Moments of Frustration Day

Today is Moments of Frustration Day. We all have gotten frustrated or upset over something. The key is to not allow this temporary moment allow you to make permanent decisions. This means in your frustration where you are more inclined to speak out of turn, practice the art of dealing with your issues before you spew things onto others. The fallout could be more than you wanted to take on.

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Let me give you an example, a husband and wife have situation where life throws a curveball.  They are upset and frustrated. Instead of being mad and finding a solution or taking a temporary step back, they say things to one another that damage each other. They do this so often that one or both may think it was no big deal. Little do they know that one of them has reached their breaking point. So now they aren’t interesting in reconciling as if nothing happened. They aren’t willing to move past the words this time and now their marriage is in a long-term mess. Our words have life and death attached to them.

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Moment of frustration can happen over anything. It doesn’t have to be a person. It could a circumstance as well. Do not allow yourself to take that leap into negativity where you find yourself unable to get out. I know life is hard. I have had too many times when things have happened where some of the issues were out of my control and some  were a direct correlation of what I had put out into the universe. End of day, how you respond to it matters. You can’t always make an excuse and hope for forgiveness when you speak out of context or out of character. You may not always get that back in return. You can attempt to take a mental time out. This may mean walking away and addressing something later on when you have had time to cool down. This is necessary at times. Remember when you were a kid for those who had time outs?  Those were times to teach you to cool off and think about the situation at hand. Adults need them too. You need to keep your cool and not do something that can cause mental, emotional, or physical harm to themselves or others around you. Think in the moments of frustration if you would be okay after you have calmed down with the outcome of your decision.  If no, then stop! Don’t keep talking. Don’t keep pushing. Don’t keep the same response that will dig you further and further into potential trouble.

If you find that in moments of frustration you have crossed the line, ask for forgiveness. Find ways to eliminate the crossing of the line to begin with. For instance if something is being said or done that is triggering me, I am more prone to ask for a few minutes. I am an arguer by nature. However some arguments and hitting below the belt I find is not worth the pain and the apologies later. So I work on what I need in those active moments.  I hope you can do the same.

 

Leave the kids out of it

So it’s no surprise that this world is cruel.  As adults and now some of these grown behind teenagers seem to “pop” off at any given time.  There has always been an unstated rule that you don’t come for children.  I could care less what you feel about a child they are off limit.  Even in the most heated debates talking about a child is the quickest way to make that conversation go left.

Kids don’t have anything to do with adult mess. You don’t have to even like how an adult chooses to raise a child but to say the meanest, ugliest things to and about a child may get you a two piece and I’m not talking about fast food.  Just stop.  I don’t care if you are family, friend or an enemy leave kids out of your raggedy mouths.  This week Ilie Nastase found out the hard way.  Even if you are the most racist prick and proud to be you don’t get to talk about someone’s unborn child.  That is taking things WAY too far.  I blame the Nastases of the world.  We co-sign some of the most down right wrong behavior.  We go into comment sections of stories and leave the most unearthing things.  We have no filter.  We “come” for folks all the time but best believe if you step out of line and act like a habitual line stepper in my Charlie Murphy voice over a child and especially mine I am done.  The reason being is that you will do and say anything if children aren’t sacred. You can’t be trusted and I can’t trust my response to your foolishness.  Leave folks and their kids alone.

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Like my mom always said don’t say what you wouldn’t want said to you and yours.  It’s that simple. I know a lot of folks that dish out a lot but can’t take it.  You better be sure which rock you stand on if you talk about somebody’s kids.  I can’t change what you think or what you say but you can best believe we won’t be breaking bread talking about kids. Even if I hear you talking about someone else’s kids that’s a problem.  Have some respect. Nastase is a 70-year-old fool.  Nothing worst about a fool than an old fool.  You should have way more class than to be talking out of turn about a child.  However what I am learning is that just because of your age it doesn’t give ANYONE a right to be that gutter.  Your age doesn’t automatically earn you respect but how you treat others matters.  I have seen more old fools that think they can use title and relationship to be disrespectful. I had someone in my life make a comment about my kids in my presence and my husband and I haven’t been in their presence nor have we entertained them a second more.  That is a no-no.  Nastase and any other raggedy adult that acts like this should be shame.  But guess what they won’t.  Some folks don’t get it until someone steps out of line and talk about and down to their precious little one.  I still believe karma is a beast and I hope for the sake of Nastase that an apology is made and is sincere.  Karma gon come and give you what you serve-believe that!

By the way congrats again to Serena Williams who is out here killing the game while even being pregnant.  That in itself shows the strength that she has physically but to address Ilie in such a classy way kudos to you.  Ilie and all the others like you, grow the hell up.