How someone treats you matters. It sets the tone for respect or disrespect. Often times we get upset but there are times we need to look in the mirror. How we respond to the treatment says continue or stop. If we are honest not being direct is usually the culprit. We are still talking about failures and sometimes the failure to not allow others to dictate out lives needs checked.
What is one failure you are comfortable sharing that taught you the most lessons?
One of the many failures that I will have to say that has taught me and continues to teach me is allowing others to dictate or control me.
Again the concept that in order to appear respectful its best to keep quiet or not to rock the boat. That is a misread. You have to be able to speak up and mean what you say but you don’t have to be mean when you say it.
From that failure, what other lesson have you learned?
The lesson it taught me is that I have a voice and I am light and once I saw that and owned that no one could tell me otherwise. I have allowed the opinions of others dictate how I was to live, to behave, dress and how I was to be all around. I would have rather pleased them and allow myself to fall into a sunken place because I wanted to be accepted and loved, but deep-down resenting myself.
As I stated I learned to love myself, to accept myself and work on changing me for me not anyone else. I have learned that I am different and that is okay that is actually great, I learned that my voice matters, maybe not to anyone else, but it matters to me.
Wanting approval is one thing. Wanting approval above our own voice is not okay. You can love you and make others around you align themselves accordingly.
What are is the 3 things you would want to tell other younger woman in regard to lessons learned?
Learn to love yourself…it will be challenging at first, but it is sooo freeing.
Do not allow the things programmed in your mind dictate who you are. So often we are subjected to the thoughts and beliefs of our parents, teachers, friends and loved ones and it is a battle of who we truly are. What I will tell you is research, allow your heart to lead you. We have all the answers within us, but are you open enough to hear.
Pursue your dreams – there is no limit to what you can do. Whatever you feel in your heart do it.
We can take on the things that we are taught and add or subtract from it what we need to be the adults that we need to be. It’s okay to go against the grain especially if it will yield a happy, confident and well-loved woman in its place.
What are 3 goals for your future?
To complete 2 certifications – Neuroscience certification and my Life Coaching Certification
Release weight – physically, emotionally and mentally
Travel – I want to travel the world and be an international motivational speaker
If you could sit down with any woman past or present who would it be and why?
I would have to say -Harriet Tubman – she was(is) a hero (Shero) – the fact that she was a slave she did not have no support, but she found a way to escape and not only free herself, but she came back and saved others too. She was selfless and I would love to hear how she overcame the obstacles, the hardship what drove her to do the things she did etc.
Harriet Tubman definitely was one strong woman to do the very thing of helping slaves escape knowing she could be put to death. We won’t step out and blog, be a creator, or go after that job and our lives aren’t even on the line. Don’t hesitate to step out in life and do things for others as well as yourself. You got this!
IF you have any projects that are coming up in the future, what are they?
I am going to be hosting a workshop for women in late spring early summer. Planning to host a part 2 Vision Board Event as well.
Zulma is also on the Marketing Team for TCP I have not doubts that anything you start you will finsih
What is the one thing as a woman that you feel helps or helped you make your mark in this world?
Learning to be me and accepting me for who I am and the fact that I desire to exude Love to everyone, even those that do me wrong. Staying positive as often as I can and remember to. I have learned that what you put out into the Universe it will return to you. So I choose to remain positive through adversity, give love at all times.
Thank you Zulma for participating and we wish you much success as you continue to live life on your terms and branch out!