Bookstore. I was shocked. There was a new and even Black woman owned bookstore in Philadelphia and I wasn’t aware of it? The sheer excitement came over me. I immediately contacted Jeannine so I could come and interview her and check out the space.

My firsts impression was that it’s a beautifully aesthetic. The vibe is absolutely perfect. Jeannine greeted me with a smile, incense burning, quiet, and breathtaking. I felt at home, loved, and honored just to walk into the store. When I tell you how much peace is felt I can’t describe it. Its like being at a family member’s home who you trust who also makes the best comfort food. What I love about it is you are surrounded by books and artist who are women. Women who may or may not have a large following but are dedicated to their craft. Jeannine wanted to give space to the underdogs. One of the best ways you can support women is by giving them space to be the artist that they are. Support by buying their pieces.  Support by rallying behind them and that is exactly what Jeannine is doing.

Why Harrietts?!

I asked her why the name Harriett. She let me know that she spells the traditional Harriet with two T’s. It is to honor Harriet Tubman. As a child she felt drawn to her spirit.  When she was younger her and her sisters did a resurrection of the ancestors as a piece and she choose Harriet Tubman. Jeannine is an educator as well as a writer and a creative. She wrote a piece from the perspective of what Harriet Tubman would be saying if she was whispering in her ear, “It’s me they follow, it’s me they follow.” This piece also was taken, and an artist made it into an interpretive dance almost 10 years ago. Harriet Tubman took Courage in stepping out and helping to free slaves and Jeannine is using the same courage to step out and do what others said she couldn’t, open a book store and make it a community hub.

She recalls writing an email to her sister complaining about this idea of a book store and her sister resent her an email that she had sent with the same complaint. It was like a gut punch to the chest. Here she was in the same space with this burning idea and she had not brought it to fruition. Ideas never die. They simply wait for you to breath life into them. Jeannine knew what she had to do but how could she remain fiscally responsible being a single mother and leap into her dream? “Once you commit to a dream nothing can stop it” and that’s what Jeannine did.

Local artist Ivy the Vine

Courage

We see the things that Harriet Tubman did. Did that mean she did them without fear? No. Courage is walking in the face of fear knowing that you are prepared to do whatever it takes to see something through. Interesting enough Jeannine mother is blind. She grew up in times where her mother would either have limited sight or no sight at all yet in still, she traveled the world and took care of others. Do you not see the strength that Jeannine comes from? Oh, and if that isn’t enough to just channel the spirit of Harriet, Jeannine’s mother parent name was Courage. It all ties into who she is and what she is becoming. That sent chills up my spine and let me tell you why. When you walk in your purpose, things will align just like that even if a hurdle or two comes up. The ancestors are walking with Jeannine. There is no bigger figure in history that exudes courage like Harriet. She could have saved a few and no one would have judged her, but she took this courage knowing it could cost her life and she trekked on. 

One of the most important things that has carried Jeannine is discernment. She has it and it helped her along the way. Its been principle when people even in love told her that this was a silly idea. Silly in theory to go against practicability vs responsibility. To start something that others deemed would be a lost in profit along the way, yet she sold out of books just from opening her doors and hasn’t even had the Grand Opening which is scheduled for February 1st. Her goals are to not only have a book store but to be a community hub. She has made sure she puts a dog treat bowl out. Makes sure its always warm and welcoming. She’s even working with Swarthmore to have teachers come and set up a children’s room so that young kids can experience an open the conversation about activism and community involvement early on.  

Crossing the list

Jeannine was super nervous about crossing this milestone that was year in the making. From taking this idea from inception, complaint and sitting it down to picking it back up and turning it into what is Harrietts. 

If we could learn something from Jeannine is that not all ideas are safe. Stepping out in courage like Harriet Tubman doesevoke the love of courage-while supporting women activist and authors as they continue their own journey of success is going to keep Harrietts here for quite some time.

Harrietts is open daily from 10-6:00pm. How we can support is come in and purchase a new book from amazing authors. Support by taking space here and coming in droves to bring others in.

Thank you Jeannine and I appreciate your extensive collection-I also made my own purchase Toni Morrison’s Home! I plan to finish this as I travel at the end of the month.

Feel free to also come and be at the Grand Opening on February 1, 2020!

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Monday Motivation: Blue Monday

Today is blue Monday. It represents the fact that today is the MOST depressing day of the year. Now if you grew up in the church like I did you aren’t allowed or shouldn’t speak “things into existence.” To speak about the most depressing day of the year means that you are speaking or willing it to be so. That is not the case. We are going to acknowledge it because it is a real issue that many can’t simply pray away. The factors that went into the study of Blue Monday deals with financial, motivation, and weather. Winter is and will always be associated with seasonal depression. The cold and gloom of the season attributes to it. So no we aren’t willing something that many face. We are actively speaking on it.

Disappointment of it all

The disappointment of having those around you not think enough of depression to be a valuable discussion can hurt. You want the people close to you to see YOU. It’s hurtful when they don’t. Why are they saying things like, “you’re trippin!” “Get over it!” Sometimes because to acknowledge your issues is to acknowledge their own. However you are going to have to get to a point where you take your own personal journey of depression into your own hands. Can you survive another person’s inability to see your depression and also find ways to combat it? Absolutely you can without the love and support of those you love. It’s hard. I have been in that place. But I do know that me having more days of less depressive moods or having the necessary tools to fight when a depressive mood comes is more important than faking it for a crowd. 

Image Check

Also let’s talk about when people tell you or you feel like you are disappointing this image they have of you. This representative that we use on a daily can be great. For instance I am a blogger who seems to be in the in crowd in the city. And nothing about that is false except where I post pretty pictures I equally talk about the fact of when I am having issues behind the lens. Some of your favorites wouldn’t because they are afraid of what others would think. I think for me I have had the closest folks near me betray me in ways I wouldn’t have thought that what strangers think doesn’t seem to matter. End of the day I share because as human we share like experiences. There is a woman like myself telling herself that because she deals with depression she’s not good enough to be loved. That is a lie by the way. You are loved and loveable. You are strong even in the lowest of an episodic depressive mood. We are complex and to smile through pain without checking into yourself to work through it will set you up in the long run. We aren’t poster board. Even if we were I want someone to see relatability in me not because I am pushing a product or experience. I want them to lay down on their pillows with more days of peace than anguish because this lie of what we put out doesn’t match our soul’s desire and issues that have to be worked out daily. 

Depression isn’t weakness

I will forever say this. I say this not just because I too fight with it, but because its true forever. It takes a lot of guts to stand in a place and say I need help. It takes a lot of loving yourself or wanting more for yourself to take the initial step of calling on professionals to help. You have to do what you have to do. Being better and going through personal healing will depend on your ability to stand up for yourself and make life better. There is no magic fix with depression. I know that a lot television and movies show people laying on couches of therapist and coming out happier than when they went. That is a lie if there ever was. Sometimes it’s so draining I have had to go to sleep. I have been angry or sad after leaving. It’s hard to pour your soul and think that this instant happiness and smiles will appear. You are setting yourself up for failure. One time I left therapy and sat in the car of the parking lot for an hour just staring into space trying to take in what happened in the actual session. 

So on today’s Monday Motivation let’s talk about depression. Let’s talk about it looking really dressed up and happy on the outside but with sadness on the inside. Let’s talk about the loneliness that it feels as if you are the ONLY one going through it. Let’s also talk candidly that like you and like me we are all connected. We don’t have to not talk in order to deflect. It’s more support out here than you think. How about the fact that we can be ourselves and take breaks when we need them. We are complex and beautiful humans.

There are options

Talk to someone if you need it! I have several that I reach out more in the winter months than any other time. It doesn’t take a big crowd just a few or even one person you love. Write it out so that if you make the decision to see a therapist you know where to start. I have taken my journal to show how I think when I and deep into a depressive mood. Get encouraged. Know that you aren’t alone. Even if you need medication to help you aren’t a failure. I have said many times about needing medication when I was in the middle of postpartum and how those around me either told others I wouldn’t have even told or they acted as if I was on “white people” stuff because I wanted to be better. Getting help in the Black community is like playing Russian roulette. Change the conversation. Getting help is about self-preservation only. In order for me to be truly happy I have to be willing to get the help that I need. 

Reshuffle your goals today! What are the most important things to you. One step even if it’s not giving you a result is still a step in the right direction. Be realistic; Rome wasn’t built in a day! Be kind to yourself! Give yourself the grace you extend to others!

Solidarity

I stand with those who are going through this. Those who aren’t be someone’s light today and every day. Instead of speaking out on things you don’t know, get educated. You can be someone’s stumbling block because you speak from a place of ignorance or arrogance. Choose to be someone that someone else can confide in instead of someone where they have to walk light around.