Women History Month: Kim Hicks

Failure is going to happen at different parts of your life. Sometimes we prolong the lesson because we remain stuck in a place we had all the signs pointing at us telling us to leave. We have to be able and be willing to get out-of-the-way so we can get to the place we are called to be. Its hard. Sometimes you can move quickly and not have an ounce of emotion attached. Sometimes due to emotions and feelings we have to be forced to move. This is painful but every successful woman knows that after pain can come the best rewards. Kim Hicks is familiar with what it means to hold on too long. She shares her story as well as what she is building for her future.

What is one failure you are comfortable sharing that taught you the most lessons?

I can’t say there was any one failure. What I have learned is that all of my “mistakes” or decisions have shaped every twist and turn that I have made. Although at that moment experiencing each one of those, it seemed, ill-advised decisions, whether it was giving up on myself too quickly or staying somewhere I had outgrown, I know that each of those things gave me wisdom and knowledge that I would use to move where I was predestined and pre-ordained to be. So I would say my greatest failure was not allowing myself to be that person with those faults and flaws making those “mistakes“in that moment. My greatest failure was not loving myself in that moment making those very decisions that had adverse effects on my life at those specific times. As humans we need to love ourselves and so seldom what we give ourselves is anything and everything but that.

From that or any failure, what other lesson not mentioned in the question above have you learned?

I’ve learned that we spend so much time assuming that we are behind, that we all think we should be farther along, or that we should be somewhere, but we don’t acknowledge that we are farther along, we are all somewhere. I have learned that there is love and patience for me and for others if I acknowledge my humanity. If we just acknowledge our own humanity and how precious and unique it is we could have patience for, not only the journey that we take, but the journey that others experience at their own space and place in time

What are is the 3 things you would want to tell other younger women in regard to lessons learned?

Be patient with yourself, pace yourself, and make a plan. I would tell them understand that a plan created and not adhered to, because life happens is not a failure on your behalf, but instead a success. We have been taught to think that life changes with new years resolutions and weight loss challenges, and simple adages, but it’s so much more than that. Life is not experienced on a level of resolutions that we try to stick to, it is experienced by how many times we start-up again and conquer that feat. We’ve been conditioned, not just as women, but as people to think that one year will come and there will be no rain, there will be nothing, but sunshine instead of taught to experience gardening in the inclement weather, instead of being taught to plant seed so when hard times hit that rainy day, month or time we produce for a lifetime. So, I would say welcome the journey, plant seed for the rainy days, and keep good field hands among you, those who aren’t afraid to get dirty in the yard with you.

What are 3 goals for your future?

One of our goals includes the expansion of our company’s non-profit RUN Movement into different states, it is a project that is built on creating tools and institutions that help people in under-served communities build economic, educational, political, financial, entrepreneurial, spiritual, and mental/physical health tools to revitalize their communities and live best lives in the present. Our next goal is to scale our business so that in time we can employ hundreds of others, and lastly help others make their dreams come true by creating youth and young adult entrepreneurship affiliation opportunities.

If you could sit down with any woman past or present who would it be and why?

Maya Angelou. She was a wealth of wisdom. The type of wisdom she had you can’t read in a book or experience in any other way than meeting with her and being in her presence. She experienced life in so many different realms and was in so may different places I could only imagine. Her ability to tell a story with words could only be outdone by hearing those words flow from her lips.

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If you have any projects that are coming up in the future what are they?

We have several clothing and t-shirt lines debuting new designs BRANDED77 our Christian Hip-Hop line, AWOL (All Walks of Life) our inclusive brand, Madison Ave. our collaboration with one of our non-profit (RUN Movement) projects with our youth created clothing line, and Chocolate Wisdom our youth apparel line. Currently our company is working on an affiliate program helping up and coming entrepreneurs create a presence on the web by assisting them with webpage creation and a social media presence. We want to help young people, and people of color make their mark by investing in the success of an economic revolution in our communities. We are also currently working on a multi-cultural animation project called the ObserverX where we are celebrating our differences as a community and country with humor, education, and debate. This project will be huge and will be worth waiting for. We will start some of the character introductions very soon.

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Kim has several budding businesses.  Check them out:

Corner Store Nation Group,

Corner Store Nation Page

The Corner Store NYC Page

R.U.N. Movement. DIG Magazine

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What is the one thing as a woman that you feel helps or helped you make your mark in this world?

Honestly, I am unsure what it is that as a woman I think helped me make a mark. I will say that my individual experiences have helped me though and because I am a woman who is a part of who and what I am and will forever be so that cannot be separated from the mark I plan to leave in this world. Everything I am will have been a part of that legacy I plan to leave behind.

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Thank you Kim for sharing with us. I hope to work with you more in the future on any of your platforms. We learned a lot and boy oh boy do you have your hands full.  Be blessed in all of your endeavors!

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Women’s History Month: Cheryl A.

Pain will have you react in very weird ways.  You find yourself isolating yourself or cutting off relationships.  It’s necessary to find the balance in who is for you and those who aren’t. Pain can distract you from fulfilling love that you need.

What is one failure you are comfortable sharing that taught you the most lessons?

I failed as a daughter. As most of you know my mother passed away in 2004 and as the saying goes, when the elders pass, the family falls apart.  Well, that’s what happened with me.  I’ll put my disclaimer in now and state that I am solely speaking for MYSELF and MY experience only.  I can not and will not speak for anyone else.  So back to my failure.  In dealing with my mother’s death, I failed at being a daughter to my father.  Yes I lost my mom, but my dad lost his wife.  As I look back, I realize I let my immature, unforgiveness and pain take over and to be honest, cut my dad out of my life.  For what reason, well, I really don’t have one.  So this is why I say I failed as a daughter.  I wasn’t who I was supposed to be to my father and let years go by without any communication.  I even got married without my father walking me down the aisle or even in the building! Now, that I have to live with.  No one is perfect and parenting doesn’t come with a guide.  So regardless of what failures my dad had, he was and will always be my father.  Now, I don’t have any horror stories and I WILL NOT cast my dad in a bad light because that would be a lie.  So like I said, I went on about my life after my mom passed as if my father didn’t exist, leaving him to grieve alone for years to come.  How sad and horrible is that? How do you call yourself a Christian when you aren’t doing right in other areas of your life? Then wondering why other things in your life aren’t lining up and there are no breakthroughs, elevation or real peace.  Yeah that was me and I can be honest and open and tell my truth.  So what is that status of my relationship with my dad now?  We are GREAT! It took a random encounter to bring me to my dad again and since then we were able to pick up like nothing ever happened.  My dad and I are both different people now and we both have forgiven and moved on.  It’s great to go back to being Daddy’s Little Girl (I”m the youngest girl)! Now only if I can get him to move to Miami with me! 

It’s refreshing to hear your vulnerability in how you describe your relationship with your dad.  You only get one set of parents and to be able to make amends now so you can make the best of an amazing relationship.

From the failure with your dad, what other lesson have you learned?

Don’t let your emotions control your decisions.  When you make decisions off your emotions, often times it is the wrong decisions and you are left dealing with the consequences that may take years to recover from.  Live in peace.  Meaning, do whatever you need to do to have complete peace in your life.  Whether it’s forgiveness, restore relationships or even end relationships, do what you need to do to have, protect and keep your peace.

What are is the 3 things you would want to tell other younger woman in regards to lessons learned?

  •  Cherish your parents (or whoever raised you), spend time with them, call them, create   memories

  •  Speak up.  Be honest about your feelings and thoughts.  Communication is key.

  •  Be Sensitive.  Parents go through things they would never discuss with their children.  Parents have feelings and emotions just like we do.

 

What are 3 goals for your future?

 Buy a house

Own my own Bakery

Own Rental Properties

If you could sit down with any woman past or present who would it be and why?

My mother of course! I always wondered what our relationship would be like now if she was still here! She was a woman full of wisdom and grace and I definitely could use some of both right now! Navigating life as an adult without your mother really sucks! There are times I want to pick up the phone and call for that good ole’ motherly advise, but then reality sets in…no more calls!

IF you have any projects  that are coming up in the future what are they?

I’m focused on building up my business, Miss.Sis.Bakery (Sis was my mother’s nickname).  I’ve been networking and trying to get my business out there through being a vendor at various events and local markets.  I’m located in North Miami, I’m a regular vendor at Gulf Stream Green Market on Sundays from 9-2 until May 26 and have various scheduled events on other dates.

What is the one thing as a woman, you feel helps or helped you make your mark in this world?

 I have always been a woman to stay true to myself.  I’m a woman of my word.  I’m not easily influenced or swayed to go along with the masses.  Too often, especially in this day and age, its hard to find people who you can truly trust and have your best interest at heart.   Therefore, I try to be what I am looking for or in need of.

Thank you so much for speaking authentically and I hope that this will help in your continued healing.

For all of those who may be experiencing the lost of a loved one, know that my heart is with you.  Know that you should remember that others surrounding the deceased processes death in different ways.  Try to be there for one another.  Don’t let pain and emotions run your life.

You can find Miss.Sis.Bakery on Facebook

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Women History Month: Tameeka W. and Kenisha W.C.

Being in business for yourself is really the way to go.  You can be your own boss, set your own goals, and manage your life better than having to work for someone else. One of the greatest things about being in business is that everyone always sees the finished products. They never pay attention to the time where you missed family time, you don’t get paperwork correct, the blood sweat and tears, etc. It takes dedication to accomplish goals. With that being said, let’s talk to Tameeka W.; CEO of Right Way Home Care Services  and  Kenisha W.C; COO as they are opening up their own home care business.  I know that for me one of the greatest challenges can be having to find someone to assist in the caring of your loved one when they aren’t able do to do so. When my mother in law couldn’t care for herself the biggest issue was in how to maintain working, and being there for her everyday needs. We had to make the unfortunate decision to move her out of her home because we weren’t familiar with home care services that could have been available to assist. Thanks to Right Way Home Care Services another family will have the peace of mind that we didn’t.

What was your reason with opening Home Care Business?

We wanted to start the Home Care Business because of our personal and employment experiences. We both have a passion for helping people.

I (Tameeka) was a care giver during college before obtaining my Bachelor’s Degree in Social Work. My mother in law has Home Care that comes to her home and assist her with her needs. Watching the other companies and how they operated I decided to open my own business. My goal is to operate differently from the other companies that have been working with my family. This is when I introduced the Home Care business to my sister Keneisha who is a CNA to be and my business partner.

Keneisha has been a caregiver since she was 17 years old. When I introduced the idea of opening up a Home Care Agency she was excited and on board. With her experience as a CNA and my Social Work background I knew this would be a successful venture.

Have there been any failures with opening up a business or any failures that opened the door to success that you want to highlight?

One difficult time that we had with starting our business is obtaining our license. The first time we sent it out it was returned with more items needed. We had to do more research and get assistance from our consultant to send out the correction information. After further assistance, research, and hard work we were able to obtain our license.

Anyone who has ever had to be licensed or is thinking about being licensed should know there are strict guidelines in what is and what’s not accepted. So if you can get someone in the business that can assist you into making thing run smoothly for yourself.

What is the one thing you want to tell your younger self?

One thing that we would tell our younger self is to stay true to yourself. A woman should never let anyone distract them from achieving their goals. Everyone is not going to have your best interest at heart, but you have to persevere through the adversity to be successful.

Knowing who is in your corner and who isn’t important.  It’s one of the hardest lessons because everyone who has had longevity with you doesn’t mean they always make the final cut in your life. Be careful in making sure you can clearly see someone and listen to those around you.

How can women be champions through mistakes?

Women can be champions through their mistakes by learning from them. Women should understand that one mistake does not define them. They can either let that mistake break them or make them. It is important to sit back and evaluate the mistake and set goals to grow from the mistake. There is always room to be successful we just have to be motivated and work hard for the success.

Tell us in detail all we need to know about your business.

Right Way Home Care provides Non-Medical Home Care Services. The services that we provide but are not limited are personal care (bathing, dressing), ADL’s, Light House Keeping, Transportation to Medical Appointments or the Grocery Store, Medication Reminders, and Respite Care.

What are 3 goals you are actively working on and how will you achieve them?

The three goals that we are working on are introducing Right Way Home Care to the community, Becoming experts in the business, and obtaining consumers. We will achieve these goals by introducing the business at our event. We will be having a Grand Opening Celebration on May 18th. After the Grand Opening we will be open for service. We will attend conference and trainings to help us become experts in our business. Last, to achieve the third goal we will be doing marketing on Social Medial, in nursing facilities, hospitals, adult day care, and other locations.

 

Follow them on Facebook to obtain more information for the grand opening

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Right Way Home Care is located in Lancaster, PA

Their website is Right Way Home Care

You can follow them on Facebook

You can also find them on Instagram

Continued blessings to you both as you enter this new chapter of your lives. I pray that when someone needs assistance for their loved ones that they give you that call. There is honor in caring for those who have cared for so many of us all of their lives. I wish you both nothing but success.

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Tameeka Way, CEO of Right Way Home Care Services

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Kenisha Wright-Carter, COO of Right Way Home Care Services

Women’s History Month: Zulma M.

How someone treats you matters. It sets the tone for respect or disrespect. Often times we get upset but there are times we need to look in the mirror. How we respond to the treatment says continue or stop. If we are honest not being direct is usually the culprit. We are still talking about failures and sometimes the failure to not allow others to dictate out lives needs checked.

What is one failure you are comfortable sharing that taught you the most lessons?

One of the many failures that I will have to say that has taught me and continues to teach me is allowing others to dictate or control me.

Again the concept that in order to appear respectful its best to keep quiet or not to rock the boat. That is a misread. You have to be able to speak up and mean what you say but you don’t have to be mean when you say it.

From that failure, what other lesson have you learned?

The lesson it taught me is that I have a voice and I am light and once I saw that and owned that no one could tell me otherwise.  I have allowed the opinions of others dictate how I was to live, to behave, dress and how I was to be all around.  I would have rather pleased them and allow myself to fall into a sunken place because I wanted to be accepted and loved, but deep-down resenting myself.

As I stated I learned to love myself, to accept myself and work on changing me for me not anyone else.  I have learned that I am different and that is okay that is actually great, I learned that my voice matters, maybe not to anyone else, but it matters to me.

Wanting approval is one thing. Wanting approval above our own voice is not okay. You can love you and make others around you align themselves accordingly.

What are is the 3 things you would want to tell other younger woman in regard to lessons learned?

Learn to love yourself…it will be challenging at first, but it is sooo freeing.

Do not allow the things programmed in your mind dictate who you are.  So often we are subjected to the thoughts and beliefs of our parents, teachers, friends and loved ones and it is a battle of who we truly are.  What I will tell you is research, allow your heart to lead you.  We have all the answers within us, but are you open enough to hear.

Pursue your dreams – there is no limit to what you can do.  Whatever you feel in your heart do it.

We can take on the things that we are taught and add or subtract from it what we need to be the adults that we need to be. It’s okay to go against the grain especially if it will yield a happy, confident and well-loved woman in its place.

What are 3 goals for your future?

To complete 2 certifications – Neuroscience certification and my Life Coaching Certification

Release weight – physically, emotionally and mentally

Travel – I want to travel the world and be an international motivational speaker

If you could sit down with any woman past or present who would it be and why?

I would have to say -Harriet Tubman – she was(is) a hero (Shero) – the fact that she was a slave she did not have no support, but she found a way to escape and not only free herself, but she came back and saved others too.   She was selfless and I would love to hear how she overcame the obstacles, the hardship what drove her to do the things she did etc.

Harriet Tubman definitely was one strong woman to do the very thing of helping slaves escape knowing she could be put to death.  We won’t step out and blog, be a creator, or go after that job and our lives aren’t even on the line. Don’t hesitate to step out in life and do things for others as well as yourself.  You got this!

 

IF you have any projects that are coming up in the future, what are they?

I am going to be hosting a workshop for women in late spring early summer. Planning to host a part 2 Vision Board Event as well.

Zulma is also on the Marketing Team for TCP I have not doubts that anything you start you will finsih

What is the one thing as a woman that you feel helps or helped you make your mark in this world?

Learning to be me and accepting me for who I am and the fact that I desire to exude Love to everyone, even those that do me wrong.  Staying positive as often as I can and remember to.   I have learned that what you put out into the Universe it will return to you.  So I choose to remain positive through adversity, give love at all times.

Thank you Zulma for participating and we wish you much success as you continue to live life on your terms and branch out!

You can find Zulma on Facebook or Instagram

Women History Month: Deja E.

This year we are talking about failure.  Why? We all experience it but rarely talk about it. Yet failure is the one catalyst that often brings success. It doesn’t mean that you HAVE to fail to succeed but in life if you think you won’t ever fail towards success you have a lot of life to reach it. I remember being in freshman year and failing a math test and how devastated. I was used to getting all A’s. I needed that fall from grace to help me not take college life for granted and get focused. I ended have to really work my butt off but I still graduated and that failure wasn’t on my record because I had to retake the class and get it right.  Now fast forward to stubbornness.  That in itself can be a lesson. Women have all had at least one or more failures in life. If you’re like me you have way more than you can ever count.  However if we are to carve a slice of life in this world and continue to make history in this world, failure is a by-product.

Failure to listen to your body will either make you sicker or take time off of your life. Deja learned how not taking head to the doctors and your body will put a pause in your life that you can avoid.

What is one failure you are comfortable sharing that taught you the most lessons?

Procrastinating on my temporal lobectomy. In 2006, I began having uncontrollable seizures and was diagnosed with epilepsy. After seeing numerous specialists, it was recommended that I have my temporal lobe removed. I was scared and prayed for other solutions. As my quality of life deteriorated, I began to realize that pushing the surgery off was worse than undergoing surgery. In 2014, I did it! And my seizures ended.

I can’t imagine fully what it was like going through seizures. I also can’t imagine being told to have such an intensive surgery either. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is the very thing that you need. If it hadn’t been for that surgery who knows what your quality of life would have been.  Yes procrastination is a failure because in that you fail to make a move it usually has a domino effect.

From that or any failure, what other lesson have you learned?

YOLO… you only live once
Dont risk losing time out of stubbornness

YOLO or you only live once means just like it sounds. Living requires stepping out of your comfort zone to carve the life you really want to live.  It doesn’t mean you can yell YOLO and life is perfect. Far from it.  However if you learn to apply that mentality you stop worrying about taking a chance on things especially yourself.

What are is the 3 things you would want to tell other younger woman in regards to lessons learned?

Trust your intuition… it doesn’t lie
Dont compare- this is your life, live it how u want to, not based on someone else’s
Take care of yourself- life can change in a blink of an eye, make sure you are on your A-Game

If you could sit down with any woman past or present who would it be and why?

Maya Angelou
Her wisdom and eloquence would have me mesmerized! She went through so many ups and downs in her lifetime, I would love to hear her story up close and personal. What an inspiration!

I would have to agree, Maya Angelou defied what life threw her way, made mistakes and then taught us all how to rise above anything. Deja you are a Maya Angelou in your own right!

IF you have any projects  that are coming up in the future what are they?

Everyday is a project
My 2019 ‘project’ is to lay a new brick everyday. Take that extra step, step outside comfort zones, and reach higher
That in itself is a project

She is being truly modest. Deja is a beast everyday eating better and working out being her best version.  She is definitely an inspiration.  When you get that second chance at life and I know all about that, take it. Live each day like you want that day to reflect your true essence.

What is the one thing as a woman that has helped or helps you make your mark in this world?

Strength!!! So often, women are perceived as weak or incompetent. Being able to prove the naysayers wrong is empowering

Thank you Deja. You are an inspiration. Don’t take your health for granted. Get your check ups.  Its important. Health is wealth.  Without being healthy you can’t do much else. Who would want to live like that? Certainly not me and you don’t want to either. I know sometimes we think that because we are afraid of what we will find that its better to not know. What you don’t know will kill you.  What you know and fail to take care of will kill you too. Take care of you. Women fail everyday but one thing is we don’t have the time to stay there. Get up, brush yourself up, and succeed.

Women’s History Month Preview

Here at ToiTime we always celebrate women. However we always turn it up just a little for the month of March. March is women’s history month. Women really do run the world. Our contribution to this world can’t be contained. So this month we have like in past years, a lot of women who stepped up to the plate for the women history blogs. They will share their stories of triumph and success as they continue to make waves in the world and in their personal lives.  I am super grateful for the women who aren’t afraid to speak up in a world where everyone has a opinion on what they think they should be or act.

Women are the givers of life. We work. We stay home. We run businesses. We do it all. So there is no way we can limit what a woman is or what she does.  A woman is everything that this world needs.

During this month we will highlight some awesome women who aren’t perfect but are attempting to make their own marks by pushing through adversity. I love that when I make the call, women aren’t afraid to answer the call to their stories. It takes a level of transparency to put your story out to others. But there is so many lessons that we can all learn from it. I hope you enjoy as we dive in. Many stories will be told, some new and some old.

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What I would hope that we as women become stronger as a unit. I know its impossible to like everyone we come in contact but we can still wish other women well. Let me give you an example, one of my friends needed a daycare, I gave them a name of one who I thought was excellent even though I personally don’t see eye to eye with that woman. I never went into detail because as a business woman whose daycare provider is one of the best in the city, that child would have thrived there. I would never stop another woman’s coins over a personal dispute.  That is how we should all flow. Learn to set aside differences and make our way to support and uplift other women. If you don’t like someone that’s fine just don’t be apart of campaign to get a group of other women to dislike a person. That is the self growth that I have been on lately. Women need to surround each other as much love as we can. A lot of the things that we go through are one in the same!

Women History Month: Everyday….We Stand Strong

Women aren’t to be celebrated only during the month of March.  They should be celebrated everyday.  We are the giver of life.  We hold things down.  We are strong. We are beautiful and complex. We are love in its best form here on Earth.  For that you don’t limit such celebrations to only one month.

Ladies celebrate yourselves daily.  I have been saying this and I mean no matter what degrees you have and what accolades you get, if you do not take care of yourself you are no good to anyone around you.  You will wear yourself thin operating from an empty cup.  Keep your wits about you. Say no to things when you can’t add another thing to your long to-do list.  You are not a yes woman.  It’s okay to let a few text messages go unanswered.  It’s okay to let a few calls and emails wait.  You are doing yourself a disservice if you feel you have to be ON all the time.  Take a bubble bath, take a 10 minute break, whatever you need practice some level of self-care daily. Yes there will be times when money is tight.  I haven’t always been able to sit at an expensive spa but I sure now how to turn a trip to the Dollar Store, Wal-Mart or Target and turn my entire bathroom into a spa for one while my kids slept to recharge.  I have had times when I turned into my own beautician and did what I had to do.  There are hard times.  Sometimes when your world feels like it’s crashing it gets difficult to look within.  However if you don’t everything around you will attempt to take you over. Say yes to you.

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Go after that degree that you have been putting off. It’s okay for you to be well-rounded. Will it be easy?  Absolutely not.  We get so excited when we read stories of women who are seasoned and still going after their educational goals.  Yes you could be the oldest in the room, but your degree will hang just like the young 20 something.  Go after it! Will it be hard as you strive towards that new career?  Possibly.  Imagine going to interview after interview only to be told no.  You invested, exerted time and energy only to feel like every door you touch is closing. Keep on going!

What about the woman who doesn’t want to have children?  The pressure for women to be life givers is crazy.  There are some women happy and content single or married not to have children.  What about the women who in our stories for this month lost a baby at 20 weeks.  I need you to understand that is devastating because at this point you are well showing, you have told people and on top of that you know the sex of the baby.  People are hurting all around us.  We are women have the power to really affect change in ourselves and our communities that goes past a #metoo movement.  We can make things easier for the women around us by what we accept, give our voices to, or stand up for.  Be wise.

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You are strong. You are beautiful.  You are confident and a force to be reckoned with! Celebrate yourselves and all that you have done in your life.  The good.  The bad. The ugly. The failures. The insecure moments.  The embarrassing moments.  The moments of regret. The moments you felt inadequate.  All of your messy moments. All of you for all of you and all of those crazy moments are going to push you to your best moments if you are open to it!