This year we are talking about failure. Why? We all experience it but rarely talk about it. Yet failure is the one catalyst that often brings success. It doesn’t mean that you HAVE to fail to succeed but in life if you think you won’t ever fail towards success you have a lot of life to reach it. I remember being in freshman year and failing a math test and how devastated. I was used to getting all A’s. I needed that fall from grace to help me not take college life for granted and get focused. I ended have to really work my butt off but I still graduated and that failure wasn’t on my record because I had to retake the class and get it right. Now fast forward to stubbornness. That in itself can be a lesson. Women have all had at least one or more failures in life. If you’re like me you have way more than you can ever count. However if we are to carve a slice of life in this world and continue to make history in this world, failure is a by-product.
Failure to listen to your body will either make you sicker or take time off of your life. Deja learned how not taking head to the doctors and your body will put a pause in your life that you can avoid.
What is one failure you are comfortable sharing that taught you the most lessons?
Procrastinating on my temporal lobectomy. In 2006, I began having uncontrollable seizures and was diagnosed with epilepsy. After seeing numerous specialists, it was recommended that I have my temporal lobe removed. I was scared and prayed for other solutions. As my quality of life deteriorated, I began to realize that pushing the surgery off was worse than undergoing surgery. In 2014, I did it! And my seizures ended.
I can’t imagine fully what it was like going through seizures. I also can’t imagine being told to have such an intensive surgery either. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is the very thing that you need. If it hadn’t been for that surgery who knows what your quality of life would have been. Yes procrastination is a failure because in that you fail to make a move it usually has a domino effect.
From that or any failure, what other lesson have you learned?
YOLO… you only live once
Dont risk losing time out of stubbornness
YOLO or you only live once means just like it sounds. Living requires stepping out of your comfort zone to carve the life you really want to live. It doesn’t mean you can yell YOLO and life is perfect. Far from it. However if you learn to apply that mentality you stop worrying about taking a chance on things especially yourself.
What are is the 3 things you would want to tell other younger woman in regards to lessons learned?
Trust your intuition… it doesn’t lie
Dont compare- this is your life, live it how u want to, not based on someone else’s
Take care of yourself- life can change in a blink of an eye, make sure you are on your A-Game
If you could sit down with any woman past or present who would it be and why?
Her wisdom and eloquence would have me mesmerized! She went through so many ups and downs in her lifetime, I would love to hear her story up close and personal. What an inspiration!
I would have to agree, Maya Angelou defied what life threw her way, made mistakes and then taught us all how to rise above anything. Deja you are a Maya Angelou in your own right!
IF you have any projects that are coming up in the future what are they?
Everyday is a project
My 2019 ‘project’ is to lay a new brick everyday. Take that extra step, step outside comfort zones, and reach higher
That in itself is a project
She is being truly modest. Deja is a beast everyday eating better and working out being her best version. She is definitely an inspiration. When you get that second chance at life and I know all about that, take it. Live each day like you want that day to reflect your true essence.
What is the one thing as a woman that has helped or helps you make your mark in this world?
Strength!!! So often, women are perceived as weak or incompetent. Being able to prove the naysayers wrong is empowering
Thank you Deja. You are an inspiration. Don’t take your health for granted. Get your check ups. Its important. Health is wealth. Without being healthy you can’t do much else. Who would want to live like that? Certainly not me and you don’t want to either. I know sometimes we think that because we are afraid of what we will find that its better to not know. What you don’t know will kill you. What you know and fail to take care of will kill you too. Take care of you. Women fail everyday but one thing is we don’t have the time to stay there. Get up, brush yourself up, and succeed.